A full day can sleep peacefully, and a full life can be full without regrets.
Accept yourself, reduce internal friction, focus on the present, try to break through, what you see is indifferent and beautiful, so that you can live bravely wholeheartedly, in order to enrich yourself.
Try the 6 suggestions recommended by the People's Daily to find yourself and live a fulfilling life.
01
A little more self-confidence, more courage
A female netizen once posted a request for help, saying that she was extremely unconfident on a blind date and wanted netizens to help.
In her self-report, she listed her various "shortcomings": single-parent families, it is difficult for the elderly to help take care of the baby, they have a house, but they don't have much savings, they have no money to cover, their income is acceptable, but their work is tepid, and they will have a mid-life crisis.
In addition to these situations that may not be considered "shortcomings" in the same age group at all, she avoids talking about her own academic qualifications, work and other advantages.
There is a high-praise comment to the effect that many people will feel unconfident and even have the idea of denying themselves when they meet people who don't like them or even belittle them when they meet them on a blind date.
"The other party has nothing to do with you, but you care about his opinion. ”
The relationship between any of us and society, like the blind date market, is to seek common ground while reserving differences, two-way matching, rather than being one-way screening and harsh criticism.
The right to position oneself is never in the hands of others, only self-identification.
There is a saying: "One of the most feared things in life is to regard the eyes of others as the only standard of your own life." ”
Recognizing and accepting your uniqueness, and having more self-confidence, will give you more courage to do what you want to do.
Cherishing ourselves, pleasing ourselves, and the high energy brought by self-confidence can prevent us from falling into unconscious doubt and internal friction, and live as we want to be with a richer and fuller spirit and experience.
02
Try a little more and break through yourself
There is a shot in the TV series "Flowers".
In the pouring rain, Miss Wang was wearing a simple raincoat and two strands of wet hair around her ears, and turned back to the master and shouted: "No. 27 is not my dock, I am my own dock." ”
In this changeable era, having the courage to try and break through, and maintaining the habit of lifelong learning is the dock that we can always rely on.
Some people are always confined to their comfort zone and wander anxiously, and at the same time, they do not forget to sigh with envy and sigh that those who have achieved things are really lucky.
But in fact, the good luck they lament comes from trying new things and opportunities.
And the fixed pattern of staying in their comfort zone for a long time will only suppress their growth opportunities more and more.
Only by taking the initiative to try, making bold breakthroughs, and accepting new things can we tap our endless potential and possibilities.
There is no standard answer in life, and with a little more try and courage, you will have more luck and confidence.
03
A little more record, find the good
Not long ago, the movie "Hot and Hot" became popular, and the memo at the end of the film touched many audiences.
It records the actor's real-life weight loss process - the number of people who have lost weight a little bit, as well as words that record emotions such as "mentality collapsed", "body pain", "I can cross my legs for the first time".
Compared to the huge image changes presented by several transitions in the film, these long lists of numbers and words seem to allow people to capture the details of this experience better.
There is a saying, "The reason why you need to record frequently is because the real sharer is your future self." ”
Records can capture the moments and stories that really exist and have happened in our lives.
With a little more records, you will often find that there are surprises in every small day, and there is endless beauty in every ordinary daily life.
When your future self wants to look back and relive the past, always having a clear life line for self-growth will bring great encouragement and courage to your future self.
04
A little more focus and grasp the moment
There is a touching point in the book "The Courage to Be Hated": life is a continuous moment, the most important thing is to live the present seriously, and "what happened in the past" and "what will happen in the future" should not be a question to be considered "here and now".
But think too much and devote yourself wholeheartedly to each moment, this ultimate flow experience can make people have the happiness of truly enjoying life.
And this happiness of focusing on the present moment comes not only from the experience of self-forgetfulness, but also from the sense of security of being in control of oneself – to grasp each present moment is to control one's own life.
The imaginary future is illusory, the processed memories are useless, and in the hope that everything will be perfect, the moment of life is quietly passing by.
Focusing on the present moment to continue the main line of life with a sense of "relaxation" and "fulfillment" is the only thing that can be done and must be done.
There is a saying, "True generosity to the future is to give everything to the present." ”
With more focus and grasp the present, you choose to take control of your life and future.
05
Be a little more calm and calm down
One blogger once expressed an impressive opinion about the state of mind.
The gist of this passage is: if cats represent peace, cuteness, and positive energy that can bring happiness to people, and crocodiles represent ugliness, gloom, and negative energy, if you want to achieve true peace and happiness, then you should drive away the crocodiles in your life, rather than buy more cats, otherwise these cats will eventually become the crocodile's meal.
However, in the eyes of different people, the same thing may mean a cat or a crocodile, because the former is open and tolerant about the development of things, while the latter has difficulty accepting the unexpected.
Life is about experience, and the process between nodes is more precious than a certain node of life.
Only by calming down our minds, accepting our desires but not being obsessed with the results, can we calm our attention, concentrate our mental energy and energy on solving problems head-on, enrich our experience in the full experience, and deal with them calmly.
If you care too much about the results of gain and loss, you will be blinded by the desires in front of you and neglect to experience what you have gained in life.
Writer Liu Zhenyun once said: "There is no winning or losing in life, but once you have the will to win, then you must be a loser." ”
That's why imperfectionists who don't focus on perfection and strive to experience the finished tend to go further than perfectionists.
Look down on the gains and losses, and have a more calm and indifferent attitude, you can go to the banquet life freely, and everything will not be disturbed.
06
A little more enthusiasm and find love
If you are destined to face the end soon, and your money and work are worthless, what will you do in the last few months?
This is the case in the miniseries "Kylo's Doomsday Routine", where everyone is desperate to experience a passionate, unbridled life that is very similar – globetrotting, fireworks and yachts.
But the heroine is different, after suddenly losing her restraints, she doesn't know what "non-mediocre" things she really wants to do, so she secretly finds a class.
This somewhat dramatic decision also provokes the question: Is the yearning that seems to have become a fixed template really stems from the love of the heart, or has it not been actively explored?
Life is long, and you need inner love to ignite the enthusiasm and vitality of life.
In the leisure time after experiencing thousands of years, I am still full of interest and willing to do what I am willing to do, which is the love that can heal and recharge.
Life is unique, and we should explore self-love, rather than blindly living a cookie-cutter "second-hand" life.
It doesn't matter if you have a coarse tea or a light meal, it doesn't matter if your friends are gone, it doesn't matter if you're upside down, as long as you have a steaming soul, life won't be bad.
Be more confident in yourself, try new things, record the bits and pieces of your lifeline, focus on the present, find your inner passion, and face the future calmly, so that your life will be full and free.
About the author: Chu Wei, a multi-platform contracted author, uses words to record deep and shallow thoughts, and explores the power of multiple lives.