#头条创作挑战赛#
In the adult world, people's hearts are fickle, life is full of challenges, and the pressure of work is always there, forming a daily landscape with constant ups and downs.
In the face of the future, relying on illusory expectations will only add to the suffering.
The wisdom lies in gaining early insight into the nature of life and being brave enough to face the unabashed truths.
Switch perspectives and meet the wind and rain with a heart that keeps low expectations for life, and you will find:
There are surprises everywhere, and everyone you meet seems to come with good intentions.
High expectations are besieging your life
Some netizens asked: Where does the pain in life come from?
One of the most praised responses was: Expecting too much from everything.
For example, if you are angry because of an argument with your partner, you expect that the other person will bring you a meal to seek reconciliation, but the result is that the other party ignores you;
Another example, after spending half an hour carefully retouching the picture and posting it on the circle of friends, I was full of expectations for a flood of likes, but ushered in a long silence;
Another example, a copywriter who stayed up late until late at night was full of praise from his superiors, but in the end he was lost in the sea and did not get a single word of evaluation......;
Expectations are too high, and people are often tormented by repeated frustrations.
If everything has to be done with a goal, and every effort is burdened with heavy expectations, then life is nothing more than a cage of self-imposed limitations.
Perhaps, by minimizing expectations, life can give back the beauty of unexpected encounters.
Imagine, when the inner expectation is set at a full score of 100, it is a pity to receive 99 points;
And if you don't have expectations at the beginning, that is, the expectation value is 0, then even one point is a surprise.
In this way, expectations are reduced, disappointment naturally subsides, surprises multiply, and happiness quietly rises.
Be strong on your heart, start with lower expectations
The psychological pendulum effect reveals a psychological law: in the trajectory of a specific mental activity, there is a significant "psychological slope" between the highs and lows of emotions.
In short, the higher the peak of expectations, the greater the likelihood and depth of falling into the abyss of disappointment.
This means that expecting too much from outside satisfaction is often the root cause of the loss of ownership of life.
Take the initiative and start with self-change.
The key to truly grasping the context of life is not the expectations of the outside world, but the internal self-improvement and transformation. Learning the cultivation of dull sensibility is the only way to stop the useless consumption of the mind and move towards a strong heart.
The dull sense is the protective net of the soul.
We are often susceptible to injury by having high illusions about relationships. Increasing the dullness of one's attitude towards others is essentially building a line of defense against unnecessary harm for oneself. It's not just wisdom, it's self-love.
The friendship of adults needs to be handled with care.
The adult world is emotionally fragile and precious, and it resists over-analysis and frequent fluctuations.
Don't overly idealize interpersonal relationships, let everything follow fate, and be close to nature, which is the most gentle and strongest guardian strategy for yourself.
Success is not achieved in a day, and rushing to achieve results is often an invisible killer of determination and patience.
When your goal seems out of reach, why not take a step back and let the tight heartstrings loosen and you will regain your strength in lightheart.
Mentality is the invisible wings of success.
The more calm and calm you are, the more orderly the things in your hands are, and the problems and challenges seem to have been defeated in front of this calmness. Life, never bow to the force, only by conforming to nature, can we usher in the joy of ripening melons.
God helps those who help themselves, and they do not need to be attached to growth.
Entrusting the future to others will only end up suffering from the consequences. The high expectations of others are actually a cover for their own lack of ability.
Just as Wang Guozhen said: "Opportunity is self-sought, destiny is self-controlled; life is picturesque, why do you need to fake your hands to add color to others?"
In the face of the ups and downs of life, the wisest choice is not to look forward to help, but to forge inner tenacity, so that you can become the landscape that is not afraid of wind and rain and moves forward bravely.
The stage of life is wonderful not by prayer, but by sweat.
Behind every glory is a proof of unremitting efforts.
Abandon dependence and embrace independence, this autonomy is your most solid support and the most dazzling light.