Although blood is thicker than water, and blood relations are the most impossible to give up in the world, not all parents can be qualified parents.
Some people rely on their youth to be strong, behave outside the home, and do not fulfill a trace of responsibility to the family and children, and when they are old and lose the capital that can spend all their time and drink, they think of letting their children provide for their old age.
Uncle Wang from Henan turned to an emotional mediator because of his second brother's pension problem.
Uncle Wang said that after his second brother had a cerebral infarction last month, he completely lost his ability to take care of himself, not to mention cooking for himself, and even daily walking became a problem.
What makes people feel even more miserable is that although the second brother has a wife and children, he doesn't even have a place to live now, because his wife and children refuse to accept him.
Looking at the miserable appearance of the second brother now, Uncle Wang said that he wanted the mediator to mediate and let the second brother's family provide for the second brother.
Then the mediator met Uncle Wang's second brother Wang Laoming, who was relying on a cane to keep his body balanced.
Because of the sequelae of cerebral infarction, his mouth was crooked, his eyes were slanted, and his speech became slurred.
Wang Laoming told the mediator that he has two daughters and a son, but now none of them have come forward to take care of him.
As he spoke, Wang Lao Ming was sad and couldn't help crying bitterly. Seeing that he was so miserable, the mediator hurriedly calmed him.
Subsequently, Aunt Zhang, the wife of Wang Laoming who was found by Uncle Wang, came to the scene.
Seeing Wang Laoming, Aunt Zhang looked resentful, as if the person in front of her was her mortal enemy.
The mediator asked, "Auntie, is this person your wife?"
Aunt Zhang said angrily: "No, it's dead, my wife is dead." ”
The mediator understood that Aunt Zhang was talking angrily, and after Aunt Zhang was angry, the mediator asked again, and this time Aunt Zhang accused Wang Laoming: "Irresponsible, not responsible, not worthy of being a person!"
The mediator asked, "Auntie, do you and your children know what he looks like now?"
Aunt Zhang said that the brigade had notified her and her children before, but no one wanted to take care of it, because before that, Wang Laoming, under the instigation of his brother, directly sued the three children in court, saying that the children did not support him.
The mediator asked Wang Laoming to confirm the matter, and Wang Laoming admitted very simply, saying that he had no place to live at that time.
After Aunt Zhang's son Wang Xiaoming came to the scene, and when he saw Wang Laoming, Wang Xiaoming's eyes were like a pool of stagnant water, and he couldn't set off any emotional waves.
Faced with the mediator's inquiry, Wang Xiaoming denied it all.
Then the mediator asked: What do you think about your father's pension now?
Wang Xiaoming said directly: I'm not sure he is my father.
Wang Xiaoming said that the last time he saw his father was in 2007, and more than ten years have passed, and he can't be sure that the person opposite him is his father.
At that time, he found his father who was playing mahjong in the county through his fellow villagers, and when school was about to start, he begged his father to give him tuition.
Wang Laoming just gave him a phone number and asked his son to leave his bank card number, saying that he would transfer the tuition fee to the card at that time.
But when school started, Wang Xiaoming found that his father did not send him money, and the phone number left by his father could not be called.
Since then, Wang Xiaoming has never been able to contact his father.
The mediator understood that Wang Xiaoming was angry, so he asked him to take a good look at whether the poor old man opposite was his father.
Wang Xiaoming just shook his head, different from Wang Xiaoming's indifferent attitude, Wang Laoming said that Xiao Ming was his son, and then he was even more emotional and raised his crutch to beckon Xiao Ming, shouting "You, you!" in a vague voice.
Seeing this, the mediator hurriedly stopped Wang Laoming.
But Wang Xiaoming took the initiative to approach Wang Laoming's crutch and said, "Beat you, beat you." ”
Wang Laoming scolded his son, "You have no conscience!", Xiao Ming happily admitted: "Yes, I have no conscience", after that, Xiao Ming also gave Lao Ming a thumbs up: "You are great, you are really great!"
After persuading the emotional Wang Laoming, the mediator asked him where he had gone after 2007, and Wang Laoming said that he had gone to Xinjiang to work, and he did all the work in order to earn money, but soon after he ran out of money because of a cerebral infarction.
Wang Laoming said angrily that before leaving, he obviously gave his friend 2,000 yuan and asked his friend to hand it over to his son, but his son was talking nonsense here, and he was about to be angry with him.
Wang Xiaoming admitted that he did receive 2,000 yuan from his father's friend, but it was not enough for his tuition at that time, and in the end he had to rely on his mother to successfully enroll in school.
Seeing her son so passive, Aunt Zhang stood up.
She began to complain about the harm Wang Laoming had done to her and her children over the years. Aunt Zhang said that she and Wang Laoming had children in the third year of marriage.
For the first child of the two, Wang Laoming not only did not show joy, but also said that the child was not his own, and he would never care.
The mediator was surprised, why did he say that?
Aunt Zhang said that Wang Laoming cheated at that time, but he happened to be pregnant, he said that he would not give birth sooner or later, but he was born at this time, so he suspected that the child was not his.
Hearing Aunt Zhang say this, Wang Laoming's momentum is obviously much weaker. I don't know if it's because of a weak heart or other reasons, his voice is much quieter: What are you talking nonsense?
But Aunt Zhang was not used to him at all, and she also made the whole thing clear: at that time, her mother-in-law's family hid her husband's search for someone outside, but she found her husband through clues.
Later, Wang Laoming was discovered by the other party's husband, and his head was hit with a big hole.
But instead of restraining himself, he began to stay at home, and the number of times he was at home a year was only a handful. And he never told Aunt Zhang his whereabouts.
The mediator turned his head and asked Wang Laoming: Where did he go when he was not at home?
Uncle Wang was busy helping his younger brother find compensation, saying that his younger brother was working in Yanshi, because his younger brother did not continue to work like others, he always dried the net for three days and two days, and played cards in his free time, so the time for him to go home was uncertain.
Wang Laoming also added along with his brother's words.
The mediator then asked, "How much money do you get home in a year?"
Wang Laoming said: I bought everything at home during the Chinese New Year. When it comes to money, sometimes it's more and sometimes it's less, but I can't remember exactly how much.
The mediator also debunked him mercilessly: if you take 30,000 or 50,000 yuan a year, you will definitely remember it. You can't remember because you took too little!
Wang Laoming and Uncle Wang agreed with this statement.
But Aunt Zhang said that Wang Laoming never took a penny from home at all, and only took two clothes for her over the years, and this dress was still not wanted by others, so he picked it up and gave it to her.
Aunt Zhang insisted that since she married the other party, he has not taken a penny from the family.
And these are not the most hateful, the most hateful thing is that Wang Xiaoming's hand was accidentally crushed by the noodle machine, Aunt Zhang couldn't take out the money, and her husband didn't give money, and in the end, Wang Xiaoming's palm could only be cut off in half.
Wang Xiaoming's hand had been hidden in his trouser pocket before, and the mediator did not see it.
When Aunt Zhang took out her son's hand, even the mediator gasped. Aunt Zhang said that after her son's accident, her husband came a week later, and after he came, not only did he not feel sorry for his son, but he said cool things there.
After Wang Laoming heard this, he said vigorously that Aunt Zhang was talking nonsense. Aunt Zhang said, the conscience of heaven and earth, whoever talks nonsense knows!
The mediator questioned Wang Laoming, why didn't he come out with the money when his son was injured like this?
Wang Laoming said, I didn't have any money at that time!
The mediator asked rhetorically: As an adult, can't you ask your relatives and friends to borrow some money? If you borrow money, you can keep your child's hand! Don't you feel guilty about saying these things?
The mediator was on the verge of tears as she spoke. Because of Wang Xiaoming's mutilated hand, the touch on him was too great.
The mediator said unceremoniously: "I think you said that you have no money is an excuse, and the real reason is because you don't have this child in your heart." Any responsible person will find a way to see his child like this, even if it is difficult. ”
And Wang Xiaoming also began to tell about his childhood of bullying. He said that at that time, because his father did not recognize him as his biological child, the adults in the village looked at him with colored glasses.
And because the family is poor, the mother raises a few sheep to make a living, and they live with the sheep and have the smell of sheep on their bodies.
When he wants to play with children of the same age, the other parent will unceremoniously ask him to walk away: "You have a stink on your body and on your feet, don't play with my child." ”
Because of the white eyes, Wang Xiaoming has no nostalgia for the place where he grew up.
Wang Xiaoming also said that because of such a growth environment, he has thought about suicide countless times.
And the only way for him to vent his stress is to self-harm, and when negativity hits, he will drive away the emotions by banging his head against the wall.
At this time, the mediator did not want to mediate for Wang Laoming, and he said that he would not forgive for seeing the child, because Wang Laoming had indeed failed to fulfill his father's responsibilities.
Wang Laoming said that he knew that he was wrong, and he cried as he spoke, and his brother comforted him on the side, telling him not to cry and apologize to the child.
Wang Laoming said to Wang Xiaoming: I'm sorry, I was wrong.
But Wang Xiaoming did not accept it, he said that this was different from the way he knew to apologize, and he could not represent his mother and sisters.
In the end, out of obligation, the mediator hoped that Wang Laoming and his brother would not force Wang Xiaoming and Aunt Zhang, and he also hoped that Wang Xiaoming would come to see his father.
There are not many people like Wang Laoming, who did not take on the responsibility of being a husband and a father when he was young. When I was old and sick, I thought about my wife and children.
Such people are truly hateful.