Nowadays, young people must provide a bride price when they get married, and the bride price in some places is as high as hundreds of thousands, which is simply not satisfied by ordinary families, which is why young people are reluctant to get married.
Recently, a post on the Internet about how to use the bride price has sparked heated discussions among netizens.
In the survey, 48.6% of the respondents supported the use of the bride price as a dowry for small families.
37.9% of the respondents suggested that the bride price should become the bride's personal property;
11.7% of the respondents believed that the bride price could be given to the woman's parents and other family members.
How do you think the bride price should be distributed?
Netizens also expressed their opinions
Bride price and dowry are the cornerstones of the small family that both parents give to their children! At present, there are very few people in society who make a fortune on their own, and after they become a family, they will be independent from the families of both parents, and they should be filial piety and filial piety, and they should help and help them, but there should not be too many interference in the affairs of other people's families, and parents and children should also have a sense of boundaries
The bride price is not a small couple, a small family's start-up capital. So if you say it, you will be sprayed. My daughter's future bride price will belong to her, and then she will marry her heart
Personally, I think that the bride price is the start-up capital of the small family, and it does not belong to the woman personally, or to the woman's parents, you say that you are married, and the young couple gives money to the woman's parents, that is the intention
When I got married, my parents paid more, the bride price of 100,000 yuan was brought back, and the dowry was 300,000 yuan
My family has more dowries than bride prices, and the bride price buys home appliances and the rest is all given to me, so the bride price and dowry are all from our small family. I think it all depends on my own mind and family situation, as long as the daughter raised by others is not particularly excessive, it is no problem for others to stay, anyway, my two sons dare not think of being a girl in vain in the future
The bride price and dowry are both help for the new family, and I will not keep my daughter's bride price, and I will have the same dowry
Most of the girls on our side take it away by themselves, and some of them add a little bit to it, depending on the individual family
I will give it to my daughter and support my daughter's small family. If I allow, I will pay the dowry within my means.
The bride price is a bride price, the dowry is a dowry, both are the woman's property, how to distribute it has nothing to do with the man, I gave it to my parents, did my father pay me a down payment
We give this to the younger couple, and both parties give the younger couple the common property of the younger couple
My son is 12 years old, I think it is the woman's private property, and my son's future wedding bride price is for his daughter-in-law.
Anyway, my bride price and dowry are mine, my husband treats me well, we spend it together, and if I don't treat me well, I just say goodbye to him and spend it with my children! But to be honest, I only told my husband once about the bride price and how much money I have, and then he forgot about it, and then I stopped talking about it because of this quarrel for two years! He stopped after I became pregnant
To be honest, I won't give my daughter's bride price to her small family in the future, I will save it directly for my daughter because I don't want her to have a little little thing in the future without a penny
I am a daughter, I feel that it is understandable to give my parents, I have raised it for more than 20 years, and I got married without filial piety in one day, and I should compensate for it
I think that since the bride price is left at home for other people's families, and whether it is brought back or not brought back is a matter for others, it has nothing to do with the in-laws' family, and it is someone else's
I will divide the situation, first, the man's family is rich and the boy has a sense of responsibility for his career, the in-laws are reasonable, I will not hesitate to give the bride price to the girl, and there will be a corresponding dowry, the second in-law has many brothers, the family is poor, the bride price I will keep for the time being, in case the girl has a baby when she needs it, and the third is not fancy the man's daughter has to marry, the bride price is left, and the dowry is not
The bride's private property, married to the man's family, use money here and there, as soon as there is a little matter, the man coaxes and says to let the woman cushion first, and the in-laws complain that it took a lot of money to marry you, and take it out to use it for emergencies. In fact, it is to treat the woman as a bank for depositing money, and she can take it if she wants. If you can't take it out, you'll be morally kidnapped
The bride price given by the man is her own private property, and the man should not worry that it is the girl's own, and the woman's parents should not be the best
After marriage, if the man is good to himself, he can spend a little on the small family, and if he is not good to himself, he can hold it in his hands
What I dislike is not that the bride price is left for the woman's parents, but that the woman's parents leave it for their son to marry his daughter-in-law
My mother told me several times that the bride price should be given to the woman's parents, because it is not easy for them to raise me, but I said that if I have good conditions, I should give it to you, but I have nothing myself, and I am still in debt of hundreds of thousands
If the bride price is borrowed by the man's parents, it is better to repay the debts to the man's parents, not all of them should be repaid, at least half of them should be repaid, and the young people still have to fight on their own
Bride price and dowry are the cornerstones of the small family that both parents give to their children! At present, there are very few people in society who make a fortune on their own, and after they become a family, they will be independent from the families of both parents, and they should be filial piety and filial piety, and they should help and help them, but there should not be too many interference in the affairs of other people's families, and parents and children should also have a sense of boundaries
Regardless of the bride price or dowry, the parents of both parties should not give the young and them an emergency, and there are many places to use the money after marriage, and they cannot use it indiscriminately
The comment area is full of good parents, our bride price is for parents, as for how much to give to the daughter, it all depends on the parents, what should the daughter do
In Anhui, the bride price generally belongs to the woman, and the parents still have to buy more if the conditions are better, and buy less if the conditions are poor
If you have a younger brother or brother, you can't give it to your parents to keep it, and if you are an only child, it doesn't matter if you keep it with your parents
Most of the married girls in Huanggang, Hubei Province will post the bride price money on the day of marriage, and the mother's family with a good family background will post a little bit to the daughter, and the basic full bride price will be given to the daughter at the bottom of the box
If the family conditions are not good, use a little bride price to buy a dowry for the girl, and the others will be given to the girl, most of the family bride price is taken away by the girl, and even add money, and there are still very few who leave the bride price
I am a woman, I am also married and have children, I have been married for ten years, no matter how the times change, I still feel that the bride price should be given to my mother, not rich or poor
My bride price, half of my mother and I each have, I think it should be
It's no problem to return to the small family! But the young couple has to support four old people! Some girls become housewives after getting married and have children, and they have no financial resources, so this requires the man to support and take care of each other's parents!
The bride price and dowry are the financial support of the parents of both parties to this newly established small family, and do not belong to any single party
This is not a question of whether to return or not, but when most of the man's family marries this girl, they also realize that the bride price is not returned to reality, and they don't care too much, but they care about how much the bride price is, if the bride price is high, the child is divorced after marriage, the man's family is unwilling, the man's family hopes to live with the child for a lifetime of women, and the bride price is high, but now most girls are not, as long as the man's conditions are not good, the ability is poor, he dislikes the man and goes, and is not willing to accompany the man to endure hardships, are you willing?
I think that after my daughter, I must have a bride price, the bride price according to the conditions of the southern family, I must also give a dowry, both sides give a small family of start-up capital, those who don't want to give a dime, but also want to marry how many people can't do it, love to be cheap, not decent character, I don't like it
If the woman's parents are in poor condition, they will mind the bride price, and if the conditions are good, they all hope that their daughter will live well, and they will make up for it, of course, it is also mutual
My parents would buy me something to take home, and then some of them I felt should be given to my parents, and some of them I would take back to buy snacks for myself when I was pregnant and gave birth and didn't go to work
What do you think about how the bride price should be used? Do you run your own small family, do you leave it to your parents, or do you hide it yourself?