There is a saying that those who do not have the ability have many children and grandchildren, and those who have the ability are easy to die.
It is not long before there are children who are poor, but it is not long before they are rich without children. There is a real-life example around me, 30 years ago, I had five sons and one daughter in the east, and I lived in extreme hardship, and I only had one daughter in the west, and my life was quite rich.
Now, there are eleven grandchildren in the east, more than 20 great-grandchildren, all walks of life have small achievements, the New Year's Festival, forty or fifty people, not to mention how lively, but in the west, a daughter marries far away, and the house is dilapidated.
Although the life of the in-laws' family is okay, but the New Year is deserted, not to mention being sick and hospitalized, the daughter and son-in-law are not bad, after all, they are not children, and they have to do their own work.
The one who had no son lay in bed for five years, his survival was very poor, and he died at the age of 78, and the other, although he was young and suffered a little, looked at the children of the house when he was dying, and died peacefully at the age of 85.
There are also seven sons in our village, and the grandson has twenty-four great-grandchildren, I really can't count them, I remember that this person hanged himself on Chinese New Year's Eve in the 70s, and the reason is that I am afraid you will not believe it, that is, the brothers who have no one to support each other when they play football with each other.
His grandson now has four great-grandchildren who are singles, and there are six singles that I know, and he can barely say that he is a grandson who has just resumed the college entrance examination and is now the Gannan Medical College.
I was born in the mid-sixties of the last century, and in my eyes, I have raised eight or nine or more people who have been poor and toiling all my life.
And the vast majority of their children have inherited this; Because poverty can receive a good education is almost a luxury, and not receiving a good higher education is a natural thing for most people to live at the bottom of society for the rest of their lives.
Born in such a family, most of them struggle for a full stomach for half their lives, so as you said, what small achievements and happiness do many children have in all aspects?
Mo Yan once said that the most shameless and vicious thing in the world is to praise the suffering experienced by people as inspirational. I myself was born into a family with so many children, from childhood memories to the present.
The terrible evil of poverty has always lingered, so poverty is the original sin of everything, and in my experience, the large number of brothers in the original family is one of the important causes of poverty.
I have a cousin who is seven years older, and I was admitted to university after resuming the college entrance examination, and now I am also retired as a civil servant, and my aunt retired six years ago, and they also raised a daughter.
On the contrary, the life of their family today is more appropriately described as very envious and jealous. It is a foolish and backward concept to advocate having more children and more blessings, and having more children is not a good thing.
My great-grandfather had three grandfathers. I have never met him, but I am sure he had a son and was poor, for he lived in a few mud-brick houses left by his ancestors until he died. My grandfather had my father's son, and he was also poor all his life, which I have seen with my own eyes, and I have experienced hard times with him.
My father had two brothers, and in the end he could not be said to be destitute, but he never tasted the days of abundance until he died. It was my turn, because I had no sons and only a daughter (because I didn't have any patriarchal thoughts in my head, and I only had a daughter because of my work).
Now I can say that my predecessors have never lived a comfortable life and thought of it, and my brother has two sons, both of whom are in their fifties, and they have to work hard for one of them, who is still 30 years old and not married, to do 12 hours of hard work in two shifts.
Until now, I have really never seen where he and his son are rich, that is, what is the basis for you to have a son who is poor for a short time?
Most of the people who have sons in China have not seen most of them get rich, but because of their children's marriage, they have spent their life savings and have returned to poverty by owing money and borrowing.
But it doesn't mean that the more children there are, the poorer they are, if they are the ones who have eaten and don't ask about noon, they are lazy to eat, they don't do their jobs, and they have to get by.
Even a child or a single person can be poor, plus raising children does not know the right education, how can life be better and better?
My uncle's two daughters are like this, daily life can cost money, the eldest daughter has been spending money since high school, she likes to compare, she also wants to buy what beautiful clothes other girls wear, and a bunch of cosmetics and skin care products.
She can't look at the mobile phone that her uncle's family bought for her, and she also wants the Apple mobile phone that her classmates bought, and now the eldest daughter is studying in a technical school and loves to compare and become snobbish, and the younger daughter is now also in high school, and she spends money like her sister.
I also love to compare snobbery and ask my uncle to buy her an Apple mobile phone cheap style, and I don't want it, and there are new ones, and I have to spend tens of thousands of dollars a year on my two daughters, and the family conditions are not rich, and the two daughters are not sensible at all, and their vanity is too strong.
Since ancient times, it is not to make a fortune, not to make a fortune, God will not let you be satisfied with everything, so Hangzhou Lingyin Temple has two sentences: life can be as good as you want, everything is only half satisfied. The world is like this, and it is impossible to be perfect.
The moon is full of losses, the water is full, the flowers are half-open, the wine is half-drunk, there is no perfect thing in life, God closes a door for you and will also open a window for you, God is hungry and blind eagle, and there is no endless road in the sky.
Perfect, perfect, and non-existent in real life! The offspring of the rich are not satisfied, and the rich prosper. What the hell is going on here. The most important problem is that someone has a world, and without someone everything goes to zero.
Moreover, in the past, the population was the labor force, but now the times have changed, science and technology are the labor force, and the people who master and use science and technology are the labor force.
I also remembered a thing, I have a friend here, the two of them are quite capable, earning hundreds of thousands of dollars a year, three suites in Tianjin, all bought in cash, and I bought one set in my hometown.
His son married two daughters-in-law, the first one left without children, the second gave birth to a girl, he is already more than ten years old, what should he do after such good conditions!
Chests full of gold and silver, and in the end they make wedding clothes for others, and according to my observations, those who are content with virtue are not only full of children and grandchildren, but also full of books.
Therefore, the wise man knows how to stop, never wants to be at the peak, Si understands, the peak is the deep valley now, and the flower is the time of thanks, and anyone who thinks like this must be prosperous and prosperous!
There is also an old saying: There are children who are not poor, and no children are poor and die.
This was true before the 80s, when a family relied entirely on men to go out and earn money to support the family. After the nineties, it was not right, women could earn money just as well.
That's because in the past, I could only rely on my son to support my family, but now, it is good for my children to be able to support their own small family. Now most of the elderly have pensions, as long as the children have filial piety, their sons and daughters don't matter.
An old man in the village has only one son. The son was extremely filial, and his father was not allowed to work at the age of fifty, and enjoyed happiness for decades. The son later had three sons and two daughters, each of whom started a prosperous family, but toiled until he was over 70 years old.
The simplicity of human life is food, clothing, shelter and transportation, and it is in line with human development to pass on the ancestry. However, modern people have forgotten the most basic, desperately pursued those unrealistic things, and in the end did not even retain the most basic.
There are two old people, one old man has a lot of money, invite the other old man to eat, and eat with money on the feet of the table.
The other invited the old man back to eat, and asked each of the four sons to help a table for the two old people to eat, and the rich old man cried, because no matter how much money there is, there will be one less thing in his life.
Although "there are three unfilial ones, and no queen is greater" is not necessarily correct, but there is one, no matter how you have a chance, under normal circumstances, no queen (no children) must be the biggest failure in life, and the most capable will inevitably become the most incapable.
People who have the ability don't want to have more children, they just live for the quality of life, and they don't care about having children.
People who don't have the ability want to have more children, they attach great importance to having sons, they think that as long as they have sons, life is perfect, and it doesn't matter if the living conditions are good or bad.
No matter how many children there are, since they have come to the world, there is a reason to come. Go with the flow. If you have something to do to contribute to the society, you can't do things for your family, and God has her own arrangements.
In fact, it is almost the same if people have the ability and do not have the ability, and the key question is what is the direction of people's development? Have a career that is determined to get ahead, put aside the need to start a family and start a business, and focus on the future of the career.
There are also special attention to building a small family, focusing on the life of the couple, and later in the later years, it is difficult to say that the future is still a single person or a single child, and the children and grandchildren who pay attention to the family are only over 60 years old, and their eldest grandson is going to get married, which is quite normal.
People who have the ability to do a lot of things, and they are cautious about having children, but those who don't have the ability to do less things will have to do less, and the vision is not as far as others see, so it is natural to get married early and have children early!
In fact, this problem should be correctly understood, people who have the ability must have knowledge, and they must also have insight and truth, and see through real life, the more children there are, the more miserable life is, life is short for a few decades, why not live a life easily.
No matter how many children and money he has when he closes his eyes, he is empty, and even his wife is someone else's, so he doesn't raise more, and he doesn't answer that his children have it.
In fact, God is the fairest: those who look good don't have a high diploma, and those who have a high diploma look ugly. Those who are rich do not get rich, those who make people do not get rich, and people who are rich but have a short lifespan.