Today's article, there is no copywriting, only fragmentary thoughts, I just want to talk about the word "pleasing to the eye".
It's pleasing to everyone, and this is also the biggest change for me in the past six months. Without the fierce love and hate before, even if you look at people who don't agree or don't like it, you can see the good of the other party from another angle.
I don't think this is called Ah Q-style self-comfort, but learning to keep one's own preconceptions and see more of others with an open mind and perspective.
Before, there was an almost paranoid idea: people who don't like it never want to get close, and things they don't agree with never take a second look.
But, what you don't like or what you don't agree with, is there really no good side?
I think of a sentence: If you are a threesome, you must have my teacher.
If you're always critical of others and think it's all someone else's problem, and that's not good for them, that's not good, that's a problem in itself.
No matter how bad people or bad things are, they all have their merits, and the key lies in perspective and an open mind.
After figuring out this logic, I am much happier, have more scenery in my eyes, and my heart has become much softer:
People who used to feel stubborn or unmotivated will now think that everyone has their own way of choice, everyone has their own choice to live, and not judging right and wrong is the best choice;
I used to think that children encountered a lot of difficulties, and they couldn't help but complain about their ill-fated fate and too much back, but now they are more constantly summarizing from bad events and finding mistakes in the middle links, so as to plug the leakage;
I used to think that life was so difficult and unpredictable, but now I will consider it from the other party's point of view, selfishness is the weakness of human nature, and everyone is doing their best to protect their own interests.
From a different perspective, you can understand each other more and more, put yourself in each other's shoes, and understand a lot of things that were unacceptable before.
I think this process of mindset transformation is called growth mindset.
When you get rid of your narrow cognition and jump out of your narrow circle, there is nothing you don't like, nothing you can't accept, only insight into more human nature, and more choices of all kinds.
Try to understand, but don't force yourself to accept or like, if it is inconsistent with the three views, you still won't cater to it, but at least you won't be as indignant as before.
However, I didn't feel so immature because of my previous indignation, and I didn't blame myself for being so brainless and doing stupid things?
The past self is alive and real. It's all based on what you once knew and you can make the best choice.
In my past life philosophy, I adhered to the tenet of "people don't offend me, I don't offend people, don't cause trouble, and don't be afraid of things".
And now, I find that this tenet has quietly changed, and it has become "see through but don't say it thoroughly, turn big things into small things, turn small things into small things, get along more if you get along, and keep silent if you don't get along".
I am not very willing to fight for right and wrong, and I am not very willing to try to prove something with fierce emotions. What if you prove yourself right, and what if you are thought to be wrong by others.
I don't want to explain, I don't want to argue, I just want to be immersed in the moment, I just want to live well, I just want to use my limited time to read more books, take more work, and then make more money.
I just want to work hard with the children, so that the people I care about can live a little better, and I care more about myself.
I don't know if it's called a return to basics, but this kind of thinking and practice has made me feel very peaceful, and I haven't lost my temper for months.
Although sometimes there are times when I am depressed, I will watch a drama, sleep a little, and let my energy slowly recover.
I didn't think of myself as a god, I was just an ordinary person. It's not a big deal, it's just a silent effort, keeping an upward posture and walking non-stop.
What makes me a little relieved is that after persisting for more than 60 days, I have reconnected with myself from the text, and I have seen my own limitations and the path I want to take.
Of course, sometimes there are "word short" moments, not panicked and anxious, it reminds me that it's time to recharge.
It's pleasing to the eye to see yourself, and it's pleasing to others, and there are no people who are particularly disgusting, and there are no things that you can't understand. Everything that exists is reasonable, and everything that happens has its own laws.
As a result, I was really indifferent, and my mood has been very stable. This may be the beginning of getting better, and only if I get better first, my children can get better with me.