My name is Li Ping, an ordinary housewife, and my husband Zhang Wei have walked hand in hand for 20 years. Getting along with my mother-in-law has always been a delicate journey in my life. She, a typical traditional Chinese woman, has been industrious and thrifty all her life, and she always has an indescribable emotion for me, a foreign daughter-in-law.
I came from an ordinary family and my family was not wealthy, but my parents, with their hard work, paved a path to knowledge for me. After graduating from college, I met the mild-mannered Zhang Wei, and we fell in love and started a family. Although life is ordinary, it is full of love and warmth.
However, since I married into the Zhang family, getting along with my mother-in-law has become an insurmountable hurdle. She is a strong and warm-hearted woman, and she is inseparable from the affairs of the family. Especially every time I eat, she always habitually rushes ahead of me and fills me with a bowl of rice, and always presses it tightly, as if she is afraid that I will not be full. At first, I thought it was my mother-in-law's special love for me, and I felt a little warm in my heart. But as time went on, this love gradually became a burden on my heart.
I tried many times to express my dissatisfaction, but my mother-in-law always persisted in her characteristic way. There was always a complex emotion in her eyes, neither hostile nor kind, but a depth that I could not comprehend. Until one day, I overheard her gossip with her neighbors. It turned out that my mother-in-law did this because she thought I was too thin and worried that I wouldn't have enough to eat. She had experienced poverty and hunger in her youth, so she didn't want me to repeat it.
Hearing this, a mixed emotion welled up in my heart. I understood that my mother-in-law's intentions were good, but her way was difficult for me to accept. I decided to communicate directly with her and tell her how I really felt. When I candidly expressed my dissatisfaction, my mother-in-law was stunned, obviously not expecting me to be so direct. She was silent for a moment, then whispered, "I just want you to eat more, your body is more important than anything else." ”
Looking at my mother-in-law's wrinkled face and slightly apologetic eyes, the dissatisfaction in my heart gradually dissipated. I understand that everyone has their own way of expressing it, and my mother-in-law just cares about me in the way she thinks is best. Although this way made me feel uncomfortable, her heart was sincere.
Since then, I have tried to understand my mother-in-law's painstaking efforts and gradually learned how to communicate with her. Although our relationship has not become intimate because of this, at least there are fewer misunderstandings and estrangements. I understand that getting along with my mother-in-law takes time and patience, but as long as we use our hearts to understand each other's feelings and communicate with our hearts, our relationship will definitely get better and better.