The 33-year-old phoenix man's heavy choice: oscillating between love and responsibility
My name is Li Qiang, I am 33 years old this year, and I say that I am thirty years old, but I am still very confused. Why? I am the kind of "phoenix man" that everyone often refers to, with a big family on my back, and I can't fly if I want to.
Since I was a child, I knew how much my parents had suffered and how many sins they had suffered in order to provide for me to go to school. Now that they're older and not as healthy as they used to be, I thought, whatever, I have to let them live a good life. But my sister's family is like a bottomless pit, every time something comes to me, my heart is really mixed.
Raising flowers is my only hobby, and every time I see those flowers blooming so brightly, I feel a little more comfortable. But my mother always said, "Qiangzi, no matter how well you raise these flowers, you can't eat them as food." You have to think about your future, think about us. "Every time I hear this, my heart feels like I've been pricked with a needle.
I also want to find a daughter-in-law and live a small life. But every time I think about the situation at home, I don't have that mind. I'm afraid, I'm afraid that I will find a daughter-in-law to come back, and I will have to bear these pressures with me in the end.
Until one day, I met her. She is a gentle and kind girl who also likes to raise flowers. As soon as we started talking, we felt very close to each other. Her smile was really like sunshine, illuminating those dark corners of my heart.
We started dating, and every day was really happy. But gradually, I started to worry. I was afraid that she would leave me if she found out about my family situation. Every time I think about this, I panic and don't know what to do.
Finally, one day, I decided to confess everything to her. I told her about my family's situation, my sister's family's plight, and my own helplessness and struggles. She was silent for a long time after hearing this, and then said softly: "Li Qiang, I won't leave you because of this, but we need to face these problems together." ”
When I heard this, I really had mixed feelings in my heart. On the one hand, I am grateful for her understanding and support, but on the other hand, I am worried that she will not really accept this.
As the days passed, our relationship got better and better. But she never mentioned my family situation, and I tried not to think about it. But the reality is always cruel, my sister's family has an accident again, and this time the situation is more serious than ever.
I knew I couldn't run away anymore. Do I have to choose whether to continue with the responsibilities of my family or to leave everything behind to pursue my own happiness?
I'm standing at a crossroads in my life, and my heart is in disarray. I don't know what to choose, and I don't know what the consequences will be. I just felt like I was trapped in a labyrinth and couldn't find an exit.
That night, I stood in front of the flowers again. The flowers are still blooming so brightly, but my heart is desolate. I whispered to them, "You say, what am I going to do? I really don't know what to do." ”
Just then, she walked over. She looked at me and asked softly, "Li Qiang, what are you thinking?" I looked at her, took a deep breath, and decided to tell her everything.
I told her everything about the situation at home, my worries, my struggles. She was silent for a long time, then hugged me gently. She said: "Li Qiang, I know it's difficult, but let's face it together, okay?"
Hearing her words, my heart warmed. I know that I have finally found the person who is willing to take on everything with me. Although the road ahead is still long, full of unknowns and difficulties, as long as we walk hand in hand, I believe that we will be able to find our own happiness.
In this way, we began to face the difficult situation of the family together. She didn't leave me because of my family's situation, but gave me more support and encouragement. Together, we figured out ways to help my sister's family tide over the difficult times and planned our future together.
I know that such a choice is not an easy one. But I also believe that as long as we truly love each other and are willing to pay for each other, we will be able to overcome all difficulties. Looking back now, I'm really glad I didn't give up and didn't choose to run away from the pressure.
Sometimes, I think of those flowers. They opened quietly in the corners and witnessed my growth and change. I guess they must be cheering me on, too.
Now, I'm no longer the confused phoenix man. I found my direction and found someone who would like to walk with me. Although there is still a long way to go, I believe that as long as we go hand in hand, we will be able to reach the other side of happiness.
So, I would like to say, no matter what difficulties you encounter in life, don't give up easily. As long as you are willing to work hard and persevere, you will definitely be able to find your own piece of sky. And those experiences that have made you miserable and struggling will eventually become the most valuable treasure in your life.
Finally, I would like to say a big phrase: life is like raising flowers, sometimes you need to be patient, sometimes you need to take care of it. But as long as you don't give up, you will definitely be able to see those gorgeous flowers bloom in front of your eyes.
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