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When it comes to getting married, entering the marriage hall used to be a reverie for many men and women about the future.
Being able to find someone who likes each other, have a child, and live a happy life is simply a story in a fairy tale world, and it is now within reach of us ordinary people.
I believe that many people have a good idea of their married life, but in today's society, this situation of "choosing one person to die old" has changed.
From polygamy in feudal society to monogamy today, the mainland has gone through a long process, but in recent years, we have found that monogamous married life seems to have been hindered by something.
In the past, young people were keen to get married and fall in love, and not so many people would jump off the train in the middle of the marriage train, but in today's life, divorce has become commonplace, and the monogamous concept of marriage and love is constantly being impacted.
1. The innovation of traditional marriage
In the past, many marriages in society were arranged marriages by parents, and for them, they paid attention to the right family, paid attention to the right family, and women needed to pay attention to three obedience and four virtues.
Today's concept of marriage and love can no longer be compared with the old society, women in the past had no status in society, and today's women have no lower status in society than men.
In such a background of the times, more and more young people hope that they will reap the marriage that is united by love.
Free love, cohabitation before marriage, trial marriage before marriage, etc., many ideas that seem absurd are reflected in today's young people.
Compared with many traditional beliefs in China, these are indeed outrageous performances, but in the eyes of the new generation of young people, this is a very normal performance, which is a more responsible behavior for their marriage.
There is a big difference between the previous concept of marriage and the current concept of marriage, as long as a woman in the past marries a man, she must always follow him in this life, three from four virtues, to be filial to her in-laws, to be considerate of taking care of her children, and to serve tea and pour water for her husband.
Today's marriage is about equality, equality in everything, equality in personality, equality in married life.
In today's view of marriage and love, no one stipulates that laundry and cooking must be a woman's job, nor does it stipulate that housework is a woman's patent.
As a member of this family, whether it is a wife, a husband, or a child, you must do what you can for this family.
Nowadays, many young people do not like to enter the palace of marriage, for them, this may not be a harvest of happiness, but a bondage.
The older generation gives too many definitions of married life, making young people feel unfree.
2. The materialization of traditional marriage
Now that marriage is inseparable from materiality, there are few naked marriages among the people around.
Everyone, boy and girl, wants to find a partner who is slightly better off or has a higher income.
This is also understandable, the life of young people in life is very stressful, and there are unpaid loans, car loans, housing loans, decoration loans, Huabei, borrowing, etc.
All the pressure is placed on one person, and few people will be able to withstand it, and the material considerations for each other before falling in love and before marriage are becoming more and more stringent.
Wanting to find a "rich man" is no longer the preserve of a single girl, and many boys also have this idea.
In fact, these are understandable problems, if two people want to have a home, a house can easily cost 100W, then this 100W is a mountain that cannot be climbed for many families.
In today's married life, no one wants to live a life of repaying the loan together when they get married, and if so, they would rather choose divorce or not get married.
The material foundation has become a decisive factor in the stability of the marriage to a large extent, and it is clear that the economic situation has a direct impact on the quality of life and the relationship between the two people.
There is an ancient saying that "poor and lowly couples mourn everything", which shows that if there is no material foundation in the life of a husband and wife, then many things will not go well.
summary
With the continuous progress of society, people have completely different ideas about marriage.
In the past, women could accept a lot of bad words from their husbands and mothers-in-law for the sake of their children, and they would not choose to divorce.
Nowadays, women in the new era can also earn money to support their families and take care of their children, so many women will not choose to endure unequal treatment in marriage.
With the development of society, people are receiving more and more education, and people want to pursue a happy life is not the same, in the past, a family of three watched the sunset, which was beautiful and happy, and now people are pursuing a person and a dog to watch the sunrise.
As outsiders, we can't say which kind of life is happier because we don't really experience it.
But what is certain is that many people do not want to be trapped in a "monogamous" married life anymore, but want more freedom.
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Pen Cultivation Times2023-09-20 11:06Guangdong "These two strange phenomena are impacting "monogamy", be vigilant"
Seven meters of sunshine, 2024-04-23 10:41Shandong "These two strange phenomena are impacting "monogamy", be vigilant"
Yuyu Aerobic2023-11-25 12:29Qinghai "These two strange phenomena are impacting "monogamy", be vigilant"