Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
In most middle-aged people's marriages, there seems to be no shadow of love. Men always feel that they are old husbands and wives, and they still care about whether they love or not, which seems too hypocritical.
But women are different, women are yearning for love at all times and looking forward to being loved.
If, if marriage fails to satisfy her thirst for love and always plunges her into loneliness and loneliness, her heart will be easily touched by the warmth outside of marriage.
Middle-aged women are mostly prone to develop extramarital love with the following kinds of "acquaintances".
02. People who often dance together and often have physical contact
There is a woman in the community, her husband is busy with work every day, and her children have gone to school in other places, so she is left alone at home.
Later, she began to learn to dance.
There was a man who worked very well with her, and the two of them formed a partnership and practiced together every time.
Men often praise her, saying that she has good skin, a tall figure, and can dress up. She looks good in everything she wears, and she is the most temperamental woman in the dance class.
The woman was praised by him, and unconsciously fell into the gentleness and praise of the man, and had an extramarital relationship with the man.
Later, the woman's husband found out about this and beat the two of them, which became known to everyone and became a topic of conversation after tea and dinner in the community.
Middle-aged women develop extramarital love, most likely with acquaintances who are in regular contact.
Middle-aged women and their dance partners have enough opportunities to get along, and there is natural physical contact, and it is easy to develop extramarital relationships.
The two often dance, have physical contact, and the boundaries between each other are blurred. accidentally broke the bottom line of the marriage, causing irreparable mistakes.
03. People who often entertain together, such as playing cards and singing
My colleague Li Feng likes to sing, and every time she sings at home, her husband thinks she is noisy. Therefore, she often asks her friends to go to the singing studio to sing.
Later, she met a man, and the two often sang love songs together, and they worked together perfectly.
Friends often tease them for being a couple.
In such an ambiguous atmosphere, Li Feng gradually forgot about her husband. The two often lean against each other to talk, drink glasses of wine, and make half-truths and half-truths.
After a drunken experience, Li Feng stayed at the man's house. She didn't know if it was really the effect of alcohol or if she was already in love with this man in her heart.
It's just that when everything happened, she fell into an anxious situation, not knowing whether this relationship should continue, let alone how to face her husband and family.
People who often play together will relax their boundaries, and wrong feelings can easily take advantage of the void.
When middle-aged women get along with these friends around them, they will naturally open their hearts, indulge their suppressed emotions, and betray their marriage.
With people who often have fun together, it is easy for a woman to lose her heart.
When the big mistake is made, I will regret it and don't know how to face real life.
04. Often help each other, and gradually develop a sense of dependence
The heart of a middle-aged woman is easily touched by a small warmth and help.
If she is in a state of helplessness in marriage. And men outside of marriage often help her and help her out, and she can't help but feel a sense of dependence in her heart.
Even a small thing, such as helping a woman carry a heavy object upstairs, helping a woman get a courier, or giving a woman a ride by the way, etc., will make women feel grateful and dependent on men.
Women who receive help from men also look for opportunities to thank each other. As they come and go, they have more contact with each other, and they come and go frequently, and it is easy to have extramarital feelings.
Mr. Yang Jiang said: "Extramarital affair is two sick people who think they have encountered good medicine, but in fact, they have encountered anesthetics. ”
A middle-aged woman's dependence on a man is not formed in a day, but in contact, and this mutual help warms her heart and makes her want to grab it.
The cold reception and neglect she suffered in her marriage found a home outside of marriage, and she would be unable to restrain herself from devoting herself to extramarital feelings.
05. Summary
When love outside of marriage blooms wantonly, people tend to ignore the hidden dangers.
When people reach middle age, their relationship has entered a period of burnout, and they must devote more energy to protect their marriage and maintain the stability of their family.
Don't give up long-term stability for the sake of short-term warmth.
Be sure to cherish the time you spend with your partner and refuse the temptation from outside of marriage. In this way, you can truly keep the happiness you already have.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.