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Friend Bingbing complained yesterday: The child who has been raised for seven or eight years is not as good as the grandmother for a few months, and he collapsed, feeling that he has raised a white-eyed wolf.
Bingbing's child is eight years old, and he has always been by his side since he was a child, and he was also by his side in kindergarten, but when the child was ready to go to elementary school, he put the child in his hometown for his grandmother.
When she was home for five months, Bingbing took advantage of the holiday to go home to visit the child, but she didn't expect the child's performance to make her feel uncalm: she actually blocked her mother's face, kissed her grandmother, thought about his grandmother everywhere, and had to sleep with her grandmother or not with her mother, which made Bingbing unable to calm down. When the mothers in the group saw this scene, they also said: I raised a white-eyed wolf.
Why is grandma closer than mother?
The current companionship is actually more important for the child, even if the child has grown up by his side since he was a child, but it is not as good as the child's feelings for the caregiver for half a year.
Therefore, growing up with the mother since childhood, if you decide to let the child live with the grandmother, you naturally have to accept the phenomenon of the child and the grandmother, the baby is like the new and hates the old, if you return to the mother, the child is still with the mother after half a year.
Therefore, who the child should bring, whether to bring it yourself still has a great impact on the child, especially the mental health, and the way the child receives education There are huge differences, and mothers have the bottom of their hearts after reading it.
Which is better for educating children mom or grandma?
One is modern education, and the other is intergenerational education. There is naturally a difference for children, so mothers should still pay attention to this.
From the child's point of view, it is natural to want to integrate into the current circle of friends, so what the child needs more is the concept of modern education, which mothers still have to understand.
Children brought up by mothers will have more self-confidence and sunshine, and children with grandmothers and babies may be pampered too much, and children lack self-confidence and are naturally more introverted.
Which is better for mom or grandma with kids?
The situation of each family is different, and some families do not objectively need to work, so they have to leave their children at home for the elderly.
However, if you have the ability to be a full-time mother, you should keep your children by your side, whether it is the safety of your children, or the education of your children, or the relationship between parents and children, from the perspective of mothers, it is more suitable for mothers to take care of children.
The elderly with babies are not as good as their mothers in terms of education and safety, so the best candidate has to be the mother herself, and she should also pay attention to the formation of good habits, which mothers should not neglect.