Some people say that money is easy to get, but it is hard to find sincerity.
In the relationship, there are always people who can't love, want to be Sauvignon Blanc with that person, stay together, but it backfires, even if you are good to him, you can't win his heart.
Perhaps, it's not that you're not beautiful enough, it's not that you're not attractive, the reason why you can't get his eyes and can't get his heart is because you take the initiative to love someone too much, and when you love someone in this way, it's easy to lose yourself.
Love someone, don't change for him easily, don't put yourself in a very low position, humble is not loved, initiative and entanglement can not replace the sincere love you want.
If you want to win a man's heart, don't take the initiative to treat him so much, follow your own heart, retain your own characteristics that are different from others, sometimes, the more uncompromising a woman, the easier it is to get love.
So, you have to know that a smart woman, learning to do these 4 "not taking the initiative" will make men love you more and more!
01
Don't ask men for gifts
After many women are with men, they begin to become lazy and hypocritical, always feeling that with a man by their side, they don't have to worry about everything, as long as they want it, just ask him for it.
Many women believe in the logic that "whether a man loves himself or not depends on whether he is willing to spend money for himself". In fact, this is said to men, women should not use such "truth" to demand men.
If he doesn't buy you gifts often, don't ask for them, because in love, the heart is the most important, not the material.
If he loves you, he will bring you "surprises" every day, and if you deliberately ask for it, such love will deteriorate.
02
Don't take the initiative to hand yourself over
Many times this is the case, what is too easy to get will not be cherished, when women do not know how to protect themselves, it is easy for scumbags to succeed, and in the end not only can not get love, but also let themselves be hurt.
Although modern society is not so conservative anymore, women still have to remain reserved, because if a woman takes the initiative to give herself to a man, then you are very cheap in the other party's heart, and men will not cherish this kind of woman.
In real life, many women are willing to take the initiative in order to get the love of men, they think that as long as they give everything, they can get a man's sincerity, but this idea is too naïve and will only hurt themselves more deeply.
What you can't get is the best. Women must know how to protect themselves, and it is best not to mess around before identifying the other party, only in this way can you get more love from men.
03
Do not actively pursue
Many women believe that if they want to win a man's heart, they must take the initiative to pursue it. However, this approach is often counterproductive.
In a relationship, if the woman is too proactive, it will make the man feel that the relationship came too easily and will not cherish it.
On the contrary, if a woman maintains a certain distance and mystery in the relationship, the man will be more fascinated.
When a man feels a woman's attitude, they will be more motivated to explore the woman's inner world and will cherish the relationship more.
04
Don't reach out to him
You come and go, and there will be progress. However, in relationships, men prefer what they pursue.
It is said that you can't eat hot tofu in a hurry, and it's the same in the relationship, frequently taking the initiative to contact him will only make him feel that you are a cheap woman who can be easily obtained, and he will naturally not really take you to heart.
Many women always take the initiative to men because of love, but men mistake your love for your lowliness, so it is naturally difficult to pay attention to it.
It's better to spend this time on work, on cultivating yourself, and occasionally take the initiative to contact, but don't contact frequently.
05
Emotional message
Women must remember that men tend to be rational and realistic when it comes to choosing a partner.
Many times, whether a man loves you or not, whether he is good to you or not, has nothing to do with whether you take the initiative to love him and be good to him, but depends on whether you have irreplaceable charm and value.
Only when a woman is self-reliant and self-loving, more and more attractive, and more and more valuable, will your contribution be cherished and your love will always be reciprocated.
In fact, the relationship between men and women is very similar to dancing tango, just when you enter and I retreat, you come and go, and you collide with gorgeous sparks.
May you have the ability to love yourself, have the spare strength to love others, pay attention to proportion, and advance and retreat in a measured manner. You know, only when you are "passive" can the other party have a chance to take the initiative.
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