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The difference between men and men,
Bigger than both humans and dogs
Text/Yan Lingyang
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watched two news in a row, and my heart warmed:
The first one: In Suzhou, Anhui Province, Mr. Ma's wife was diagnosed with liver failure last year, and he hid from his wife's successful matching, and only told his wife the truth when he signed and confirmed the operation the day before the operation.
After 12 hours of surgery, his liver was successfully distributed to his wife, and the two hugged and cried when they met after the operation, and his wife is now recovering well.
This year is the 10th year that the two have been in love, and Mr. Ma said, "This is the most correct decision in my life."
The second: Nantong, Jiangsu, 20 years ago, the guy Yang Feng fell in love with his girlfriend at first sight, but his girlfriend died unexpectedly three months after falling in love.
Seeing his parents desperate, he decided to move to his girlfriend's house to take care of them and help them out of the shadows.
During this period, the two old men also took the initiative to introduce him, found his current wife, and formed a special family of seven.
Yang Feng said that over the years, he has come all the way anyway, and his wife is also very supportive, "I will insist on giving them a pension for the elderly." ”
I can only sigh: in the male group, good people are really good, and scum people are really scum.
Women, except for their mothers and sons, are willing to donate their kidneys and livers to their men, and there are very few who will sacrifice themselves to save their partners when the catastrophe comes.
There are also very few people who are willing to leave the house to compensate the man when they are divorced. Men, who do this, have been in the news repeatedly.
Of course, among the female group, there are very few people who kill their husbands in order to cheat them. There are very few prostitutes, cheating, drug abuse, gambling, and killing their partners when they divorce.
Men, there are quite a lot of them.
The difference between one man and another is like the difference between a penguin and a camel.
The difference between women and women may be as simple as the difference between emperor penguins and little blue penguins.
The variance between males and males is more than between females and females...... Big.
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I've never agreed with the notion that men and women have similar scumbag rates.
I agree with what netizens said: The high-quality rate and slag rate of men and women are inverted bells and dumbbells.
The distribution of high-quality women and scum in the female group is like an inverted bell: the super-high-quality and super-scum are at the two poles, but the middle part of the group is huge.
Men are dumbbell type, with less middle part (compared to women), there are more super quality men than super quality women, and there are more super scumbag men than super scumbag women.
The difference between men and men is far greater than the difference between women and women.
It's not my nonsense, it's backed up by statistics.
For example, women's IQ is more concentrated in an average range.
Men's IQ is "varied", with people with IQs below 70 and those with IQs above 130 significantly more than women.
And, not just at the level of IQ, but also personality. Male perverts are more perverted than female perverts. Most of the elites of human society are men, and most of the dregs of society are men.
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I have an observation:
In the field of entrepreneurship, the difference in earning power between men and women is also the same as the difference in IQ between men and women in the figure (men have a large variance in intelligence differences, and women are relatively balanced).
That is, there are far more men than women who can make money, but there are also more men than women who can lose money.
The main reason for this is that there are far more male entrepreneurs than women, but if we assume that there are as many male and female entrepreneurs, I think this pattern still exists.
Because men are more likely to take risks, they are always willing to believe that they will be the one standing at the top of the pyramid, and the high risk and high reward are the same as Dilian.
So, the entrepreneurs who make money (bet right, win high returns) and super can lose money (lose the bet, only get high risk) entrepreneurs are mostly men.
There are not many entrepreneurial women I know who have made a lot of money or lost a lot of money.
If everyone is in the same circle and starts working hard at a similar starting point, in a few years, the quality of life of female entrepreneurs is indeed higher than that of male entrepreneurs, and it is some of the wealth she has saved over time.
The ups and downs of entrepreneurial life are too exciting, and many entrepreneurial women say they can't stand it.
Many women choose a mate and like to find an entrepreneurial man...... Let me put it this way, this is also a "high-risk, high-return" path.
Similar to stock trading, the number of women who "find the right potential stocks" is far lower than the number of women who "don't find the right potential stocks and post them upside down".
are all decided to marry an entrepreneurial man, but you first understand this probability, and then decide whether to gamble, on the whole, it is more cerebral than "believe that my family will make a fortune".
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When you go out, you can see a lot of uncivilized phenomena along the way, such as spitting, throwing garbage, holding one hand to snort on the green belt, not wearing masks, and running red lights...... Almost all of them are done by men (what this means is that almost all men do these things, not all men do these things).
This is also a reflection of the fact that men have a greater variance in overall quality, while women are relatively balanced. In other words, the difference between men and men is too large, and the difference between women and women is small.
This is reflected in the field of mate selection, which is that the number of high-quality human males is too small compared to normal females. If a normal woman desires marriage and love, there is a considerable chance that she will meet a low-quality human male.
This problem has been unsolvable since ancient times.
The reason why many men come out to educate you that "there are still a lot of good men" is because they have no experience of this "variance".
Either "the world is around him", or from his point of view, he sees more normal women, so he thinks that from a female perspective, women see as many normal men.
After understanding the distribution characteristics of high-quality men and scumbags in the male group, I think women can figure out a little: there are very few women with husbands, so there is no need to be too entangled in this matter, and do not spend too much time and energy on this kind of thing similar to buying lottery tickets.
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Blogger Cai Leilei made a very interesting point, and I agree with it. I'll try to summarize what he meant:
Whether it is in terms of education level or the average salary of white-collar workers in big cities, women are likely to have surpassed men, and there is no gap between women and men in terms of value output ability, but why are most men who get "big results" in their careers?
He believes that there are two reasons:
First, men face a harsher competitive environment and have no choice when it comes to making money, while women have long been encouraged to use the family as a retreat.
This leads to a large base of "men who make money", and the number of successful men has increased accordingly.
Second, in our society, many women have been educated from childhood to adulthood, not how to increase the value of the society, but some skills to "take stock" from men.
For example, how to get a man to agree to add your name on the real estate certificate, how to make a man take the initiative to pay you to spend by sweetening his mouth and giving enough emotional value.
But the ceiling of the benefits of this practice is very obvious, and this ceiling is the upper limit of the ability of the chosen man - even if your man gives you all the money, that's all. It is difficult to do it like a pure value increment, and it can be done without an upper limit.
The above is only based on a general phenomenon, not applicable to individual cases, in reality, there are women who are very hardworking, and there are also men who have little fighting spirit.
People, whether they are men or women, must have a bit of a risk appetite and develop incremental markets, rather than thinking about internal struggles and trivial matters all day long, and live by a certain degree of parasitism, otherwise it is easy to collapse as soon as they are hit.
It is certainly no fun to do it like the latter, because society is essentially the law of the jungle, don't put your fate in the hands of others, and don't base your well-being on the conscience of others.
That's all I want to express.
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Author: Yan Lingyang, born in the 80s, emotional columnist, author of new feminism, member of the Chinese Writers Association. He is the author of the best-selling books "Those That Make You Miserable, One Day You Will Say It with a Smile", "May You Let Go of the Past and Be Worthy of the Future", "May You Have a Journey and a Way Out", "I'm Divorced", "With Your Rivers and Lakes Are Not Lonely - An Alternative Interpretation of Jin Yong's Martial Arts Novels" and the children's picture book "Mom's House, Dad's House". With 13 years of experience in financial industry (management), he is currently the founder of a cultural information consulting company in Guangzhou and the co-founder of a cultural media company. Born in Lijiang, Yunnan Province, he now lives in Guangzhou.
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