Parents are the curtain between us and death.
Along the way in life, we will come to the story of life and death, but it is always not clear enough.
Until your parents pass away, you are closer to the threshold of life and death, and you have become a curtain between your children and death.
The reality is so cruel, and time will reveal the truth of the world little by little.
In the days after their parents died, siblings were busy receiving guests, distributing property and funeral expenses.
For some time after the death of their parents, siblings comforted each other and walked through their grief together.
We always say, "When your parents are gone, you have to move around more in the future." ”
Five years later, if you go to your siblings' house again, the taste of human affection will be very different.
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People who are calculating make you feel like you're on pins and needles.
Netizen "Wu Jia" said: "I am the fifth child, I live in the county, and my mother also received my home. After a long time, my brothers and sisters thought that my mother should be taken care of by me, and I was really speechless. ”
I think many families have a similar situation with netizens.
If you are the most capable and have the money, you have to take care of your parents, and if your parents send you to college and no one else is not, then you have to be nice to your family, and if you take care of your parents' passbooks, you get countless benefits, and your money is emptied......
No matter what you say, it's someone else's truth, and you can't argue. Especially when parents need to take care of them, everyone is concerned about money and time.
I thought that after my parents left, there would be no problem of competing interests between siblings. It's going to be a pleasure to meet.
The tragedy is that some people are accustomed to "accusations and calculations" in front of you, and if you calculate economic interests, it is like pouring beans from a bamboo tube, which makes your ears calloused.
You sit in the living room of your siblings' house, surrounded by scheming people, turning over old accounts and talking about money, as if they were driving you away. Painful memories emerge little by little.
Stay a little longer, and you'll feel redundant. If you retort a few words, the two of you will definitely quarrel.
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People who have not seen each other for a long time have nothing to say.
When you go to a class reunion, you have the feeling that you don't know how to talk about anything other than about school and what will happen in the future.
Outside the school gate, we began to become strangers, each other's faces were familiar, but the experiences were varied.
If you haven't attended the party for more than ten years, you won't be able to name some of your classmates.
Words such as "Stars Change" and "Time Changes" have finally fallen into our lives.
The same is true for family relations. One is in the south, the other is in the north, one is in the countryside, the other is in the city, they don't see each other for a long time, and occasionally talk a few words in the group of relatives, just like strangers.
One thing was written in the "Xiaoxiang Morning News".
In Zibo, Shandong, Jiang, a college student, came home from winter vacation and shouted at the door: "Mom and Dad, I'm back." ”
No one in the house responded, and when they opened the door, they found dust everywhere.
It turned out that Mom and Dad had moved, but they didn't tell him.
Some netizens ridiculed: "How long has it been since I called home? ”
"Zengguang Xianwen" said: "If you don't come to the door for three years, you won't be a kiss." ”
Whether it is between parents and children, or between brothers and sisters, if there is no contact for a long time, the relationship will be estranged. Together, they can't find a topic.
Especially some introverts, if you ask a question, he answers, or he doesn't answer for half a day, which makes you feel cold.
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The richer people are worried about you borrowing money.
As the saying goes, "If you have nothing to do, you will go to the Three Treasures Hall." ”
You're fine, why are you going to your siblings' house? Usually you have to go, it's also for birthdays, moving, children's going to school, etc.
If you haven't contacted your siblings for a long time, suddenly go for a walk. The other person will beckon you to dinner, but they will also wonder, "What is the matter?
Come to think of it, money is the most important thing in this life. So you're mostly going around for money.
For the poor, you can go and eat, but for the rich, you may have to borrow money.
In order to prevent you from borrowing money, your siblings will also use words such as crying about poverty, saying that money is fixed, and that money is emptied by children.
Listening to the words of your siblings, you are very inexplicable. Why can't we say anything other than interests, be simple?
"Don't talk about money, talking about money hurts feelings", if you really want to talk about money, your feelings will be difficult to handle.
People who have money in their hands may not necessarily be generous, but beware of you. It is understandable that people have a selfish side, but it is uncomfortable for brothers and sisters to guard against thieves.
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You cherish the affection of the bloodline, perhaps wishful thinking.
Some friends often boast that his younger brother started a business in Nanjing and set up a fairly large factory.
By chance, I accompanied a friend to Nanjing to run errands.
Walking out of the high-speed rail station, my friend grabbed me and said, "Wait a minute, my brother will drive to pick us up." ”
After waiting for a long time, my brother didn't come, but just told his friend: "It's busy, you can take a ride by yourself." ”
After finishing the work, my friend wanted to go to my brother's factory to have a look, so I took a ride and took a long detour.
I finally saw my brother, but he was in the office, making a half-hour phone call and leaving us aside.
After a hurried meal together, the younger brother said, "Sit casually, I'll be busy for a while......"
Since then, friends have stopped boasting about their brother.
The feelings between people go both ways. Family affection too.
My parents have passed away for many years, and we rarely get together all year round. People who make a living in other places may not return to their hometowns.
More and more people, socializing is very realistic. I don't want any friends, or just keep some friends of interest, and I am very indifferent to my relatives.
People rely on themselves, and if they pull their feelings too much, they will inevitably be trapped by their feelings.
Your enthusiasm may be blocked back by the other party, giving a scoop of cold water.
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In "Zengguang Xianwen", it is said: "Childhood is a brother, growing up in the township." ”
When parents, children, brothers and sisters grow up, they begin to become a "township" relationship. My parents have been gone for five years, and I am the "villager" person in my memory.
Too many people are better to miss each other than to see each other, and it is better to forget each other in the rivers and lakes.
If you have several siblings, choose to have sex as well.
People who are very close to each other move around and help each other, people who are very selfish and do not seek profit and live separately, and those who settle in distant places gradually drift away in the wind and do not force them.
The years are ruthless, and brothers and sisters have changed from relatives to relatives, and you can't help it.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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