I always thought that it was a matter of course for the two families to merge their salaries and be in charge of them together. After all, marriage is a shared responsibility of two people, and money, as the foundation of life, should naturally be shared and managed. However, as time went on, I discovered that what I thought was normal turned out to be just my personal imagination.
In our family, my husband's salary is handed over to me every month. I, on the other hand, am responsible for the family's expenses and fixed savings. At first, I didn't think there was anything wrong with this arrangement. After all, I'm part of the family and deserve this responsibility. However, as time went on, I began to appreciate the difficulty.
First of all, household expenses are not a simple matter. Every month's rent, water and electricity bills, firewood, rice, oil and salt, as well as children's tuition fees and living expenses, everything needs to be carefully calculated. I often run around the market to compare prices and pick the best value for money in order to save a little money. Although this kind of life is a bit hard, every time I see the happy smiles of my family, I feel that everything is worth it.
However, there are times when I feel tired and helpless. After all, I'm just an ordinary person with my own emotions and stress. Sometimes, I feel anxious because of some sudden expenses, and I also feel irritated because of family chores. But every time I see my husband's trusting eyes, I pick myself up again and continue to take on this responsibility.
As for my husband, he has always been very trusting and supportive of me. He never asked about the details of the family's expenses, and he never complained that I didn't manage them well enough. He always said, "You are the finance minister of the family, and I am sure you will do well." Such words, although simple, gave me great encouragement and support.
As for my mother-in-law, her evaluation of me made me cry and laugh even more. She always praised me for holding on to the money tightly, and only getting in and out like a pixiu. Even though I knew she was joking, I still felt a little crying and laughing in my heart. After all, I'm not really Pixiu, and I also have my own consumption needs and desires. But for the sake of family harmony and happiness, I am willing to give up some personal needs and give more for the family.
However, sometimes I also wonder if this way of life is really right? Shouldn't the two of us share the responsibility of the family? Why am I always paying silently alone? I also hope that my husband can be more involved in family management and share this responsibility. But whenever I came up with such an idea, he always rejected it on the grounds that he was busy with work and didn't understand finances.
This kind of life makes me feel a little helpless and confused. I don't know if I should continue to stick with it or if I should look for a lifestyle that works better for us. I also hope that I can find a balance so that my husband can be more involved in family management and work together for the happiness of the family.
Perhaps, everyone's lifestyle is different. Some people like to be in charge of the family finances together, while others prefer one person to be in charge. But no matter which way you choose, the most important thing is trust and communication between couples. Only by trusting and supporting each other can we get through the ups and downs of life together and create our own happiness.
So, what about you? What do you think about the problem of managing finances between husband and wife? Do you have your own confusion and helplessness like me? Perhaps, we can explore this issue together and find a lifestyle that is more suitable for us.