Dink 3 years old and my husband suddenly told me that he has a 3 year old son, how should I deal with it?
A 32-year-old woman, after 3 years with her husband Dink, accidentally discovered that her husband had a 3-year-old son. In the face of this sudden change, how will she adjust her mindset, re-examine her relationship with her husband, and face her future life?
My name is Li Lin, I am 32 years old and I am a primary school teacher. My husband Chen Qiang and I have been married for 3 years and have been living a simple and peaceful life. We are a dink couple with no children and only each other. I have always felt that our lives, although ordinary, are full of happiness.
However, just last month, Chen Qiang suddenly told me a piece of news that left me jaw-dropping – he has a 3-year-old son. I can't imagine that this husband, who has always insisted that he is Dink, would have such a big son. I felt like the whole world had collapsed, as if I had been hit by five thunderbolts.
Chen Qiang told me that his son was accidentally conceived by him and his ex-girlfriend before they broke up. After giving birth to the child, the ex-girlfriend handed over the child to Chen Qiang's parents to raise, and he went abroad and lost contact with him. Mr. Chen said he had not told me the secret because he was afraid that I would leave him. He admits that he cheated on me on this issue, but he also assures that he will do everything he can to make up for this mistake.
In the face of my husband's candor, I fell into deep confusion and pain. I felt that my trust had been completely trampled on, and I couldn't accept this sudden "son". I felt like my life was completely disrupted and I didn't know how to deal with it.
I began to re-examine my relationship with Chen Qiang and wonder if we could continue to move on. I began to doubt his every word, every action, and even whether the love between us had ever existed. I felt as if I was caught in a huge whirlpool from which I could not extricate myself.
However, as time went on, I gradually calmed down and started thinking about how to solve this problem. I began to have in-depth communication with Chen Qiang to understand his thoughts and feelings. I also began to try to accept this innocent child, despite the struggles and pain in the process.
I told myself that the child was innocent and that he should not pay for our mistakes. I try to let go of the resentment and dissatisfaction in my heart and focus on the growth and future of my children. I found that when I started to pay attention to my children, the pain and anxiety in my heart gradually lessened.
In the process, I also began to re-examine my own life. I began to think about what kind of life I wanted, whether to continue to dwell on the pain of the past, or to bravely face the reality and start over. I realized that life doesn't change because of our escape, and only by facing it bravely can we find a way out.
Now, I have started to try to raise this child with Chen Qiang. Although our relationship is still full of contradictions and difficulties, I know that as long as we are willing to put in the effort and time for each other, we will be able to overcome these difficulties and build a happy family again.
Looking back on this experience, I deeply realized the impermanence and difficulty of life. But I also understood a truth: no matter how many setbacks and difficulties life brings us, as long as we face them bravely and solve them positively, we will definitely be able to find our own happiness.