The ancients said: "Men are afraid of entering the wrong industry, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man." Although this sentence is old, it is a wise saying. In the vast history of China, there are many heroes and heroes who have ended in tragedy because they married unsuitable daughters-in-law. The Sui and Tang dynasties were an era full of heroes and legends, but did you know that some heroes were not only brave on the battlefield, but in their private lives, they made a big mistake because of their marriage choices, and eventually went to ruin. Today we will talk about the family tragedies of those Sui and Tang Dynasty heroes, and see how they died because of "marrying the wrong daughter-in-law". Is it really just a predestined sorrow?
Speaking of the late Sui and early Tang Dynasties, you may think of well-known heroes like Li Shimin and Cheng Yanjin, but behind them, there are many heroes who are sad or even killed because of family relationships. They not only reflect the joys and sorrows of individuals, but also reflect the social customs and human struggles of that era.
Luo Yi, the general in the last years of the Sui Dynasty, was originally a figure who could have a good future. But his wife, Meng, persuaded him to raise an army against the Tang Dynasty because of the words of a self-proclaimed psychic witch. Meng's alleged "bone is noble" and "must be the mother of the world", such nonsense misled the country, which eventually led to the failure of Luo Yi's army, and he abandoned his wife in a hurry to flee for his life, and finally died tragically in a foreign land and was beheaded to show the public. This tragedy is not only due to personal blindness, but also because of wrong decisions within the family.
Liu Wenjing, who was an important official in the early Tang Dynasty, held a gold medal for avoiding death, and had a prominent position. His family life was a mess. His family is full of monsters, and there are even concubines who denounce their husbands because they have fallen out of favor. Liu Wenjing was finally beheaded by Li Yuan's order because of improper handling, and her family property was confiscated. This is a good hand, but due to family disputes and political enemies, he came to the end of his life.
Not only them, but also Shan Xiongxin, Zhang Liang, Pei Xingyan and other Wagang Army heroes, also because of family factors, their fate was bumpy. Shan Xiongxin and Pei Xingyan made great achievements in the army, but they could not escape the curse of "marrying the wrong daughter-in-law". Zhang Liang even abandoned his wife, and the newly married Li was jealous and left-minded, which eventually led to his notoriety and overshadowing his political career.
Not all marriages fail. Cheng Biting Jin is a counter-example. His marriage and family relationships were stable, and his in-laws were all powerful figures of status, which helped him gain a foothold in troubled times. Cheng Yanjin's father-in-law was a hugely influential official at that time, and his daughter-in-law was also very wise and skillful, which laid a solid foundation for his future career. Even when he made mistakes, he had a strong family background as a backer, which kept him safe. This steady and wise choice of marriage contributed to his political career and eventually became a generation of famous generals.
There are many examples from history, from which we can see that a person's fate is often determined not only by personal ability and hard work, but also by family factors. In ancient society, the family was the cell of society, and the harmony of the family directly affected the social status and life success or failure of the individual. These heroes all remind us to be cautious when choosing a partner.
However, in the final analysis, can these tragedies really only be blamed on "marrying the wrong person"? Perhaps the deeper reason is the political environment and social culture of that era. During the Sui and Tang dynasties, where power and struggle were fierce, every decision could be a matter of life and death, and the influence of family members, especially wives, often inadvertently changed the course of history.
To sum up, those heroes in history who were ill-fated because of "marrying the wrong daughter-in-law" are actually a drop in the tide of the times. They show us that the impact of the family is profound and powerful, and that choosing a partner is not only about the happiness of the individual, but also about the future of the entire family and even the country. Although these stories took place in the distant Sui and Tang dynasties, the truth behind them is still enlightening for us today. In a seemingly open but complex society, should we be more cautious in choosing our life partners to avoid the recurrence of tragedy? This is a question worth pondering for everyone who is at the juncture of choosing a marriage.