Zhang Ailing said:
Some people say that once a man changes his mind, the nine cows will not be able to pull it back, but if a woman changes his mind, the nine cows will be able to pull it back? There are only physical differences between men and women, and there are similar psychological aspects.
A woman in marriage, once she has two hearts, will definitely do something to satisfy her selfish desires and damage the interests of the family.
For example, find an extramarital lover.
Moreover, women who have two hearts in marriage will consciously or unconsciously develop these kinds of men into their extramarital lovers.
One
A man who is warm and caring, and satisfies emotional values
At the age of Ben Wu, Sister Zhou cheated and betrayed her family. Not only did her husband not expect this, but even Sister Zhou herself did not expect it.
But Sister Zhou finally took that step and didn't regret it at all.
Sister Zhou and her husband have been married for 25 years, and they have been working hard and willingly for the family. In the past 25 years, Sister Zhou has taken care of the housework with her children while working, and she has almost lost herself.
But what makes her sadest the most is that after 25 years of marriage, she has never felt the warmth of the family in her husband. The man is a typical machismo, in his concept, as long as he earns money to go home, he has completed the greatest contribution to the family, and he deserves to be the manager of other things.
So Sister Zhou once sighed and said:
As a mother, a wife, a daughter, and a daughter-in-law, I am all called the title of heart, but I am myself, and I have almost zero points.
Because she can't feel the warmth of the family all the year round, Sister Zhou has long lost confidence and expectations in this marriage, when a man once treated her coldly and violently because of a trivial matter, the balance in her heart finally favored the man outside of marriage.
That man, like Sister Zhou, has never felt the warmth of his wife's family in his decades of marriage, and the two have always sympathized with each other and sympathized with each other.
In the end, under the impetus of Sister Zhou's husband's cold violence, the two came together.
In marriage, women are eager to be tolerant, considerate, and warm-hearted, when men can't meet these emotional needs of women, and can't give women a sense of security and stability, women will look outward.
Two
A man who is rich and capable, and can really help her
As the saying goes, poor couples mourn everything, and the economic foundation is the basic background color of marital happiness.
Behind this, there is not only the greed of human nature, but also the helplessness of life.
There is a sister in my hometown who semi-openly got together with another married man after the man in her family went out to hide debts.
For this controversial relationship, this sister did not hide it at all, she even said publicly:
I just want him to help me with my work, help me with business, and help me solve some problems in life and economy when I need it.
Married to her husband for 15 years, this sister used to be a standard good wife and mother, but the man is really not angry, always thinking about getting rich overnight, either tossing, or on the way to toss, and finally owes a butt loan, leaves his wife and children, and runs away without a trace.
On the shoulders of this sister, two children and hundreds of thousands of debts were instantly pressed.
In short, out of real life needs, and also out of spiritual comfort needs, she finally got together with that man. The man is a teenager older, runs his own business, and is considered a capable person in the local area.
Yishu said in "Xi Bao":
If someone says he loves me, I don't rejoice in it unless his love can be discounted.
When the economic needs are not met, the greed and selfishness in the depths of human nature will be revealed in the way of taking shortcuts.
The adult world is never black and white, but more of a different shade of gray.
But no matter how you choose, there is a price behind it.
Like Zweig's famous quote in "The Guillotine Queen":
All the gifts of fate have already been secretly marked with a price.
Marriage is not easy, and it is prudent to deviate.