Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
Everyone has their own understanding and expectations about love.
For women, they are often more emotional and hope to feel the love of men from their daily lives.
It's just because "love or not" is too important in the eyes of women. Only when men are sure that they are true love, will they dare to give and feel that everything is worth it.
Many times, when we judge whether a man loves you or not, we can't just listen to what he says, but also look at his actions, and ask our own hearts whether you feel his love.
01
Security
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "Every woman wants a sense of security, so they will be obsessed with money, houses, and men, but these are not real feelings of security." True security comes from the strength of the heart, allowing yourself to surpass yourself. ”
Having said that, in love, the sense of security that a woman needs comes largely from the man's attitude and practices.
A man who loves you and he will always make you feel at ease. He doesn't disappear when you need him, he doesn't stay out of you when you're in trouble.
He will be the one you can trust completely. For example, you can look at his mobile phone at any time, you will know his itinerary clearly, and he will not hide anything from you.
With him, you don't have to worry about him changing his mind or suddenly leaving you.
This sense of security is what he gives you bit by bit in his daily life.
For example, he will respond to your messages promptly, even when he's busy, and he will take care of you when you're sick instead of just saying "drink plenty of hot water."
He will stand by your side when you are in trouble, rather than choosing to run away.
Such a man will give you a sense of groundedness. Let you know that he is your back, no matter when and where.
02
A sense of belonging
A sense of belonging refers to an intrinsic connection between an individual and the group to which he belongs. In love, we also need a sense of belonging.
A man who loves you will make you feel that he and you are one and that your lives are intimately connected.
He will respect your opinions and choices and will consider your feelings when making decisions.
He will not treat you as an appendage to him, but as an indispensable part of his life.
Between him and you, there will be a common goal, a common topic, and a common circle of friends. He will make you feel that you are not just his girlfriend, but also a partner and confidant in his life.
As Xu Zhimo said: "I will visit my only soul mate in the vast sea of people, and I am fortunate to get it, but I am not allowed to die." ”
A man who truly loves you will make you feel that you are the "only soul mate" in his life.
03
Feeling of well-being
Perhaps the most important thing in love is happiness.
A man who loves you will make you feel happy and fulfilled at all times.
He will pay attention to your joys and sorrows, and will care about your feelings and needs. He will create some small surprises for you in ordinary life to make you feel happy.
He will remember every important day between you and will send you blessings or gifts on these special days.
He will show you how much he cares about you.
With him, you will feel very happy, very happy, and this happiness comes from the heart and cannot be disguised.
As Tolstoy said, "Happy families are all alike, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes." ”
A man who loves you will make you feel that every day with him is happy and worth cherishing.
In love, we are all groping our way forward. But remember, you have to trust your feelings whenever and wherever you are.
If a man can make you feel safe, belonging, and happy, then don't hesitate to hold his hand tightly!
Because in this world, true love is precious. When you encounter it, you should cherish it and don't let happiness slip away from your hands.