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Ding Jian has been a model of outstanding learning since he was a child. In 1986, he successfully graduated from the Department of Chemistry of Peking University, a famous university in China. He knew that the future would belong to the era of the Internet, so he did not hesitate to choose to go to the University of California in the United States to study information science.
On the beautiful university campus, Ding Jian met the love of his life, Xiao Hua. , a talented woman from a prestigious school with profound knowledge, fell in love with Ding Jian at first sight. Ding Jian was tall and mighty, and his temperament was extraordinary, which deeply attracted Xiao Hua's attention.
Not long after they met, Ding Jian enthusiastically launched a pursuit. He did his best to help Xiao Hua solve her academic problems, and at the same time used various ingenious methods to keep her happy at all times.
Once, Ding Jian even held his guitar in front of all the teachers and students of the school and sang a number of moving love songs for Xiao Hua affectionately, which caused thunderous applause from the audience. Although Ding Jian's appearance is not outstanding, his outstanding wisdom and noble character finally conquered Xiao Hua's heart, and the two officially held hands and entered the sweet palace of love.
In 1993, Ding Jian co-founded AsiaInfo Technology Co., Ltd. with like-minded friends. Thanks to the rapid development of Internet technology, this company has risen rapidly like a rocket, and it has set a historic precedent for a Chinese technology company to go public in the United States! All these brilliant achievements are inseparable from Xiao Hua's silent support and encouragement behind the scenes.
In order to support Ding Jian's career, she resolutely gave up the high-paying job opportunity and firmly followed her husband back to the motherland to work hard together.
In mutual understanding, tolerance and support, the relationship between Ding Jian and Xiao Hua has become deeper and deeper, and the flower of their marriage has gradually bloomed with the most beautiful brilliance.
In 2002, Xu Gehui, a well-known host of Phoenix Satellite TV, was invited to Harbin City, Heilongjiang Province to preside over the first Entrepreneur Forum. With his excellent hosting skills and humorous style, Xu Gehui quickly won warm applause from the audience.
Among the many viewers, the eyes of a business magnate were drawn to the charismatic host. He is none other than Ding Jian, the founder of AsiaInfo. In fact, long before the forum began, Ding Jian was already full of admiration for Xu Gehui. As soon as the meeting ended, he immediately took the initiative to greet Xu Gehui and expressed his deep love for the "Celebrity Face-to-Face" column hosted by her.
Although Xu Gehui was a little caught off guard by Ding Jian's sudden enthusiasm, she did not deny it entirely, but politely replied with a smile and a sincere "thank you". If it were someone else, such a simple and nonchalant response might be disappointing.
However, Ding Jian did not retreat because of this, but his infatuation with Xu Gehui became deeper.
The opportunity is just around the corner, and the next day's ski competition provides an excellent stage for Ding Jian to show himself. Before the race, participants are encouraged to take a free skate first to find their best. At this moment, Ding Jian's eyes were always following Xu Gehui, looking at her slightly nervous expression, he realized that this was a once-in-a-lifetime good time.
So, Ding Jian walked to Xu Gehui's side without hesitation and patiently and meticulously taught her the essentials of skiing. Under Ding Jian's careful guidance, Xu Gehui's gliding level has improved significantly, and the distance between the two has gradually shortened.
What's even more rare is that when Xu Gehui accidentally fell, Ding Jian actually came up with the idea of acting as a "meat pad" to bear the injury for her.
This ski competition not only deepened the emotional bond between Ding Jian and Xu Gehui, but also made Xu Gehui take the initiative to leave personal contact information, laying the groundwork for the future love spark.
After leaving Heilongjiang, Ding Jian launched a passionate pursuit of Xu Gehui. Precious gifts such as flowers, high-end clothing, and luxury cars continue to arrive, and the money offensive is as fierce as a raging storm.
In the face of such a powerful temptation of wealth, coupled with the fact that Ding Jian was in the prime of his youth, Xu Gehui couldn't help but be shaken in his heart.
Although there are still doubts in his heart that Ding Jian is married, the blazing flame of love is already burning. Ding Jian even affectionately promised Xu Gehui: "As long as you nod slightly, I am willing to divorce my wife and spend the rest of my life taking care of you." After saying that, he sat sincerely in the car and waited quietly for four hours, until Xu Gehui finally walked out of the door and waved his hand to him.
In this way, the secret love affair between the two grows like a weed.
In this way, the mysterious love affair between the two spread like a fire. When the news shattered Xu Gehui's inner peace like thunder, Ding Jian did not hesitate to show his wife Xiao Hua: "I have fallen deeply in love with someone else, let's end this marriage." ”
Faced with her husband's sudden decision, Xiao Hua just smiled indifferently and didn't say too much. She stared at Ding Jian with puzzled eyes, as if she was silently wondering whether his decision was just a spur of the moment. After all, the world is full of countless temptations and pitfalls.
However, Ding Jian quickly calmed the doubts in Xiao Hua's heart. He said firmly: "I will pay you 100 million yuan as a breakup fee, and I have prepared the divorce agreement." ”
Seeing her husband's resolute attitude, Xiao Hua understood that he had made up his mind. She looked at Ding Jian quietly, nodded lightly after a long time, and then signed the divorce agreement without hesitation. This marriage came to an end hastily.
With her five-month-old son and young daughter, Xiao Hua embarked on a journey to the United States and started a new life. And Ding Jian found Xu Gehui, knelt on one knee, held a 10-carat brilliant diamond ring, and affectionately proposed to her.
Faced with such a dazzling diamond ring, Xu Gehui couldn't resist the excitement and desire in his heart, and immediately agreed to Ding Jian's marriage proposal. From then on, they can show up in public without fear and enjoy each other's company and protection.
However, at the wedding the following year, behind the laughter of the newlyweds, there was a hint of gloom. As the exposure of Ding Jian and Xu Gehui continues to rise, gossip and abuse on the Internet also follow. Especially for Xu Gehui, she was accused of being a "little three", no matter where she went, there would always be people pointing at her and reprimanding her.
In order to avoid these rumors, Xu Gehui had to reduce the frequency of surfing the Internet, and even temporarily put down his work and chose to take a vacation to adjust his mood. Faced with his wife's predicament, Ding Jian bravely stood up, clarified the truth of the incident in an interview with the media for the first time, and successfully cleared Xu Gehui of the charge of "little three".
In the days after marriage, joy, anger, sorrow and joy are intertwined, which is very emotional. First of all, it is fortunate that Xu Gehui successfully gave birth to a lively and lovely daughter for Ding Jian, and the whole family was overjoyed and overjoyed. At the same time, however, as the two of them grew in popularity, so did the gossip and malicious attacks on the Internet.
Xu Gehui was accused of being a "little three", seducing other people's husbands, no matter where he was, it was difficult to get rid of those malicious eyes and fingers. Some netizens even mercilessly denounced her for "destroying other people's families" and "extreme hypocrisy". In the face of such unbearable slander, Xu Gehui's self-esteem was deeply hit, and she had to reduce the frequency of surfing the Internet, and even suspended her work at hand, choosing a vacation to adjust her physical and mental state.
Seeing his wife suffer such groundless accusations, Ding Jian's heart was filled with deep guilt. He understands that all this stems from his original thoughts, which led to today's predicament. Therefore, Ding Jian bravely stood up and publicly clarified the truth in front of the media for the first time: "My divorce from my ex-wife is entirely because there are irreconcilable contradictions between us and we have nothing to do with anyone else. Xu Gehui is my partner who I only met after the divorce. "
Although Ding Jian's explanation did not completely dispel the doubts and controversies of netizens, he still firmly stayed by his wife's side and gave her endless support and encouragement. Ding Jian's sincere and frank words won people's respect. He took on all the responsibilities and mistakes that a man should have, and used practical actions to maintain the reputation and dignity of his beloved wife. Since then, the turmoil on the Internet has been able to subside temporarily.
In the face of doubts and accusations from the outside world, Xu Gehui has always maintained a calm and rational attitude. She said: "I only know that Ding Jian treats me very well, and I don't care about all kinds of speculation and comments from the outside world. In fact, this just reflects Xu Gehui's open-mindedness and openness.
As her daughter grows up, time flies by like flowing water. When she ushered in her fifth birthday, Ding Jian suddenly realized that he owed too much to the two children born to his ex-wife Xiao Hua. In the nine years since he divorced Xiao Hua, he has only had 45 opportunities to visit his children in the United States.
As a father, Ding Jian desperately hopes to make up for the regrets of this family relationship. So, he made up his mind to go to the United States in person to attend his son's kindergarten graduation ceremony.
However, Ding Jian still felt a trace of apprehension like walking on thin ice in his heart, after all, the unbearable trauma of divorce, maybe his ex-wife Xiao Hua has not really come out of it so far. Moreover, if he brings his new partner Xu Gehui to attend, it will undoubtedly further arouse Xiao Hua's doubts and uneasiness.
When Ding Jian was in this dilemma, he didn't expect his ex-wife Xiao Hua to take the initiative to call and warmly invite him to visit the United States. Not only did she give a warm welcome, but she also unexpectedly suggested, "You can consider bringing Ms. Hui and the children with you, and I'm sure they will have a pleasant and memorable time here." ”
Hearing Xiao Hua's such thoughtful care, the big stone in Ding Jian's heart finally fell. He accepted the invitation without hesitation. A few days later, the family of five embarked on a flight to the United States.
When they arrived in the United States, the children's first impression of Xu Gehui surprised everyone present - instead of exuding any strangeness or alienation, they affectionately called Xu Gehui "Mother Xu".
Watching the children live in harmony, the whole atmosphere instantly becomes warm and peaceful.
It turned out that after Ding Jian's divorce and departure, Xiao Hua did not deliberately leave any shadow in the hearts of the children. On the contrary, she guided the children with great patience, so that they sincerely accepted Xu Gehui as a "new mother".
It is precisely because of Xiao Hua's noble qualities that this family can live in harmony at this reunion after a long absence, and there is no longer any estrangement or suspicion between them.
Everyone spoke freely, as if the family had never experienced separation. Seeing such a scene, Xu Gehui sighed sincerely: "Xiao Hua is really a kind woman, there has never been any unpleasant thing between us, she will definitely be able to find her own happiness." ”
For the children conceived by Ding Jian and Xiao Hua, Xu Gehui also loves them very much. "I have a very close relationship with my children," she says. They even reserved a room for me at home, and I was always welcome to return to China. ”
This trip to the United States has undoubtedly become a good medicine to heal family rifts, successfully eliminating the estrangement and misunderstanding between families. Looking at the children's intimate appearance, Ding Jian's heart was full of emotion.
He once again deeply sighed that Xiao Hua had shown him a broad mind and generosity and kindness, which really touched him incomparably! He was also deeply sorry for the mistakes he had made to her back then, and he was unable to express it.
Ding Jian and Xu Gehui's love journey can be described as full of twists and turns and challenges, however, it is not easy for them to walk together and meet every morning in the future together, and in this process, the incomparable magnanimity and generosity of his ex-wife Xiao Hua undoubtedly played a vital role. As Xu Gehui sighed, Xiao Hua will definitely find his own happiness.
The couple was able to spend the rest of their lives together, not only because of fate, but also because they deeply understood the true meaning of tolerance and mutual assistance. The cornerstone of marriage is precisely based on mutual trust. Without this spirit of interdependence and mutual support, marriage would have become an endless torment.
The reason why Ding Jian and Xu Gehui have been able to get to where they are today is that the magnanimity of their ex-wife Xiao Hua has undoubtedly played a huge role. In order to allow the children to enjoy complete family care, she resolutely stepped forward, actively resolved the conflict, and perfectly interpreted the selflessness and greatness of maternal love with her own practical actions. And Ding Jian should also use this as a mirror on the road of life in the future, and cherish this hard-won happiness.