Before reading, I would like to remind you that this article is for informational entertainment only and should not be superstitious!
Cao Cao, a generation of heroes, was in power for a while, but he could not escape the tricks of fate. According to the "Chronicles of the Three Kingdoms", Cao Cao suffered from headaches and sought countless unsuccessful medical treatments, and finally found the famous doctor Hua Tuo.
Hua Tuo, with his superb medical skills, relieved Cao Cao's pain many times. However, just when Cao Cao was expecting Hua Tuo to completely cure himself, Hua Tuo angered the suspicious Cao Cao by proposing a treatment plan for craniotomy, which eventually led to Hua Tuo's unfortunate ending.
Cao Cao mistakenly thought that Hua Tuo wanted to harm him, and this misunderstanding not only ruined the life of Hua Tuo, a medical wizard, but also made Cao Cao lose his last hope of curing his headache. This story profoundly reflects that even a powerful figure like Cao Cao could not predict the sudden changes in life, let alone escape the impermanence of fate.
This story is not only a lament of the impermanence of personal fate, but also a profound portrayal of the unpredictability of the world.
As the saying goes, "there are unforeseen circumstances in the sky, and people have good and bad luck", and the rise and fall of a family is often not completely controlled by manpower. In the darkness, there always seems to be some omen, hinting at the fate of the family.
Today, we're going to talk about the "providence" that may signal the decline of your family, and see if these hints have appeared in your life.
First, the family and everything prospers, and if there is discord, it declines
There is a family living in the village, surnamed Li, known as "Hele Li Mansion". This family has been cultivating and reading for generations, and the family style is pure, and there is often a saying in the neighborhood: "In the Li Mansion, the father and son are harmonious and the family does not retreat, the brothers are harmonious and the family is not separated, and the husband and wife are harmonious and the family is prosperous." ”
The protagonist of the story is Li Wenzheng, the head of the Li Mansion, and his two sons, Li Zhong and Li Xiao, as well as Li Wenzheng's wife, Wang. Li Wenzheng is not only proficient in poetry and books, but also a wise man who is well versed in the way of family and prosperity. He often said to his family: "Home and harmony are like the warm sun of spring, which can dispel all frost." ”
One day, Liucun was hit by a drought not seen in many years, and the crops withered, seriously threatening the livelihood of the villagers. Faced with this scene, Li Wenzheng gathered the whole family and said: "Although natural disasters are unpredictable, people's hearts can be gathered. We, fathers, sons, brothers, husbands and wives work together to overcome this difficult time. Li Wenzheng led his two sons to dig a canal to divert water, while Wang organized the family's daughters to weave baskets and make handicrafts for food exchange.
During these difficult days, the two brothers, Li Zhong and Li Xiao, despite their very different personalities, showed unprecedented unity. Li Zhong is brave and powerful, and is responsible for physical work, while Li Xiao is delicate and good at planning and planning. They work together during the day and discuss countermeasures around the fireplace at night, and the brotherhood grows deeper in the face of common challenges.
At the same time, the relationship between Li Wenzheng and Wang's husband and wife has also become a stable force in the family. Wong not only gave her husband great support in family matters, but also encouraged the family to be optimistic. She often said, "As long as there is love in the heart, the family will not be separated." ”
After months of hard work, Li was able to irrigate not only his own fields, but also other families in the village. The villagers were deeply moved and followed the example of the Li Mansion, united and helped each other, and finally defeated the drought together.
The wise saying in "Zengguang Xianwen" "Father and son are harmonious and the family does not retreat, brothers are harmonious and the family is not separated, and the husband and wife are harmonious and the family is prosperous", which profoundly expresses the importance of family harmony.
In ancient societies, family unity and harmony were seen as the cornerstone of prosperity. This concept is not groundless, but the crystallization of wisdom summed up by the ancients in their long-term life practice.
Confucius once said: "Gentlemen are harmonious but different, villains are the same but not harmonious." This also applies to family relationships. There will inevitably be differences and differences among family members, but true harmony is not about eliminating these differences, but about reaching a consensus based on respect and understanding and working together for the prosperity of the family.
When there is harmony in the home, the family can feel warmth and support, so that they can come together to face life's challenges together.
However, "every family has a scripture that is difficult to read", and disputes and contradictions will inevitably arise in the family.
At this time, we should remember the old proverb: "Home and all things prosper". If the family is harmonious, the hearts of the people are united, and the hearts of the people are united. On the contrary, when there are constant disputes and conflicts in the family, this is a precursor to the decline of the family.
"Family discord, outsiders bully", internal disputes will only lead to the decay of the family and the outside world to take advantage of the situation.
Second, diligent and thrifty, luxury and bankruptcy
"After a look at the former virtuous country and home, the success is due to diligence and thrift, and the defeat is due to luxury. This famous sentence of the Tang Dynasty poet Li Shangyin in "Yongshi" is like a morning bell and a dusk drum, always reminding us of the importance of diligence and thrift.
Diligence and thrift are not only the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, but also the secret of the prosperity of the family.
Looking back at the long history, countless families have prospered because of diligence and thrift, and declined due to luxury.
As it is said in "Qi Min's Technique": "Those who are diligent are also the treasure of their bodies, and those who are thrifty are also rich in their families." As an encyclopedia of ancient agriculture, this book profoundly expounds the importance of hard work and thrift to the prosperity of the family.
When we turn the pages of history, it is not difficult to find that those families that can be passed down from generation to generation all take diligence and thrift as a family motto.
Gu Shiyun: "On the afternoon of hoeing day, sweat drops fall into the soil." Who knows that Chinese food is hard work. "Every grain of grain is hard-won and is the crystallization of the hard work of farmers.
This warns us to cherish our hard-won wealth and avoid extravagance and waste. Once extravagance prevails, the decline of the family is not far off.
In ancient China, there was a story of "Shi Chong Doufu".
Shi Chong was a wealthy man in the Western Jin Dynasty, he lived in extreme luxury, with countless treasures in his family, and even compared with the emperor's own uncle Wang Kai.
However, his extravagant life did not bring him long-term wealth, but instead attracted his death.
This story warns us that extravagance can lead not only to the decay of a family, but even to its ruin.
Let's take a look at a foreign story. The aristocrats of the Roman Empire, who took pride in extravagance and pleasure, spent extravagantly, which eventually led to the decline of the empire. These historical stories all tell us the same truth: thrift is the cornerstone of a family's prosperity, and luxury is the beginning of decline.
There is a popular saying: "Diligence and thrift are a treasure, and they are inseparable from each other in life." This sentence is simple and straightforward about the importance of thrift for individuals and families.
Only by being diligent and thrifty can we accumulate wealth and prosper, while extravagance and waste will only lead to the decay of the family.
3. Arrogant and lascivious, the family will decline
In the ancient Central Plains, there was a prominent family in the city - the Zhao Mansion. The Zhao Mansion has been an official for generations, with prominent power and a huge family business. However, with the passage of time, by Zhao Ming's generation, the fate of the family has undergone a dramatic change due to the eight-character warning of "arrogance and lasciviousness, and the family will decline".
Zhao Ming has lived in fine clothes and jade food since he was a child, and he does not know the suffering of the world. After inheriting a huge family fortune, instead of cherishing the hard work of his ancestors, he indulged in pleasures. He built a large number of buildings, built luxurious mansions, entertained guests, sang songs night after night, and spent gold and silver like flowing water in a luxurious life. There were many servants in the house, but he turned a blind eye to their toil and pursued personal pleasure.
Zhao Ming's arrogance is not only reflected in material enjoyment, he is also addicted to power games, abuses power, oppresses the people, and gradually loses the hearts of the people. His siblings were also affected by it, competing with each other, and the family was full of internal contradictions, losing the harmony of the past.
Just when the Zhao Mansion was immersed in endless luxury, a sudden natural disaster and years of war caused the people's livelihood to wither and the economy to decline. The Zhao Mansion's sources of wealth, farmland and shops, were poorly managed, and their profits plummeted. In addition, Zhao Ming was investigated by the imperial court for corruption and bribery, the family's reputation plummeted, and former allies left one after another.
In the end, due to the rupture of the capital chain and the high debts, the once glorious mansion had to be sold to pay off the debts, the family members were displaced, and the former prosperity dissipated like a dream. Zhao Ming repented in poverty and sighed: "Arrogant and lascivious, if you really have a family, you will decline!"
This story spread among the people and became an allusion to warn future generations, reminding people that no matter what position they are in, they should be diligent and thrifty, and guard against arrogance and rashness, otherwise no matter how rich they are, they will eventually come to naught.
"Pride is born of wealth, and chaos is born of negligence. This ancient wisdom is like a morning bell and a dusk drum, always alerting us.
When a person or a family begins to indulge in extravagance and indulgence after becoming wealthy, then their decay is already quietly brewing. Throughout history, countless dynasties and illustrious families have declined due to extravagance and indulgence, and there are countless examples of this.
"Tao Te Ching" in the clouds: "The hall is full of gold and jade, and Mo can keep it; rich and arrogant, self-indulgent." It is intended to warn us that even if our family is wealthy, if we are proud and complacent because of wealth, we will eventually invite disaster.
This profound philosophy is not only a teaching to the ancients, but also a wake-up call to our modern people.
In modern society, we can still see this phenomenon. Some people, after achieving something, start to get complacent and get carried away.
They indulge in material comforts and pursue a life of luxury, but they forget humility and low profile.
As the saying goes, "When the sky is mad, there will be rain, and if the man is mad, there will be woe." This kind of extravagant and lascivious lifestyle will only lead to the decline of the family in the end.
Fourth, ignoring education leaves future generations hopeless
"Though your children are foolish, you must not fail to read the scriptures. This ancient proverb embodies the Chinese nation's profound understanding of education.
Education is the foundation of family inheritance and the only way for future generations to become talents. If a family wants to prosper for a long time, the importance of education can be said to be the most important.
Looking back at history, those families that have been able to endure for a long time have all regarded education as the core of their family heritage.
As the "Three Character Classic" says: "If jade is not cut, it will not be made, and people will not learn and will not know righteousness." "Education is as indispensable to the growth of the individual as carving is to the perfection of jade.
If the descendants of the family ignore education and do not seek advancement, then the future development of the family will naturally be worried.
There are many examples of families in ancient times who prospered because of their emphasis on education.
For example, the famous "Three Sus" of the Song Dynasty - Su Xun, Su Shi, and Su Zhe, it is precisely because of the family's extreme emphasis on education that these three literary giants were cultivated, and their articles have been passed down through the ages and become treasures of Chinese culture.
On the other hand, there are also some families that have gradually declined due to neglect of education, and there are countless cases of this in history.
It has become a social consensus that knowledge changes destiny and education achieves the future.
Modern people know that without the reserve of knowledge and the acquisition of skills, it is difficult to gain a foothold in this era of rapid change.
However, there are also families who ignore the importance of education for various reasons.
They may think that material wealth is the key to the prosperity of the family, but they ignore the inheritance of spiritual wealth. Such a family, even if it is temporarily prosperous, can hardly guarantee the sustainable development of future generations.
Knowledge is power, and education is the source of long-term prosperity of the family.
Albert Einstein once said, "The primary goal of education is always independent thinking and judgment, not specific knowledge." This sentence profoundly reveals the essence of education.
Fifth, if the family style is not right, there will be disaster
"If the family style is right, the descendants will be right, and if the family style is evil, the descendants will be evil. "Family style, like the soul of the family, subtly influences the way each generation thinks and acts.
In the traditional concept of Chinese culture, the importance of family style is self-evident, it is related to the glory and disgrace of the family, the rise and fall of the family.
There is a cloud in the "Book of Filial Piety": "Those who love their relatives dare not be evil to others; "Filial piety is fundamental in the family ethos, which teaches us to respect and care for our elders, which in turn extends to respect and kindness to others.
A family based on filial piety must have a positive family style and be able to cultivate virtuous and responsible offspring.
However, when there are bad family habits such as greed, selfishness, and hypocrisy in the family, these negative energies will spread in the family like a virus.
"The upper beam is not right, and the lower beam is crooked. "The words and deeds of the elders of the family often become role models for their children and grandchildren, and the bad family style is passed down from generation to generation.
"Dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and the sons of rats make holes. Although this is a joke, it also reflects the far-reaching influence of family style on the character and behavior habits of future generations.
If the family style is not right, the future generations will easily be contaminated with bad habits, and even go to the road of breaking the law and committing crimes, bringing serious disasters to the family.
"Teaching by example is more important than teaching. "As a member of the family, each of us should lead by example and establish a good family style.
Only with a positive family style can we cultivate excellent offspring and provide a solid foundation for the prosperity of the family.
To sum up, "the day is going to die, and there will be an omen." When the above five situations occur in a family, it needs to be paid close attention.
We must always maintain a vigilant and introspective attitude, and promptly discover and correct the problems and hidden dangers in the family.
Only in this way can we ensure the prosperity and longevity of our family.
May every family be prosperous and full of children and grandchildren!