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Text: Xie Wenqing
In the complex world of red dust, emotions are like an invisible net, binding us tightly.
We often struggle between loving and not loving, tempted and untouched, trying to find a place for our hearts.
However, true wisdom lies not in how to get caught up in it, but in how to be as calm as water and not moved by men.
As the old saying goes: "Love is deep and longevity, wisdom will hurt." This quote profoundly reveals the complexity and elusive nature of emotions.
In the play, the character of Minglan left a deep impression on us with her unique charm and wisdom.
How does she stay sober in the whirlpool of emotions and be unmoved by men?
This is not only a topic worth discussing, but also a manifestation of life wisdom.
"If the heart is moving, it will be chaotic, and if the heart is quiet, it will be peaceful. "In today's impetuous society, we need to learn how to control our emotions and maintain inner peace and firmness.
So, how exactly do you not want to be tempted by men?
Let's draw wisdom from Minglan 's attitude towards life and explore the answer to this question together.
I hope this article can bring enlightenment to everyone and make us more calm and firm on the emotional path.
How did Minglan not be jealous?
Gu Tingye's aunt placed a woman named Fengxian in Gu Tingye's room, to put it bluntly, she gave Gu Tingye a concubine.
Minglan met with her, and she agreed directly, the kind of person who didn't stop at all, didn't feel jealous, and didn't feel unhappy.
It seems that the matter of taking concubines is not for his own officials, but for other men.
Gu Tingye asked Shi Shi to inquire about Minglan if he would be uncomfortable and unable to sleep peacefully because he would stay in the Fengxian room at night and spend candles in the cave room.
The last thing I inquired about was that Minglan had a snack with Xiao Tao at night and slept happily.
Gu Tingye thought that as Minglan as an official and with other women, Minglan would be jealous, but Minglan didn't care at all.
He was angry.
I said that Minglan has no love for Gu Tingye, only love, and this love is just kindness.
She doesn't invest, she doesn't care, she doesn't care, so Gu Tingye and Fengxian Cave spend candle nights, and she is not hurt.
still remembers the night when Zhen Huan and the emperor went to the cave room in "The Legend of Zhen Huan", Concubine Hua, Meizhuang, An Lingrong, and the queen were almost all injured to varying degrees.
are also women in ancient boudoirs, why can Minglan do it, but other women can't?
Everyone must want to do something like Minglan like!
How?
Minglan can do this, in fact, because she has a unique emotional attitude and philosophy of life.
She did not pin all her emotions on Gu Tingye, but maintained an independent and autonomous mentality.
This mentality allows her to remain calm and rational when facing Gu Tingye's relationship with other women, and not be swayed by emotions.
To be like Minglan
First, you need to be clear about your values and life goals.
Know what you are pursuing in your relationship, and don't be easily influenced by the outside world.
Minglan said: "Let's live this life, we can't go around in this courtyard." In the future, I can save a lot of money, how relieved, and when I am free, I will go to the mountains and waters, hit the ball and fish, and dismantle the white land.
There are always many ways to relieve boredom, and life is naturally enjoyable, if you want to fight for a bite to eat in front of men, you turn yourself into a crazy woman with a hateful face, how cost-effective this life is!"
Second, learn to remain independent and autonomous, and not rely on others to find your own happiness.
Minglan said: "Let's live this life, we can't go around in this courtyard." In the future, I can save a lot of money, how relieved, and when I am free, I will go to the mountains and waters, hit the ball and fish, and dismantle the white land.
There are always many ways to relieve boredom, and life is naturally enjoyable, if you want to fight for a bite to eat in front of men, you turn yourself into a crazy woman with a hateful face, how cost-effective this life is!"
Third, you also need to learn to deal with complex emotional relationships.
In relationships, it is inevitable to encounter various challenges and conflicts, but learn to remain calm and rational and not be driven by emotions.
Rather than dealing with cold wars or quarrels, problems can be solved through communication, understanding, and inclusion.
The waitress beside the old lady said to Grandmother Sheng: The girl is steady and calm, and she is a character who can endure again and again and think a lot.
is talking about Minglan temperament, so what are the characteristics of this temperament?
The characteristics of this kind of temperament are mainly manifested in steadyness, calmness, forbearance and overthinking.
Steadiness means that she does not behave frivolously or make rash decisions, but will act after careful consideration, which seems to be very measured.
Calmness means that she can stay calm when facing things, not be disrupted by unexpected events, and be able to deal with problems rationally.
Forbearance, showing her patience and self-control.
She doesn't overreact to the spur of the moment, but is able to control her emotions and wait for the right moment to take action.
Thinking a lot shows that she is good at observing and thinking, not satisfied with superficial understanding, but will dig deep into the truth and internal logic of things.
People with this temperament usually have a high degree of self-control and the ability to think deeply, and are able to stay calm and make informed decisions in complex situations.
I used to have someone with such a temperament around me. After so many years, relatively few people have found this kind of temperament.
People with this kind of temperament have weak social skills, but when they encounter big things, or when they encounter things, they are generally more rational and not flustered.
It can be said that he is absolutely ruthless. Everyone can see in the play that Minglan is a ruthless person, she never takes the initiative to harm others, but she definitely does not suffer a big loss.
Fourth, understand that love is not all there is to life.
In addition to feelings, there are many other things that we should pursue and cherish.
Don't focus all your energy on your feelings, but focus on your own growth and development to make yourself better and more attractive.
Yesterday, I watched a video, and the female executive in the video would rather freeze her eggs than fall in love and get married.
She has many suitors and is super beautiful. She was escorted to Tsinghua University in college, and after working, she entered the top 500 and became an executive, and later resigned to start a business, and there were many men chasing her all the way.
When others wondered why she didn't look for a man, she said:
First, work first of all it will not betray you;
Second, even if it doesn't bring you everything you want, it's basically the result of your efforts.
You don't expect to be on a man like buying a lottery ticket.
It means that how much you pay for the work will give you back, but men will not, no matter how much you give, it may end up in nothing.
Just like Concubine Hua, she only does one thing in her life, which is to love the emperor, but the emperor adds musk to her unique Huanyi fragrance to prevent her from getting pregnant.
You said that if you were Concubine Hua, would you feel worthless for yourself?
If you want to spend the same time, the same energy, and the same hard work on your work and career, the rewards will never be empty.
All career women, as well as men, agree that work is the most worthwhile investment for a person, not feelings.
She also said: I think I'm funny enough that I don't need another person. She said that she had a lot of fun things about herself than falling in love.
She never cried for a man until she was 35 years old, and the few times she cried was for the company.
Some people say that she may not be free and lonely. She's always had fun things to pursue.
There are so many things in her life that are far more interesting than falling in love, and she doesn't even have time to do these interesting things, so how can she have time to find a man.
Besides, a lot of interesting things are much more interesting than men's.
It's not that no one chases her, but that she chases her too much, but there are too few that can interest her.
Someone commented on her: You are becoming more and more rational, so rational that you no longer look like a "normal woman". This means that you are a normal human being, but it does not necessarily mean that you are a normal woman.
You are not immersed in one thing, and you feel that women are all soaked in one feeling.
And then you're just draining that stuff, and the dry stuff is a very rational thing.
Some people say that she is like a man, and I have many times that Minglan is also like a man.
Not all men are rational, but, in general, men are creatures in terms of rationality and feelings, most of them are still inclined to be rational.
Minglan was also immersed in the relationship with the little grandfather and couldn't extricate herself, but the reality woke her up with a hammer, and the little bit of emotion she didn't have was drained.
Only the rational part of the dry stuff remains.
The executive, who once hated getting married when she was 20 years old, said that looking back now, she feels that the idea of those days was too bad and wrong.
It can be said that when she most wanted to find a boy to fall in love and get married, it was the most miserable time in her life.
Later, she learned from the pain and put the main theme of her life on herself and her career, she said that even if there is an object, it is just the icing on the cake, and it is harmless to have no object.
Instead of gambling with your own life, it is better to put the weight in a safer position.
We need to understand that not being moved is not indifference, but emotional maturity and self-control.
It requires us to keep a clear head when facing feelings, look at problems rationally, and not be easily moved by the outside world.
In today's society, emotional turmoil and temptation are everywhere, and we are often faced with various choices and challenges.
However, true wise people are not fooled by these, and they are able to maintain inner peace and firmness in the complex world of emotions.
Just like Minglan and the female executives, they set an example for us by interpreting the wisdom of not being unmoved in their own way.
Therefore, we should learn to face emotional problems with wisdom and courage like Minglan did.
We must keep ourselves and not be easily influenced by others;
We must look at feelings rationally and not blindly pursue the so-called love;
We need to cultivate inner charisma and make ourselves more independent and confident;
We must focus on self-growth and constantly improve our abilities and qualities.
Eventually, we will find that when we are truly unmoved by men, our hearts will become more calm and calm.
We will be more focused on our own growth and development, and we will also cherish more people and things that are truly worthy of our cherishment.
This kind of wisdom and strength can not only help us better deal with emotional problems, but also make us more determined and confident on the road of life.
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