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Managing a relationship is very important for everyone. If both partners believe that love will never change, it will often end in disappointment. We must work hard to maintain our relationship and keep the flame of love burning so that our relationship can continue to thrive.
It is a well-known fact that love should be beautiful, but also pure and equal. We should respect and emphasize these values and strive to practice them in our relationships.
Many people yearn for a beautiful love of "two people, three meals, and four seasons", but the reality is often cruel and unforgiving. While this expectation is beautiful, it comes with all its challenges.
Nowadays, love has begun to become shallow and has become a "fast food culture", and frequent splitting and merging has become a normal phenomenon.
Many people don't suffer for too long after a breakup, but quickly move on to the next relationship. But some people will spend all their efforts to love, only to get a "sorry" in exchange, and then these people will have a great fear of love.
The reason is that the two parties have not really made each other, that is, you have not been able to conquer each other's hearts and fall in love with each other.
Many people today behave too humbly in love. Due to their excessive love for someone, they are willing to give everything and even become "licking dogs". This kind of behavior is too hard to beg for love, and it should be treated sensibly.
Just like Mo Xiaobao in "Youth Must Be Early", he loves Xixi. Although Xixi already has a boyfriend, he is still willing to protect her silently. Such a state of mind may be common around us, and it is this firm and beautiful emotion that is very moving.
Even though she was pregnant and divorced, he did not hesitate to choose to be with her. And Xixi experienced breakups, reunions, marriages, and divorces, and finally chose to be with him.
It is clear that in their relationship, Xixi does not love him, but just wants to get his gratitude by pleasing him, and feels that there is no other choice.
How long will this last, and will it last a lifetime? The answer is obvious.
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A relationship based on mutual affection is expected to be happy for a long time. The person who chooses to spend the rest of your life with you is not moved by your performance, but by your extraordinary charm and deep love.
When it comes to pursuing the object of your choice, it may have a temporary effect, but it is not likely to be a long-term solution. We should be sincere and honest in our expressions of love, and we don't need to pander too much to other people's preferences. Only in this way can a true emotional connection be established.
Show charm and seize the "heartbeat"
Only by arousing the hearts of others can the relationship last for a long time. When you show your charm, the other person will be truly attracted and willing to connect with you. This is necessary for a good relationship.
If you want to win the hearts of the opposite sex, you need to show your charm in getting along, rather than frequent overtures.
Everyone has their own criteria and ideal type. In order to capture their hearts, they need to carefully understand their interests and values, and adjust their ways according to their "heartbeats". In this way, you can show your most authentic and attractive self in front of them.
You should understand that your personality traits are not attractive to everyone. Some aspects will be appreciated, but others will cause annoyance. This is very normal because everyone has their own preferences and values. So, don't deliberately change yourself to please others, keep your true self and find people who appreciate you, which is the most important thing.
In this case, you need to learn to choose to present yourself. Avoid showing the aspects that the other person hates as much as possible, and try to show the side that the other person appreciates. This way, the other person is more likely to be attracted to you. Remember, this isn't about disguising your true personality or behaving inauthenticly, it's about trying to show the best in yourself.
For example, if you know that the other person likes romance, then you can use this "heartbeat" to create some romantic atmosphere in your daily life and make the mood between you more sweet and happy.
To keep your love relationship romantic and fun, you can consider writing love letters to your partner or giving you the occasional meaningful little gift. You can also make your home more welcoming by preparing a candlelit dinner for him/her to increase your emotional interaction. These small details will make the relationship between you deeper and more stable.
"Heroes save beauty", appear at the necessary moment
The reason why people need a partner is because of loneliness. Even with the company of relatives and friends, there is still a lack of love in this aspect. Having a partner can fill that sense of emptiness, bringing a sense of belonging and mutual trust.
In adulthood, both men and women experience a variety of emotions and needs. However, these emotions and needs often cannot be met and helped by loved ones and friends. We need to find other ways and resources to deal with these issues.
Love is different from other feelings in that it can bring us a unique sweetness and tranquility that no other relationship can match.
Like the existence of timely rain, this kind of love and care can help in the wind and rain.
If you want to win the other party's heart, you need to learn to "heroes save beauty". Show up at the right time, not follow endlessly.
Sometimes, for example, when a person fails at work or is unwell, people are very fragile psychologically, can easily break down, and need the care and help of others. This is when we need support and encouragement to help them get through it.
When you show up at critical moments and always support him, he will have a heart for you and you will be a hero in his mind.
Avoid the other person's sore spots and empathize
Attacking the mind is not only to learn to "attack", but also to learn to "retreat". You need to skillfully use the other person's interests to get the other person's heart and mind, but also avoid touching the other person's pain points, so as not to backfire. It's a skill that needs to be mastered, but once you master it, you'll be able to get better at relationships.
Everyone has their own taboos and bottom-line principles. If you touch it without knowing anything about it, your efforts will be meaningless. We must respect the bottom line of others so as not to cause irreparable consequences.
Many times, a person's sore spots are not physical, but mental and psychological. For example, the most frightening thing is being misunderstood.
If you are able to be his deepest understanding and confidant, then you are already halfway there.
When you are able to avoid touching your lover's sensitive points and go out of your way to remedy it, there will be a strong resonance between you, which is how many soulmates meet.
For example, if the other person is resistant to his or her family of origin, you should avoid touching his pain too often, or even try to regulate their family relationship, let alone be self-righteous and try to give guidance.
In this case, the best thing to do is to understand the other person and become a tree hole where you can listen to his inner voice. At the same time, you have to be a good mouthpiece to filter out the negative information and emotions. This will better support him and make him feel understood and supported, while also protecting himself.
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In the world of feelings, the pursuit of pleasing and giving are not equal. Even if you get what you want in return, this unequal pattern will continue in your relationship later in the future until you break up. We should learn to maintain balance in our relationships and not take the initiative to put ourselves in a state of dependence and subordination in order to maintain respect and equality for both parties.
Using the heart-to-heart strategy can make them fall in love with you deeply, rely on you from the heart, and confide in you from the heart.
Those haunting love stories often become classics because of a sentence, such as the promise between Mr. Yang Jiang and her husband Qian Zhongshu that "there is only death and no life and no separation".
The reason why they love each other so deeply is because the other party makes them unable to extricate themselves. This attraction made their feelings unforgettable, and they continue to this day.
Attacking the heart also requires skill, and you can't act blindly, otherwise it will backfire and make the other party feel repulsed.
You must know that mastering good skills and methods can get twice the result with half the effort, allowing you to easily capture the other person's heart. In love, adoration and appreciation of one's partner is very necessary.
Only when the other party gives their heart to you will they appreciate you with their "star eyes". It's not a wise thing to curry favor with, it's the heart that counts.