Hello everyone, today let's talk about a topic about family education, not that parents have to lie, but sometimes, we have to use a little "smart", Mr. Zeng Shiqiang once said: "The essence of education is to say some necessary lies at the right time." This may sound like a contradiction, but there is a profound truth to it.
Imagine that the children's world is like a blank sheet of paper, and we are their first strokes. If they always tell the truth, sometimes they may puncture their beautiful illusions about the world, for example, when they ask, "Mom, why can't you see when it's dark?" and we tell them the truth bluntly, maybe they will be afraid of the night. At this time, the phrase "because the sun is tired and needs to rest" will make them feel safe and interesting.
Master Zeng Shiqiang also emphasized: "Lies are not the same as deception, the key lies in the purpose. Sometimes, we need to let our children understand the rules and guide them with stories, such as: "If you don't eat well, be careful that the elf won't give you a magic wand." Such a lie is actually to let them understand the rules and learn self-discipline.
Of course, this does not mean that we can lie unprincipledly. We need to be in a sense of proportion, so that children grow in trust, not in doubt. When they grow up, we tell them, "In those years, we told white lies to make you understand, but now, you can find out the truth yourself." ”
Remember, our goal is to develop children who can think independently, not to create obedient ones. So, sometimes, the "lies" of parents are for guidance, for love, and for their future safety.
Parents, let us be both their guides and friends in the world of children, and use the lies of wisdom to support a clear sky for their growth. After all, education is a heart-to-heart dialogue, and sometimes, a small lie can plant a seed of truth.
Finally, let's end with a famous quote: "Education is sowing, lies are irrigation, but in the end, the flower of truth will bloom alone." "I hope that every family can find that balance so that our children can thrive in love and wisdom.
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