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How to find a good man, I believe many women want to know the answer to this question.
Good men are too hard to find, it seems that good men will always be someone else's family, and when you find them, there are always all kinds of problems, such as picking, mother's, machismo, no family responsibilities, and so on.
Look at other people's men, they are diligent and motivated, they give all the money they earn to their families, they struggle outside during the day, and when they get home at night, they have to take care of the children and do housework with their wives, how can such a good man be in someone else's house.
turned around and looked at the man in his family, he was really angry, and if it wasn't good, he would be angry with himself and add blockage to his heart.
So they all wanted to turn the men in their families into good men like other people's families, and become a good husband with twenty-four filial piety, but they found that no matter how they changed, they couldn't change what they wanted, and it became worse.
In fact, many women are mistaken, if they want to find a good man, they only need to grasp the six-word secret, these six words are: only screen, do not change.
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Let's start with "screening only".
Why is it said that "only screening"? Because screening is the most critical step in finding a good man, and it is also a step that many people ignore.
Many women don't have the consciousness of screening, and they choose a man completely by feeling, thinking that as long as he is good to him, it is enough to move himself, as for the rest, it is not so important.
In fact, this is often the most likely to find an irresponsible man to go home, because men's kindness to you can be completely disguised, and they know how to use their kindness to women to gain women's favor, get their favor, and let them fall into the emotional trap.
Once you get it, you will soon reveal your true nature, and it is difficult for women to get out at this time, because they already love each other deeply at this time.
Therefore, at the beginning, you should have a screening mindset and only choose what you can accept, such as he wants to be motivated, he can't smoke and drink, he can't make indiscreet friends, he has a regular life, he loves hygiene, etc.
Once you find that he does not meet your requirements, then immediately screen him out, so that you can avoid suffering because of it in the future, and directly exclude what you don't like.
Then the man who has been screened is basically the person he wants the most and is suitable for himself.
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Then let's talk about "not changing".
Many women have some thoughts about men who want to change each other, and when they find that the other party is different from what they expected, they will want to change the other party and hope that the other party will become what they want.
He likes to smoke and drink, so she has always strictly forbidden him to smoke and drink.
He was addicted to playing games, and when he started playing, he forgot that he existed, so she quarreled with him every day and asked him to quit the game.
He likes to hang out with his fox friends until midnight, and she gives him curfew time, and he must go home before what time.
She didn't like some of his things, and she wanted to change them.
In fact, this is very wrong, it turns out that very few women can change a man and make him the person she likes.
Because "the country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to change", people's temperament and habits are formed from a young age, and they cannot be changed if you say you want to change. Forcibly changing will only make the relationship between the two people more and more strained.
So the right thing to do is not to change him, maybe many people will say, if you don't change, wouldn't you let him go on like this, do you have to endure yourself?
This brings us to the "only screening" we mentioned at the beginning, that is, you should screen out the people you don't like at the beginning, and if you don't screen them out at the beginning, then you have to face the pain he brings to you later.
Of course, it doesn't matter if you don't filter him out at first, then in the later relationship, you find that he is such a person, and then you can filter him out, instead of thinking about changing him.
When you master the six-word secret of "finger screening does not change", you will be able to find the good man you want faster.
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