Preface
Every time I read an article similar to Kaiyan, I will feel a joy in my heart, joy in the awakening of a life, and joy in a family embarking on a happier path.
This joy is not because of the value of one's work, but the simplest and purest joy for the blooming of life, so many years of hard work to engage in the cause of love and happiness, most of the reason is that the heart is always because of the joy of helping others.
Love is selfless, whether a person has love or not, the key is not to see "whether to pay", but to see "whether to reciprocate", the key is not to see "whether to have material returns", but to see "whether to have psychological and spiritual returns", the deepest hidden returns are similar to "I work so hard just for you to have a good time?", "I love you so much, why don't you love me?", "I work so tired every day, can you go home and not nag?".
Please remember that "love is not exchanged, love is not taken, love has nothing to do with others but only about yourself, all human suffering comes from hoping to get but not getting, when you don't want to get, either you are selfish and desperate, or you are selfless and loving in your heart, when you have love, what you get will be the whole world".
Recently, I have studied 17 new tracking models, especially daily homework, everyone writes together to write about their feelings, and they feel each other's feelings together, and learning other people's composition patterns makes many people's lives grow rapidly, and I am also pleased to see that many WeChat groups have begun to learn "Love Patrol Mountain" I feel the cohesion of the positive energy of the big family of love and happiness, and feel the power of everyone, I believe that this model will allow more people to grow better, and let more people precipitate out to love the country, love the society, and love others. The feeling that love brings to others is "warmth and strength".
Have I really loved someone? Have I really loved my husband?
Text: Love and Happiness Family Kaiyan (Yunnan)
Last night, I accompanied my husband to a comrade-in-arms party, and during the dinner, I heard my husband's military school classmates reminiscing about their life in military school. My husband's classmates said that my husband's family was very poor since he was a child, and he never wore shoes from elementary school to junior high school. When I was in military school, everyone was very poor, and my husband had to pay for my younger brother's tuition, but that's it, my husband also spent money to invite his classmates to dinner and talk to his classmates, so that his classmates still remember it deeply.
I've heard these things before, but I don't feel anything about them. And last night, when I heard this, I had a feeling of wanting to cry, (Teacher Zheng Wei: Learning love and happiness, soaking in love, feeling in activities, and constantly vipassana, slowly moving my heart and softening my heart, you can slowly feel others and yourself. I suddenly felt that my husband's personality was so great, he was not defeated by poverty, he did not become calculating because of poverty, but always and everywhere for the sake of others, willing to give everything for others.
After I got home, I began to write my homework for today's homework left by Teacher Seventeen: Write a vipassana essay with the title of "Have I Really Loved My Husband?", writing and writing, I suddenly saw very clearly the pattern of my relationship with my husband after getting married, I have been extremely selfish trapped in my own feelings and needs to ask for my husband, demand my husband with my own standards, and judge my husband.
I have never seen my husband's life, I have never seen my husband's needs, I feel that everything he does is what it should be, and I have never considered his feelings from his point of view. (Teacher Zheng Wei: This is the role played by many women in marriage today, they pay attention to the family, pay attention to the children, but often ignore that the husband is also a person, and the heart is also a little boy, who needs warmth and respect, and simply thinks that "loving the family, loving the children is loving the husband", "taking care of life as love, and forgetting to care about the inner needs of the husband This man, when the family cares more than the care, the family begins to have love, but how many people take care of it?!) Writing, writing, there is a feeling of wanting to cry. I feel very sorry for my husband, and I especially want to tell my husband that I am too selfish, and I love him very much.
After I finished writing, I walked up to my husband and said to him, "Husband, I want to hug you!" I hugged my husband, and I cried bitterly, I said, husband, I am so selfish, I am sorry for my husband, I have never considered my husband's needs...... (Teacher Zheng Wei: At this moment, Kaiyan's life has awakened again, and once again ushered in another "sudden day" in life, congratulations to Kaiyan at the moment, and blessings to Kaiyan in the future.) My husband hugged me warmly and forcefully and said that the previous things will pass, we have to look forward, and we will all get better and better.
My husband said that I have grown up in the past two years, and he used to think that one day, I will understand everything he has done, but I didn't expect that this day would come so soon. My husband said, if I am like this, he will feel pressured, and he will definitely work hard. Every word of my husband made me feel extremely warm and powerful, I showed my homework to my husband and cried happily in my husband's arms. I felt that my heart and my husband's heart were tightly together, and this feeling was very beautiful.
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