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Lloyd George, the 53rd Prime Minister in British history, is known for his unique habit of closing the door behind him, no matter where he is.
One day, George was strolling in the courtyard with his friends, and the doors he passed along the way were all closed by him.
This caused confusion among his friend, who frowned slightly and asked George, "Why do you insist on closing every door?"
George responded, "It's a necessity. Closing a door means leaving everything in the past behind and starting anew at a new beginning. ”
In the journey of life, whether it is a proud brilliant achievement or a deep regret that makes people feel embarrassed, over-indulging in it will undoubtedly evolve into a spiritual self-shackle.
At the age of fifty, we should learn to close the door behind us gracefully, like George. This means looking forward, knowing how to let go at the right time, and opening a new chapter in life.
In this way, we can have a fresh and hopeful life scenery in the passage of time.
Close the door to achievement and learn to zero in
There is an adage circulating within Alibaba: "Yesterday's best performance is the lowest threshold today." ”
This means that no matter how brilliant yesterday's achievements were, we should see them as a new starting point and start again with a zero mentality.
The key to Alibaba's continued growth and scaling new heights is that it has always set and pursued performance excellence.
This coincides with the wisdom of the ancients that "a good man does not mention the courage of the past", and over-indulging in the glory of the past often makes people ignore the present and hinder progress.
Deng Yaping, a legend in the table tennis world, has won numerous awards and honors in his 14-year sports career. An elder once asked her, "What do you do with those trophies?"
Deng Yaping replied: "My parents set aside a room as an honor room to store all the trophies and medals. The elder smiled indifferently and suggested that she should keep the trophies away.
Deng Yaping pondered the words of the elder and decided to seal the past honor.
After retiring, she did not choose to stay in the familiar arena, but resolutely opened a new chapter in her life and entered Tsinghua University for further study.
She faced the new learning environment with an empty cup mentality, starting from scratch and devoting herself to the exploration and mastery of new knowledge.
After successfully completing her studies at Tsinghua University, Deng Yaping continued her studies and eventually obtained a doctorate at the University of Cambridge.
Since then, her identity is no longer limited to world champions, but also has added multiple roles such as entrepreneurs and hosts.
The famous writer Liu Zhenyun profoundly expounded the connotation of "zero-return mentality": "The so-called zero-return mentality is to completely empty all the accumulation in the heart, strip off all the existing achievements, return to the state of zero, and start anew with this as a starting point." ”
Maintaining a zero-return mentality enables us to stay sober and rational at all times, continue to move forward, and never stop the pace of personal growth.
Close the door of grievances and learn to let go
The self-media author Buyi Rough Food shared such a story:
One hot summer day, my hometown was hit by a torrential rain.
My father tossed and turned all night, worried about the safety of his family. Due to the proximity of the village to the stream, he was worried that the stream would rise rapidly due to heavy rains and then pour into the village.
In the middle of the night, my father got up and stood at the door. Sure enough, the rushing stream was approaching the neighbor's house.
Without hesitation, the father immediately knocked on the door of the neighbor's house as a warning.
A few days later, my mother reproached my father for being too zealous: "Have you forgotten that Lao Wu dug up our vegetable patch last month, and why did you knock on their door?"
The father responded indifferently: "It's over, there's no need to mention it again." If I don't remind them that if there is a real flood, what will be my conscience?"
In interpersonal interactions, it is important to learn to turn conflict into harmony, and hatred should be dissolved rather than remembered.
As Wilde put it:
"We must forgive certain things for ourselves, because no one can get up every night and sow thorns in the garden of the mind. ”
Bi Shumin's childhood memories include a stern music teacher.
When she was about 11 years old, the school held a singing competition, and she was fortunate to be selected for the team.
During a rehearsal, the long-haired music teacher suddenly threw away his baton, scanned the audience with a grim face, and finally stopped in front of her and said sharply:
"Bi Shumin, I have been noticing that someone is out of tune on stage, and I can't be sure. Now we have finally found out that you are the culprit! You are like a grain of rat poop that has spoiled a pot of porridge! Now, you have been removed!"
This incident left a deep mark on Bi Shumin's heart, and for decades after that, she did not speak again, and even avoided public speeches and speeches.
It wasn't until she participated in a counseling session called "Who is your significant other" that she couldn't help but think of the cold face of the pigtailed music teacher.
Following the advice of her counselor, she chose to let go of her grievances. At that moment, she was relieved, as if she had broken free from the spell that had bound her for so long.
Life is a long road, and everyone will inevitably encounter all kinds of unsatisfactory experiences.
Learn to close the door to those painful pasts, and you can let go of grievances and grievances.
When you are over half a hundred years old, relief is the most precious gift of liberation to yourself.
Close the door of regret and learn to turn the page
The world knows Edison, the great inventor who rose to fame for his successful development of the electric light bulb.
Since then, he has turned his attention to the field of direct current, believing that its future is far greater than that of alternating current.
In the "cross-head controversy" in the field of electricity, Edison vigorously devalued the value of alternating current, and even used it to conduct electric demonstrations to prove its danger.
However, the wheel of history did not go as it should, and direct current eventually lost to alternating current.
This result became an unrelieved regret in his heart. Until the end of his life, he still lamented that he had not been able to devote himself to the study of alternating current as soon as possible.
There is a thought-provoking sentence in "Fatigue of Life and Death": "The world is like a book, page by page is quietly turned." People should look forward and look less back to the old accounts of history. ”
Life experience has taught us that being able to let go of the past at the right time is an invaluable ability.
As a young woman, Rousseau was betrayed by his fiancée, and she chose to go to the future with others, which dealt a heavy blow to Rousseau. In order to escape the pain, he chose to stay away from his homeland.
Time flies, and when the already successful Rousseau returns to his hometown to visit relatives, friends mention that the former "fiancée" is now living a difficult life.
The crowd thought that he would be happy about this, after all, the people who had betrayed him now had the "retribution" of life.
However, Rousseau responded indifferently, saying that he had long been relieved and no longer resentful.
He knows very well that indulging in the mire of the past will only make people fall deeper and deeper.
Those past events that have made us sad and ashamed, let them be quietly sealed behind the door of memory.
As the saying goes, "Let go of your obsession at the right time, and don't indulge in the feelings of the past." ”
Life is long, no matter how we strategize, it is inevitable that there will be regrets haunting our hearts.
The regrets of those times and past events have been frozen and cannot be reversed. In the face of irreparable shortcomings, the wise thing to do is to look ahead.
Entering the year of knowing the destiny of heaven, you might as well learn to shake hands with the past and open a new chapter in your life.
One day, you will realize that regret is not entirely negative, it can also be transformed into a precious treasure in life, and when we bravely turn the page, a better future will come.
The most painful thing in life is to indulge in the past, and the most happy state lies in indifferently letting go of the old things.
Everything that has passed is the foreshadowing of today.
Those who should be relieved should be brave enough to let go, and those who should say goodbye should be calmly opened.
The wise man knows that when fate closes a door, it will open a window for you.
Always look ahead, and the road to happiness will get closer and closer.
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