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My name is Lin Jing, I am 32 years old, and I have been with my husband Zhou Jie for ten years. Our marriage, to outsiders, may seem like the culmination of a romantic love story, but in reality, its starting point is far less beautiful than one might think. Our union originated from an accident, not "love at first sight" as Zhou Jie said.
I remember it was a late spring afternoon in 2013, and I was having a party with a few college friends at a café in Beijing. Sunlight shines through the half-open curtains on the warm wooden floor, and the rich aroma of coffee and the laughter of girls floats in the air. Just when we were chatting, Zhou Jie appeared, he was my friend Xiaowen's cousin, who happened to be running errands nearby that day, so he stopped by to meet.
"This is my cousin Zhou Jie," Xiaowen said, "working in a state-owned enterprise, steady and steadfast." Zhou Jie smiled and waved to us, his smile had a kind of reassuring warmth.
It wasn't a special encounter, we exchanged WeChat messages with each other, and occasionally liked and joked in group chats. Until a rainy night a few months later, because of a small car accident, the trajectory of our lives changed completely.
That night, I was waiting for the car alone in the rain because I was working too late, and Zhou Jie happened to pass by and insisted on taking me home. The blurred street scene outside the car window and the soft music inside the car create a wonderful atmosphere. It was in that fleeting sense of security that we had a relationship.
A month later, I found out I was pregnant. When I told Zhou Jie the news, he seemed unusually calm. "Let's get married. He said simply and directly. At that time, I didn't think much about it, thinking that this was the only way out.
The wedding was in a hurry, there wasn't much romance and ceremony, and we just came together. However, at our wedding, Zhou Jie told a version of the story of acquaintance and love to the guests. He said that when he first saw me on a sunny afternoon, he was fascinated by my smile, and since then, he knows that I am his destiny. Listening to his words, I almost believed that it was true, if it weren't for knowing the truth of the facts.
Over time, we had our first child, Zhou Ze. In the eyes of outsiders, we are a happy family of three. I try my best to play the role of a good wife and mother, and Zhou Jie is also a responsible father and husband. But the real beginning of my heart always weighed on my heart like a stone, making me feel suffocated from time to time.
Five years of married life passed, and we gradually got used to each other's existence and learned how to get along. But no matter how hard I tried, there was always a slight gap in my heart, and that was the lie that started at the beginning.
At a recent gathering, the matter was brought up again, but this time the occasion was even more awkward. We attended an anniversary party organized by old classmates, and many familiar faces and long-lost laughter made people feel warm. However, under the persuasion of everyone, Zhou Jie once again told our "love story", this time he added more details and romance.
I looked at his sworn appearance, and my heart was mixed. In his story, we are so flawless, but in reality, I came together because of an unexpected accident. At the table, several classmates were so moved by his story that their eyes were red, but I could only smile reluctantly, but my heart was turbulent.
After the party, Zhou Jie and I went home. The child has already slept, and the house is quiet, just the two of us. I finally couldn't resist asking him, "Why do you always make up stories like that in front of others, and are we so hard to tell about our real beginnings?"
Zhou Jie stopped and looked at me with a hint of hesitation and uneasiness in his eyes. "Jingjing, I know it's not fair to you to do this, but everyone wants their love story to be beautiful and enviable. Our start wasn't perfect, but I really cherish every day with you. I just want others to see our happiness, not those complicated beginnings. ”
I sighed and replied somewhat weakly, "But that's not the real us, Jay, and the story you've constructed, while beautiful, makes me feel even more lonely." Every time I hear you say that, I feel like we're getting even farther apart. ”
He was silent for a moment, then hugged me gently. "I get it, I'll do my best to change. Maybe, together we can create new, authentic and beautiful memories, right?"
We didn't say anything more that night, but I knew the topic was far from over. We need more time and effort to solve this problem.
A few days later, my friend Xiaowen came to visit out of the blue, and she brought some freshly baked cakes, saying that she was a newly learned technique and wanted to share them with me. Zhou Jie was watching TV in the living room, and Xiaowen and I were sitting in the kitchen chatting quietly.
Xiaowen noticed that I seemed to be preoccupied lately, so she asked, "Jingjing, what's wrong? ”
I hesitated for a moment, and finally told her about the incident between me and Zhou Jie. After hearing this, Xiaowen seemed very surprised. "Hey, men are like that sometimes, they feel that their face is more important than anything else. But you have to talk about it, after all, marriage is not a show for one person, it is a life for two people. ”
Xiaowen's words made me feel a little better, but the problem was still not solved. When she left, I sent her to the door and happened to meet Zhou Jie, who was returning. They exchanged a few pleasantries, and Xiaowen left.
That night, Zhou Jie and I were sitting in the living room, and I decided to bring it up again. "Jay, do you really understand how I feel? I don't need a fictional romance, I just want us to be real to each other. ”
Zhou Jie looked at me for a while, and then slowly spoke: "I understand your feelings." Probably the way I've been running away from our beginnings. I thought it would give you a better image and make you feel loved. But if it makes you uncomfortable, I'm willing to stop. Together, we can rewrite our story, this time based on reality. ”
I nodded, feeling a stone in my heart fall to the ground. "I don't need stories that others envy, I just want us to know for ourselves that we are real, no matter how ordinary that truth may be. ”
Since then, we've started trying to structure our relationship in a new way. Together, we participated in some couple's relationship workshops to learn how to better communicate and understand each other. While the process wasn't easy, we all worked on it.
One weekend a few months later, our family of three went to a nearby national park. The weather was exceptionally sunny that day, we took Zhou Ze to run on the grass, and Zhou Jie also specially prepared a hearty picnic. That afternoon, Zhou Jie took out his mobile phone and said to me: "Let's take a family photo, today is the beginning of our new story." ”
I smiled and nodded, feeling a warm current in my heart. Looking at us in front of the camera, I know that at this moment, we are real and happy. We may not have the perfect beginning, but we are creating our own good memories.
While we were trying to rebuild our relationship, Zhou Jie's mother was suddenly admitted to the hospital with health problems. This incident has put new pressure on our lives, which are slowly recovering. Zhou Jie's mood became a little anxious, he had to visit his mother in the hospital almost every day, while I tried to keep everything normal at home and at work.
One night, when Zhou Jie came back, he looked very tired. I brought him a cup of hot tea, and he took it and sighed deeply.
"Mom's condition is not very stable, and the doctor said that long-term treatment may be needed. Zhou Jie said, his eyes revealing worry.
"Don't worry too much, we'll face it together. Have you discussed your treatment options with your doctor in detail?" I tried to make my voice seem calm and supportive.
"Well, it's been discussed. Some more aggressive treatments may need to be considered. Zhou Jie drank tea slowly, looking a little absent-minded.
The next day, I decided to accompany Zhou Jie to the hospital. In the ward, Zhou Jie's mother was lying on the bed, looking weak, but she still managed to smile when she saw us visiting.
"Mom, here's some fruit I brought you that you like to eat, fresh. Zhou Jie carefully placed the fruit on the small table next to the bed.
"Thank you, Jay. Quietly, I've worked hard for you, taking care of this unproductive son every day. Zhou's mother said with a smile, her voice weak but kind.
"Mom, it's not right for you to say that, I should be grateful to Jing Jing. She gave me a lot of support. Zhou Jie held my hand, and I could feel his gratitude.
During our days in the hospital, we met Zhou Jie's sister, Zhou Lin. She had just returned from abroad and rushed home as soon as she heard about her mother's illness. Zhou Lin looked anxious, but after seeing us, she seemed a little more relaxed.
"Quietly, Jay, it's really hard for you. I'm not here during this time, and everything at home depends on you. Zhou Lin said apologetically.
"Sister, this is what we should do. Now that you're back, you can help take care of your mom more. Zhou Jie replied.
The three of us sat in the hospital café and discussed in detail the various possibilities of treatment and the future arrangements for the family.
"I'll try to spend as much time here as possible. Also, I contacted some specialists in the hope of finding the best treatment for my mother. Zhou Lin said, revealing her determination and love.
During those difficult days, despite all the challenges, my relationship with Zhou Jie became stronger unconsciously. We begin to rely more on each other and face the ups and downs of life together.
One night, on a bench in the hospital, Zhou Jie clasped my hand and whispered, "Jingjing, thank you for your support and understanding of me and my family during this time. I know I probably wouldn't have been able to hold on like this without you. ”
"We're family, Jay. No matter what happens, we're all in this together. I replied, filled with love for this home and hope for the future.
Through these experiences, we learned how to find support in difficulties and how to move forward in the face of setbacks. While life isn't always as perfect as we'd like it to be, it's these imperfections that teach us to value each other and cherish every moment we have now. Our story may not have a romantic love at first sight, but it is full of deeper acquaintances and companionship.
After several months of hard work, Zhou Jie's mother's condition finally stabilized. All of us were relaxed, Zhou Lin was ready to return abroad to continue her work, and we started planning some family gatherings in the hope of returning to the warmth and harmony of the past.
One day, Zhou Jie proposed: "Quietly, this weekend we can organize a family gathering, invite parents and Linlin to gather at home to celebrate Mom's recovery." What do you think?"
"Good idea, I can prepare some special dishes and also relax your parents. I replied, planning the menu and setting up in mind.
On the day of the party, the weather was unusually sunny, and the sun was shining all over our warm little home. I prepared many home-cooked dishes, including braised pork and steamed fish, which Zhou's mother loved. Zhou Jie is responsible for setting the table and choosing music, and the whole home is warm and comfortable.
Zhou's parents and Zhou Lin arrived on time. As soon as Zhou's mother entered the door, she was attracted by the beautifully furnished living room and fragrant meals.
"Oh, so rich! Zhou's mother was amazed.
"It's all quietly credited, and I'm just doing a little favor. Zhou Jie said with a smile, his eyes full of gratitude to me.
At the dinner table, everyone sat around and the atmosphere was very harmonious. Father Zhou opened a bottle of red wine from his treasure and said with great interest: "This is to celebrate the biggest good news for our family, the recovery of Jie's mother, and the reunion of our family again." ”
After three rounds of wine and five flavors of food, Zhou Lin proposed: "Let's play a game, everyone talks about their recent little luck, and shares something positive." ”
"I'll do it first. Zhou's mother smiled and said, "My little luck is to be able to see my family reunited, and to see Jie and Jingjing so harmonious, it makes me feel very warm." ”
When it was Zhou Jie's turn, he glanced at me and said, "I am indeed fortunate to see that my mother's health has improved greatly, and Jingjing has always been by my side, giving me infinite support and love." ”
When it was my turn, I said, "My little blessing is the happiness and peace of our family now, and the ability to share every moment of life with my family." ”
After the party, Zhou Lin came to me alone, her expression was a little serious: "Jingjing, I actually want to say all along, thank you for your dedication and care for our family over the years." I know Jay has said a bit too much to you before, but I really hope you can be so happy forever. ”
"Thank you Linlin, I see. We'll be fine. I replied, grateful for her understanding and support.
After that, life gradually returned to calm. Zhou Jie also began to work harder, and our relationship became more stable. While life isn't always as flawless as it seems, it's the ups and downs that make our relationships deeper.
I've come to realize that a true relationship doesn't need to be deliberately romantic, but rather to find support and comfort in ordinary life and face the ups and downs of life together. All this experience has made me cherish even more what we have now. Our home, although not perfect at first, is the result of our joint efforts, full of love and warmth.
A few months later, in the cold winter wind, our family ushered in a special celebration - Xiaobao's full moon feast. This time, we decided to host a warm gathering at our home and invite friends and family to share our joy together.
The day before the banquet, Zhou Jie and I were busy preparing various matters. I'm in charge of food and drink, and Zhou Jie is in charge of liaising with friends and family and making sure every corner of the house is cosy and comfortable.
"Jingjing, how do you see this banner hanging here?" Zhou Jie asked my opinion while adjusting the banner.
"Move a little further to the left, yes, that's it. I replied, still holding a plate of freshly baked cakes.
Finally, everything is ready. The next day, the guests arrived one after another, each with a happy smile on their faces. My parents and Zhou Jie's parents also came, and their faces were filled with pride and love for their grandson.
Mother Zhou took my hand and said with emotion: "Jingjing, you see how cute this little guy is, so many people come to see him, he is really a little star in our family." ”
"Yes, Mom, Jay and I are also very happy. Look at him, how well he sleeps. I replied with a smile, my heart full of happiness and contentment.
During the banquet, Zhou Jie picked up the microphone, cleared his throat, and began to speak: "Dear family and friends, thank you for coming to our son's full moon banquet today. In the past month, we have experienced a lot, both joys and challenges. But seeing the little one grow up healthily, all the fatigue melts away. Thank you again for your blessings and support, and we will continue to work hard to be a good parent and give him the best of everything. ”
Applause and laughter filled the living room. Then, my father also stood up, his voice a little excited: "I have to say a few words too." Seeing Jingjing and Jie set up their own small family, and now there is Xiaobao again, as a grandfather, I feel happy. I hope that Xiaobao will grow up healthy and happy, and I also hope that Jingjing and Jie can continue to walk hand in hand to make this family better and better. ”
As the feast continued, laughter and chatter continued. I walked around making sure every guest felt comfortable and welcome. Zhou Lin also came with her fiancé, and the two looked very affectionate.
"Jingjing, you guys are doing so well, Xiaobao looks healthy. You and Zhou Jie are really a natural pair. Zhou Lin took my hand, her eyes full of appreciation.
"Thank you Linlin, with your support, we will work harder. I replied gratefully.
In the evening, when the last guest left, Zhou Jie and I sat on the sofa together, looking at Xiaobao sleeping in the cradle opposite, feeling unprecedented peace and happiness.
Zhou Jie gently put his hand on my shoulder: "Quietly, with you and Xiaobao, I have the whole world." ”
I snuggled up to his shoulder and replied softly, "Let's work together, for Xiaobao, and for our family." ”
On that night, all worries seemed to drift away with the night wind. We know that there is still a long way to go, but as long as we are together, nothing is impossible. Although this home was not perfect at the beginning, it is a harbor that we build with love, brick by brick. We will face all the challenges together and weave more beautiful memories together.
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