Some people are resolutely reluctant to cohabit.
I think I should get married first, and all things should be talked about after I get married.
If you are more reserved and conservative, and you can get married and live together, of course, there is nothing wrong with that, no matter what era you are, everyone can have their own ideas, and this concept will never go out of style.
Of course, if you are willing to live together, there is nothing wrong with it, and you can feel the marriage model in advance.
In this process, you can learn more about each other, and you can also see if you really fit each other.
Premarital cohabitation, as long as both parties find it feasible, it is okay, and they can live under the same roof or even sleep together.
It's just that when choosing to live together, there are some issues that still need to be paid attention to.
The feelings are in place, and they do recognize each other.
There are always some men and women, two people have not known each other for a long time, and they don't know each other at all, and then they live together casually, and soon live together, and then after living together, they find that it is not like that, and they quickly forget it.
Hasty cohabitation, that's not advisable, even if this era is very open, it's better not to be so casual.
This will really hurt feelings, cause a lot of shock to yourself, and also hurt yourself a lot.
You still have to be cautious and decide to live with someone, not on a whim, but because you have been in contact with each other for a period of time, you know each other well enough, and you feel that each other is not bad, and the relationship has reached this point.
In other words, I feel that the other party is a good marriage partner, and I have that will in my heart.
If you want to marry each other, you are willing to try out marriage with each other before you get married, to experience what it is like to live with each other, and then think about marrying each other if it feels good.
With such a mentality, if you go to live together, you will not seem to be so casual, and it will seem more legitimate.
For this reason, you will be more acceptable, you can pass the psychological level, and you will not always be haunted because you live together easily, and you will be able to get along with each other better, and it will not be easy to come to an end.
Pay attention to protection, don't have children yet.
Since we all live together, if nothing happens, it will naturally be a little unrealistic.
Even if they slept in separate rooms at first, although they slept together but slept separately, that situation would eventually be broken, and it would be easy for each other to actually be in close contact with each other and really have a relationship.
When the relationship reaches that point, the atmosphere arrives, it happens naturally, and it doesn't matter.
It's possible to have a relationship, but it's important to remember that you don't leave anything to chance, and you must take protective measures. Men must know how to feel sorry for women and think for women, and women must also keep their own principles and know how to protect themselves.
Before you are really married and both of you are ready, don't get pregnant first and disrupt each other's rhythm.
Because at this stage, you may not want to have children and be responsible for them, and because this relationship is not so certain, it is very likely that there will be problems in the future.
As an adult, you must remember the word responsibility, and you must really take responsibility well, and don't be too casual and reckless about the consequences.
Having a child, after all, is a big deal, after having a child, it will really subvert life, so that everything is no longer the same, and it is not so easy to become a qualified parent, you need to get along well, you all look forward to your child, and you are willing to guard.
We all have to work hard and run in with each other.
Once they live together, some people will start to slack off, feeling that everything is settled and there is no need to behave well.
Such thoughts and behaviors, that is naturally not good, even if they live together, they still have to manage this relationship well, only if they are always serious and pious, it is possible to really come to the day of marriage.
Of course, in cohabitation, there are often a lot of contradictions and disagreements, you will find that the other party does not seem to be so different from what you imagined, you will find that each other's living habits are inconsistent, and there will be some unspeakable things in money.
There are too many things, and it is always easy to make each other feel a little uncomfortable, and they will doubt the relationship and have a lot to think about.
You can think about it, but you don't have to really feel inappropriate or even choose to give up all of a sudden.
We must communicate well, express our thoughts, see each other's truest appearance, run in some habits, and find a more suitable way to get along with each other, so that we can get along better and better.
We all have to have that kind of mind, we all have to be willing to make some compromises and changes, and work together for the future.
Go through one hurdle after another, so that each other can really walk together in the end, and you can enter the marriage very smoothly, and after getting married, you can get along very comfortably, and you can get nourishment from this relationship.
Cohabitation before marriage has long been a very normal and common phenomenon.
You can live with the person you like before you are married, but you must think clearly about the meaning of what you do, and you must also make cohabitation worthwhile, and there will be no troublesome problems.
Pay attention, and then just enjoy the years from one person to two people.
To feel the happiness of someone waiting, to experience the warmth of someone always by your side, and to spend time with each other often.
Enjoy that time and feel the fun out of the ordinary.
Then, when the run-in is almost over, and the temperament of each other is clear, they will get married as soon as possible.
In addition, if cohabitation is too painful, and you find that the three views are very incompatible, there is really no way to get along well, and you don't have to force it, just end it as soon as possible, there is no need to feel at a loss, and it is better to separate after living together than to separate after marriage, and it will save much trouble.
Text / Tan Meng
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