Recently, a father in Hubei Province was dissatisfied with the extreme clutter in his 14-year-old twin's room, and filmed a video and published it in his class group to inspire his daughters to feel ashamed, hoping to prompt them to take the initiative to improve their living habits, which sparked heated discussions on the Internet. The father firmly believed that this was more effective than traditional scolding education, however, the public had different views on this type of education.
It is understood that this is a pair of twin sisters, 14 years old this year, from the video taken by their father, it can be seen that the room is really messy like a dog kennel, the bed is not neat, the clothes are messy, the books are scattered, the remains of fast food and all kinds of garbage are intertwined, and even the trash can has been subverted to the ground. This scene not only makes people unbelievable that this is the living space of two teenagers, but even makes people wonder if it was a surprise attack.
The father described how the twin sisters passed the buck to each other's cleaning responsibilities, while the mother occasionally cleaned up but quickly reverted to the same state, and the parents were no longer able to cope with the "battlefield" that was repeated every day.
Faced with such a stubborn problem of housework, my father chose to break the conventional means of education. He decided to use the openness of social networks to expose the filth of his daughters' rooms directly in front of their classmates. The aim is to use peer pressure to boost the daughters' self-esteem and shame, and to encourage them to recognize the gap between their own habits and their peers, and to actively seek change.
The father firmly believes that compared with traditional corporal punishment or harsh reprimand, this method of "tanning" the house may be more able to reach the hearts of his daughters, prompting them to self-reflect and achieve long-term behavioral adjustments.
In this way, he hopes to send a message to his daughters: they should have basic self-care skills when they have reached puberty, no longer rely on their parents to take care of them, and learn to be responsible for their own living environment.
However, this practice of the father has sparked widespread controversy on the Internet. Some netizens believe that although its original intention is to educate children, making children's private space and bad habits public may hurt children's self-esteem and even violate their privacy. They are concerned that overly public criticism may lead to embarrassment in front of their classmates, which can further affect their social relationships and mental health.
Another part of the netizens expressed their understanding, believing that in the case of ineffective conventional education methods, it is necessary for parents to adopt innovative and more targeted methods. They believe that a moderate amount of public shame can sometimes have a strong warning effect on the child's self-awareness and thus the correction of bad habits. The key is to grasp the degree well, not only to achieve the purpose of education, but also to avoid excessive psychological pressure on children.
Educating children is not an easy task. Every child's personality and upbringing environment is different, so it requires a different approach to education.
The different opinions of netizens essentially reflect the delicate balance between respecting the individual and pursuing practical results in family education.
On the one hand, parents have the responsibility to guide their children to develop good living habits and cultivate their ability to be independent.
On the other hand, parents must fully respect the dignity and privacy of their children in the process of implementing education, and avoid excessive intervention or public shaming.
Perhaps a more effective educational strategy would be to communicate openly and privately with your child, identify problems, identify desired standards of behavior, and work together to develop a plan for improvement.
Parents can appropriately introduce a reward mechanism to encourage their children to actively improve their living habits and form a virtuous circle. If necessary, professionals can also be invited to provide psychological counseling or life skills guidance to help children overcome difficulties and improve their self-management skills in a more scientific and gentle way.
It is hoped that the twin sisters can learn from their father's education and consciously change their behavior. At the same time, I also hope that more parents can pay attention to their children's growth environment and guide them to become a responsible and responsible person.