The truth of marriage is that no one can ever be the same for you.
Zhou Guoping said:
Sex is a carnal life, following the pleasure principle.
Love is a spiritual life, following ideal principles.
Marriage is social life and follows the principles of reality.
These are three completely different things.
The difficulty of marriage lies in how to unify the three in the same opposite sex.
Don't let unbridled pleasures and dreams invite the brutal reality to blow head-on,
Not letting trivial realities damage destroys the desire for love and the release of desire.
In "Children of the Rivers and Lakes", there is a detail that makes people laugh.
Zhao Tao is short of money, she wants to start a business, but there is no start-up capital.
What to do?
She ordered two dishes at the most luxurious restaurant in the area.
Eating is not the goal,
Hunting dishes.
Notice, the target appeared.
With his hands in his pockets, his eyes are above the top, his chest is stacked, and he hugs back and forth, and at first glance he is a narcissistic successful man with a complacent and greasy index.
Zhao Tao followed behind him and saw the successful man open the door of the box, and there was a happy scene of a family gathering inside.
Zhao Tao made a move.
She called out from behind, "Sir"
Man, feeling that the comer is not good, by instinct, he came out.
"You are?"
The famous scene is coming. Zhao Tao was full of momentum, coldly forced to look into the man's eyes until he stared at him, and then asked rhetorically: "Do you know who I am?"
The man was already in confusion at this time, and his brain searched desperately, but to no avail: "I don't recognize you!"
Zhao Tao suddenly said: "I am her sister." ”
Who is she, and what does she have to do with me?
If there is no ghost in his heart, the man will definitely ask.
But how can such a man not have ghosts.
She believed that this man must have had more than one lover, and even had too many women with whom he had a dewy relationship, and she couldn't even remember the other person's name.
Zhao Tao bets that he must have the right girl in his heart now.
Zhao Tao continued: "My sister had a miscarriage. ”
One door away, is waiting for his wife, the child who is proud of him, and the family of the stars holding the moon, if this sentence is broken on the spot, his perfect personality, his marriage will be ruined.
So he can't afford to lose.
When the man heard this, he turned to leave.
But—
He didn't go, he ...... Carefully close the door of the box?
When I turned around, my face was already sweating profusely.
"Why are you pregnant?"
The man may have met his lover yesterday and didn't know the news, so he asked.
Zhao Tao said to himself: "She doesn't want you to know. ”
One sentence put him in the pit.
He began to get annoyed.
began to be annoyed: "I was too careless. ”
Zhao Tao began moral kidnapping: "She thinks about you everywhere. ”
Then it triggers the man's guilt: "You didn't care about her." ”
In the end, he simply threatened nakedly: "Look at your family talking and laughing." ”
The man immediately showed his true character as a scumbag and sighed: "Cough, the outside world thinks so." ”
At this time, he understood that the person who came was not good, and he had to send her away as soon as possible, otherwise, after a long time, someone would come out, and he would be in trouble. He didn't have time to confirm.
He opened his wallet, took out all the cash, and gave it to Zhao Tao.
Zhao Tao continued to open his bag and wait for him.
The man understood.
returned to the box, took out two large stacks of money, and put them in Zhao Tao's bag.
Zhao Tao ended perfectly.
Do you think it's made up?
This is just a scam before the Internet era, and you still need to go to the hotel to squat.
Now there's a scam that just sends a group text message: "I'm pregnant with your child. "And then there was a bunch of scumbags who took the bait.
Tell you, as long as it's a rich, successful man, he if
From this, we can draw a conclusion:
A man's first sex is cheating.
It's the same as a woman's first nature is motherhood.
In other words.
The reason why a man hasn't betrayed you yet is because of 3 reasons.
First: the question of timing:
For example, I have a student whose husband has been starting a business with her husband all the time, 24 hours a day.
Later, when my career developed, my husband said: My friends all said that I can have today depends on my wife, and I eat soft rice. I can't stand being in the company with you anymore, so you can go home. I'm going to prove myself.
The wife felt tired and didn't want to conflict with her husband, so she went home.
As a result, the man did prove himself, but only proved that he went to bed with other women.
There is also the most common, that is, because of work, men often live in different places with their wives, if this problem is not solved for a long time, it is impossible for men to have no one outside.
Second: his abilities and resources are not yet up to the mark
I also have a student whose husband used to cheat frequently, but then he was very honest for 5 years. She thought her husband had come home, but it turned out that he had "returned to his old job".
As soon as I asked, I found out that in the past 5 years, he lost ground in the company's infighting, and was transferred to a department of Qingshui Yamen, hanging high, with no resources in his hands, of course, there was no way to engage in three or four. But 5 years later, he gained power again, occupied the department with oil and water, and became a middle-level manager, so he naturally had the conditions to "spend all his time".
Third: Marriage is run by women.
From this, we can know that a man's derailment actually depends on "the right time, place and people".
The time of day is to say that there is no temptation on the outside
The location is to say that the man's resources are not enough for him to attract bees and butterflies.
People are talking about how much control his wife has over him.
Marriage is not for women to handle.
The so-called "trading" is the "human nature of the disk".
In marriage, whether a woman is strong enough depends on whether she the "emotional plate" or the "human nature plate".
The so-called "emotional plate" is to follow the logic of "human nature is good" to get along with others.
The so-called "human nature plate" is to follow the logic of "human nature is evil" to get along with others.
How can you tell?
It's just a sentence: Do you believe that "good is rewarded with good, and evil is rewarded with evil"?
If you believe it, you're the "Sensual Plate".
You have two logics:
- Living for children: For example, 80% of women will say one sentence when they find out that a man has betrayed: If it weren't for the child, I would have left my husband a long time ago if I wanted to give the child a complete home.
- Live for morality: For example, 80% of women will be unconvinced after being betrayed: Why is it that my husband made a mistake and wants to correct it, but I am the one who wants to correct it?
If your husband agrees with both logics, then you don't need any changes.
It's a pity that your husband is playing "human logic".
It's also two sentences:
- Morality is a p, and interests are first.
- Whoever has a rough arm listens to whom.
This is what I often say, "When a talent meets a soldier, it is unreasonable."
If we don't have the ability to be "backward compatible", we will not be able to deal with this "jungle beast", and we will inevitably be completely subdued by the other side.
That's why I often say that cheating is a disease, and it's easy to get it if you're a man.
As long as we have the right mentality, we will cure the disease.
That is, don't treat a man's cheating as cancer, and when you find out, you feel like the end of the world;
Don't treat a man's cheating as a small cold, wash it and use it again;
Instead, it is necessary to treat this as a "medium-level disease", which can be cured and cured, but it requires you to "devote yourself to the brain" and solve it with new methods, and seek professional help when necessary, which is the correct mentality of "manipulating human nature".