#头条创作挑战赛#
I once read such a sentence: "When I am depressed, I long to have a magical filter that can sweep away all the negative emotions such as worries and sadness in my body, leaving only my truest self." ”
In the same way, some people choose to use the circle of friends as their emotional filter, where they pour out their inner pain and dissatisfaction.
However, this approach did not bring them the slightest relief, but rather aroused the resentment of many people.
Therefore, one of the most common mistakes a person makes is to dump their inner emotional garbage in the circle of friends.
The circle of friends has become a catharsis for garbage emotions
Whenever we browse the circle of friends, we often encounter many people who keep their dissatisfaction and complaints public, which undoubtedly makes the originally peaceful state of mind instantly fall into entanglement and turmoil.
Take Li Fei as an example, his circle of friends frequently reveals negative emotions:
He once wrote: "If one day I stop contacting you, it's not because you're no longer important, it's because I'm really not sure if I'm still valued." ”
Subsequently, he began to share all kinds of unsatisfactory life in the circle of friends:
For example, when he was riding the bus today, the new leather shoes he had just bought worth three or four hundred yuan were inadvertently trampled on;
Yesterday, when he was tutoring his children's homework, his patience was seriously challenged and his mood was extremely irritable, and his wife failed to take care of the housework in time today, and the family became a mess because of the children's playfulness.
Every time he encounters such a situation, he will accompany a few photos and post a complaint in the circle of friends, it seems that people all over the world are living a happy life, only his life is full of unsatisfactory.
At first, his friends would leave messages under his dynamics, trying to enlighten him and make him face life positively.
However, after some time, most people were no longer willing to go to the trouble of trying to persuade him.
In the end, everyone chose to block his circle of friends updates, so as not to be affected by his negative emotions.
There is no shortage of people like Li Fei in life, when they encounter unhappiness, they will always quickly take out their mobile phones, click to take pictures, and then post this displeasure to the circle of friends for comfort.
Initially, friends will also thoughtfully soothe their little emotions.
But in the long run, when you continue to pour negative energy into your circle of friends, and use the space that should be full of good memories as an outlet for emotional catharsis, your friends around you will inevitably feel tired and exhausted.
The circle of friends can illuminate people's hearts and human nature
Behind the seemingly daily sharing platform of the circle of friends, there is a deeper social psychological phenomenon.
Taking the experience of Bao's mother Xiaoxia as an example, she deeply experienced this.
Xiaoxia firmly believes that every little change in the child's growth process is precious and worth recording carefully. Whenever she watches her child grow up, her heart is as sweet as tasting candy.
In order to freeze these good times, she always uses her mobile phone to capture every moment of the child's growth.
Just like many people share their lives in the circle of friends, Xiaoxia will also release the details of the child's life, and will update four or five updates almost every day, such as: "The baby's performance today is awesome, what interesting things did he do, where did he go to play?" and other warm records.
One day, she posted a photo of the child eating independently for the first time in the circle of friends as usual, with the text: "The baby can eat by himself, it's really cute and cute." ”
However, a classmate who had not been in touch for a long time and chose the Dink lifestyle left a message below, commenting sharply: "Your child is not good-looking, where is the cuteness?" and even attached a meme expressing disgust and begging her not to post similar content again. ”
In the face of such a mean remark, Xiaoxia was indignant, and when she tried to reason with her, she was blocked by the other party.
This incident reveals that the circle of friends is like a perspective mirror, reflecting the true emotions and human nature between people.
Sometimes, a seemingly sweet circle of friends may also be like a thorny rose, inadvertently touching the sensitive nerves of others. When others see your happy moments, they may feel uncomfortable or even jealous.
As Franz Kafka said, "Life is like a masquerade, and I chose to appear without makeup, which seemed a little embarrassing." ”
You show who you really are in your circle of friends, but in the eyes of others, this may be seen as an unwise behavior.
The reality is that everyone's joys, sorrows and sorrows are often only experienced by themselves, others cannot truly empathize, and the warmth and coldness of life can only be known by themselves.
The garbage in your heart, don't pour it in the circle of friends
Cai Kangyong once said: "The reason why I don't share my personal emotions in the circle of friends is because I am worried that it will bring unnecessary trouble to my friends. ”
Life is not easy, and the hardships of adult life are even more so. Therefore, instead of pouring out the negative emotions in your heart, you should learn to manage your emotional world properly.
Netizen Luxia shared such a story:
After graduating from university, Xiaolan and several friends chose different cities for development. While the rest of her friends chose to work in a quiet town, Xiaolan resolutely went to Beijing to devote herself to the fast-paced life there.
In Beijing, Xiaolan frequently works overtime until late at night, which has become a regular part of her daily life.
In contrast, those who stay in small cities live a leisurely life, without having to work overtime, or have a hot pot dinner tonight, or have a barbecue tomorrow night, or even find time to do yoga and enjoy a comfortable life.
Such a picture makes Xiaolan's heart full of yearning.
One day, Xiaolan returned home after working overtime at one o'clock in the morning, and after hurriedly washing, she posted a news in the circle of friends, confiding that it was not easy for her to work hard in Beijing, hoping to get the understanding and support of her friends, and then fell asleep.
However, when she woke up the next morning to check the comments on her circle of friends, her heart instantly sank to freezing point.
"Who told you to go to Beijing? Now you know, our small city is much more comfortable!"
"I asked for it, I persuaded you not to leave, but you didn't listen. ”
To her disappointment, there was not a single word of encouragement in the many comments. Xiaolan, who was expecting to get a little comfort from the circle of friends, felt cold at the moment.
As Mr. Yu Qiuyu said, "In this world, no one can truly empathize with the suffering of individuals. Even if you suffer from a thousand wounds, the painful feeling is only your business after all. ”
Although this sentence is stinging, it truly reveals the cruel side of life.
In the adult world, everyone silently wipes away tears and moves forward tenaciously while being under pressure.
We need to properly deal with our negative emotions and bravely bear the hardships and challenges of life, only in this way can we truly usher in a bright spring of life.
Pouring out your inner troubles in your circle of friends can not only hurt others, but also adversely affect yourself.
In the work "A Cup of Tea Dirt", it is mentioned: "Everyone carries their own hardships and cleanliness in their lives, just like the wind and snow they experience and the unique darkness and cleanliness. ”
No one can completely avoid the bitterness of life.
If you pour out negative emotions on the circle of friends, not only will you not get comfort, but it may lead to the disgust of others, and you may even be blocked.
In the face of all kinds of complex emotions in life, we should not let them spread freely, nor should we bind ourselves to them.
Learning to manage one's emotions effectively is like dispelling the gloom in one's heart, allowing the sun to penetrate and fill one's heart.
For the rest of my life, I hope you and I can sharpen a tenacious heart, not afraid of wind and rain, move forward bravely, and walk out of our own and charming life path in the tide of life.