Love is not just spoken, it is done.
To love or not to love, how deep to love, is in daily action.
Actor Chen Daoming said:
The love between husband and wife is not when the moon goes down before the flowers, but when the catastrophe comes.
Whether a man loves you or not, you will know if you encounter a catastrophe.
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When the catastrophe came, the man's attitude showed sincerity
Seen a true story.
A doctor and his wife, both from ordinary families in 18th-tier towns, from the campus to the wedding dress, supported each other all the way, and finally got a decent job, settled in the provincial capital, and went through the most difficult moment of their lives.
Seeing that life was getting better and better, but when he was married for three years, his wife, who was a doctor, was diagnosed with a terminal illness, and the doctor's husband learned that he almost did not hesitate and entangle, knelt in front of his wife and father-in-law, and begged his wife and father-in-law to let him live.
He said to his wife:
I am a rural child, it is not easy to get to this day, I don't want my life to fall into an endless abyss from now on, I give you a house and a car, I just ask you to let me go.
The wife didn't say much and silently agreed to the divorce. Although she does need a man's help in terms of emotional and life needs, she chooses to let go of the man and let herself go.
She said:
It is human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, so choose to understand.
There is a saying that says:
The people who love you the most do not come because of your light, but give you the firmest support in your most difficult times.
Whether a man really loves you or not, when a catastrophe comes, his attitude can reveal the truth.
The person who truly loves you will stand firmly with you, not evasive, not shirk, and will not only consider their own interests. He will use his strength to give you confidence and support you.
People who don't love you only use a quick escape to interpret such a sentence:
Husband and wife were originally birds of the same forest, and they flew separately when disaster came.
No matter how much sweet words and vows are made, they can't withstand the support and cherishment of you when the disaster comes, which is the best note of his sincerity to you.
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When the catastrophe comes, the man's sincerity is support and support
Yishu Says:
Why do people want to get married, it's not because life is not easy, and they need to find someone to help each other in the same boat.
Life in the world, it has always been easy to add icing on the cake, it is difficult to send charcoal in the snow, and when the catastrophe comes, a man's greatest sincerity is to be willing to show real support and support.
There is a real interview story that has touched many people.
The man and his wife are junior high school classmates, both come from single-parent families, and both have an unhappy childhood and upbringing.
After getting married, the two of them built their own small home little by little like swallows and raised two daughters. Although the days were difficult and hard, it was the sweetest six years for them.
Soon after the birth of the youngest daughter, his wife was diagnosed with a terminal illness, and her intelligence deteriorated sharply to the state of a young child. So, the man took his four-year-old eldest daughter and his one-and-a-half-year-old daughter in his arms, and took his wife to the hospital for medical treatment.
After more than four years of such hardship, the man ran out of ammunition and had to take his wife home. In order to be able to feed a family of four, in order to give his wife better nutrition, the man takes care of his wife during the day, goes out to run takeaways at night, finishes work at 4 o'clock in the morning every day, gets up at 6 o'clock in the morning, and does not dare to rest for a day until his wife dies.
After his wife left, he took his two daughters and began a journey to earn money to pay off his debts. In the face of the host's question about sincerity, he said very frankly:
There are always people who question that there is no sincerity in this society now, in fact, this is not the case, in the four years that I accompanied my wife for treatment, I have seen too many husbands and wives who never give up, they are all ordinary people, even the lowest level of society, but they have not said that they can easily give up a person's life.
The man never mentioned his sacrifice and dedication, but he always felt guilty: in the years when his wife was in good health, because he was busy earning money, he gave his wife too little company.
In "Dear Andrei", a passage from a father to his child explains the essence of marriage:
The partner you need is the kind of person who can stand side by side with you in the bow of the boat, sing the scenery on both sides of the river, and at the same time hold your hand tightly in the rough seas.
Regardless of men and women, on the road of life, don't give your true feelings to people who are unwilling to work together and share weal and woe.
This is the greatest responsibility for oneself and one's own life.