The network is virtual, seeing is believing.
In the online world, everything is beautiful, but only when you really go into reality can you see the truth of things.
For online dating girlfriends, going to their boyfriend's house for the first time is often a baptism of reality.
Love may overcome everything, but life will always test it with reality.
A fashion-forward woman who met her boyfriend through an online game.
After a year of online dating, the two felt it was time to go further, so they decided to meet and planned to go to their boyfriend's hometown to have a look.
The woman was a little apprehensive in her heart, because her boyfriend's hometown was in a remote village in Hunan, which was definitely different from her current lifestyle in the city.
For this "rushing" trip, the woman gave herself several days of psychological construction.
After more than ten hours on the green train, the woman finally came to her boyfriend's hometown.
As soon as she got out of the car, she felt the backwardness and remoteness of the place, and her boyfriend's family lived in an old house, which for her was like traveling back in time to a few decades ago.
The house is made of brick and wood, and the roof is tiled. The room was dim, covered with dust and cobwebs.
What shocked the woman the most was that the so-called bathroom was just a corner of the kitchen separated by a curtain, and she had to boil her own water for bathing. Although her family is also rural, the living conditions that have long been modern are simply worlds apart.
The most difficult thing for women to accept is the concept of men's families.
The man's mother was a traditional rural woman who believed that women should be industrious and thrifty, and put the family first.
Women like to dress up, pursue fashion, buy clothes and do hair, these are normal things in her world.
But in the eyes of the man's mother, this is a sign that he will not live. She even said to the man in private: "Such a girl is not suitable for marriage and can spend money." ”
When the woman heard this, she felt a little melancholy. came all the way to see such a situation, she didn't dislike her boyfriend's family conditions, but was disgusted by her boyfriend's mother first.
She was a little hesitant, was such a family really what she wanted?
A girl who is accustomed to life in the big city suddenly runs to the countryside and sees the old house, which is black, full of cobwebs, and has to boil her own water for bathing, who should not be dumbfounded!
The thought of the man's mother is really shaking my head. The notion that a girl dresses up fashionably means she won't be able to live is not only old-fashioned, it's simply ridiculous.
Today's young people have their own lifestyles and values, which is the progress of the times. The idea of the man's mother is estimated to make many young girls turn around and leave.
Such a family, don't marry!
Many of today's young couples meet online and have a hot conversation, but if you really want to enter real life, the gap is huge. Not only the gap between urban and rural areas, but also living habits and values, these are unavoidable problems.
It is not only a difference in material conditions, but also a difference in lifestyle and way of thinking, which cannot be changed in a short period of time.
Marriage is a lifelong event, and if two people or two families disagree on fundamental concepts, it is difficult for such a marriage to be happy.
Although online dating is beautiful, when you really face real life, you need both parties to have enough understanding and tolerance.
After all, love is not only about wind and snow, but also about firewood, rice, oil and salt. If you can't adapt to even the most basic living habits, how far can such a love go?
"Seeing the light and dying" is the norm in online dating.
I have a friend who is also like this, and he has a hot relationship on the Internet, but when he meets, he finds that the gap is not ordinarily big. Falling in love can be romantic, but getting married and living is another matter.
When dating online, we see the advantages of each other, but after getting married, reality will reveal those hidden shortcomings little by little. Ironically, it is often only after marriage that it is discovered that those overlooked shortcomings are the key to determining whether the marriage can go ahead.
Marriage is a lifelong affair and cannot be decided on the spur of the moment. If you don't agree with each other, you won't be happy if you are barely together. It's better to stop your losses in time than to regret them later.
Have you had a similar experience?What do you think of the woman's story?Feel free to share your stories and thoughts in the comments section.