I'm an ordinary office worker, 28 years old. Since I was a child, I have longed to have a complete and harmonious family, but unfortunately the atmosphere in the family has always been tense.
My parents' marriage has always been not very harmonious, and they quarrel all year round. My mother was a very strong woman who always demanded that my father be obedient. I grew up watching them argue endlessly, filled with fear and helplessness.
"How did you do it wrong again! Didn't I teach you countless times?" Mother often rebuked my father in this way, and her tone was full of anger and impatience.
The father lowered his head and looked helpless: "I'm sorry, I'll pay attention next time." "
I shivered for fear that I would accidentally annoy my mother and suffer such a scolding.
Living in such an environment for a long time, I longed to have a warm and harmonious family and get rid of the shadow of my parents. Last year, I met my current wife, Xiaomei, who is gentle and considerate, and is my ideal partner. We fell in love and decided to get married and start a new life.
In the beginning, Xiaomei's newlywed life with me was very sweet and happy. Xiaomei is considerate and takes care of housework, which makes me feel warm.
"Honey, you're working late today, come and try the food I cooked. "Xiaomei always treats me so kindly.
We treat each other with respect, care for each other, and live a carefree life.
However, the good times were short-lived, and my mother soon began to interfere in our lives. She often comes to inspect the house for no reason and criticizes Xiaomei's way of doing things.
"Your cooking skills are so bad, look if this soup is too salty, the floor is not clean, there are footprints everywhere!" The mother yelled at Xiaomei.
Xiaomei's eyes were red, and she nodded with tears in her eyes. I saw it in my eyes, very angry, but I didn't dare to contradict my mother.
My mother's interference became more and more serious, and although I repeatedly dissuaded her, she did not listen at all. Xiaomei begins to fight back, and the relationship between the two deteriorates dramatically, and the house is often filled with a tense atmosphere.
"Who the hell are you, why do you care so much about me? I'm his wife, and I'm in charge of this family!" Xiaomei finally broke out in an argument.
"You're in charge, you're still a little tender, wait until you learn to be a virtuous wife!" Mother doesn't take Xiaomei seriously at all.
I was caught in the middle, feeling helpless and miserable. Should I obey my mother, or should I support my wife? I was caught in a deep conflict and a struggle.
Xiaomei has been trying to please her mother, hoping to gain her approval. But no matter how hard she tried, she only got her mother's cynicism and ruthless denial.
"Mom, do you think I made this dish today, is it doing well?" Xiaomei asked her mother expectantly.
"Hmph, there's still a lot of room for improvement. The mother said coldly, "You have to learn more from me." "
Xiaomei's smile suddenly froze on her face. She began to doubt her abilities and felt inferior and anxious like never before.
I comforted her, "Honey, don't pay too much attention to Mom's words, you've worked hard." But little by little, her self-confidence was destroyed.
I love Xiaomei deeply and hope that she can live a happy and healthy life. But at the same time, I didn't want to hurt my mother's feelings. I tried to reconcile the two of us, but I always failed.
"Mom, why are you always so harsh? Xiaomei has done her best. "I tried to get out of the way for my wife.
"No wonder she's so sloppy! Don't you think she's doing a good job?" The mother's tone was full of sarcasm.
I was dumbfounded and began to doubt my own judgment. I was caught in a painful tangle and didn't know what to do.
My mother was a very strong woman, pretentious, and thought that what she was doing was always right. She sees Xiaomei as a threat, and is trying to get rid of her and completely control me in the palm of her hand.
"You see, you can't even tidy up your home. How bad you two would be without me!" Mother used to say that.
She spoke ill of me as well, and I began to resent her behavior, but I was powerless to change the situation.
One day, her mother unreasonably accused Xiaomei of being unqualified in cooking, and Xiaomei finally broke out.
"That's enough, I've done everything I can, why won't you give me a chance?" Little Beauty burst into tears.
I also joined the debate: "Mom, you are always so harsh, Xiaomei will feel very wronged." "
"You two are the same dog! You don't deserve me!" The mother was furious, and the scene got out of control for a while.
I was lost in thought. My mother did have her faults, but she was my real mother after all. However, Xiaomei is also my wife, and I should protect and cherish her. I weighed the dilemma back and forth.
"My dear, I'm sorry, I should have supported you more firmly. From now on, I will break with my mother and be with you alone. You are my real family. "
Xiaomei smiled with relief, and we hugged each other tightly and regained our happiness.
Since then, I've worked hard to rebuild trust with Mimi. I did my best to be considerate of her and proved my determination and promise with my actions.
Every day when I get home from work, I will take the initiative to share the housework so that Xiaomei can have a good rest. Sometimes, I would also sneak a little surprise to her, such as her favorite little cake or flowers.
"Honey, thank you for your hard work, this is a little bit of heart for you. I handed her the gift.
Xiaomei happily hugged me and kissed me on the face: "Thank you, my good husband." I feel very blessed to have you by my side. "
Gradually, Xiaomei regained her self-confidence, and our relationship became more intimate.
We completely cut off contact with our mother and started a new independent life. At the beginning, the days were indeed a little lonely, and there were only me and Xiaomei at home, which seemed a little lonely.
"Honey, I'm kind of nostalgic for my old life. Xiaomei said once.
I took her in my arms and comforted, "It's okay, from now on, it's just the two of us." As long as we are together, we are not afraid of anything. "
We supported each other and built an independent life. Although there may be some stumbles from time to time, as long as you are considerate and understanding of each other, you can resolve differences. We've become closer and more emotional.
This experience made me deeply realize that home is not only about blood, but also about love and mutual respect. Xiaomei is my real family, and what we create together is my home.
One day, I suddenly said to Xiaomei, "You know what? I think home is where you are." As long as there is you, everywhere is home. "
Xiaomei was touched by my heartfelt words, and she shed tears of happiness and hugged me tightly.
Since then, we have cherished each other more and cared for each other. Our home is filled with an atmosphere of happiness and has become a haven for us.
"Mom, the mistress of this house is my wife Xiaomei, not you. You are not in a position to interfere in our lives at will. "
My mother looked incredulous, she didn't seem to expect me to rebel against her so bluntly.
That's what it means. From now on, please stay away from our mother and child, and don't come to disturb our lives again. I said firmly.
My mother left in shock, and I felt more free and relieved than I had ever felt before.
Since then, Xiaomei and I have lived a long and peaceful life. Although there are occasional small stumbles, as long as you are considerate and understanding of each other, you can resolve differences.
Once, Xiaomei accidentally put too much salt in the dish. I wanted to point it out, but when I saw her tired look, I endured it.
"Honey, I think this dish tastes good, it's just a little salty. I said mildly.
Xiaomei smiled knowingly: "Okay, I'll pay attention next time." Thanks for the reminder. "
In this way, we gradually learned to tolerate and understand each other. Our relationship is getting deeper and deeper, and each other is the most solid backing for each other.
This experience made me realize how important it is to be brave enough to pursue your own happiness. Only by building healthy family relationships can one achieve true happiness and freedom in life.
I think back to the days when I was at the mercy of my mother, and I feel truly happy. If I hadn't made that choice, I might have lived in the shadow of my mother for the rest of my life, unable to achieve true happiness.
With Xiaomei, a caring partner, I have found the meaning and direction of my life. The small family we built together is the driving force for me to move forward in the future. As long as there is love, you can overcome all difficulties and live a life of contentment.
"Look, this is our little darling. Xiaomei said tired but happy.
I looked down at the peaceful sleeping faces of my two children, my eyes full of tears. I vowed to give them a happy family so that they would never experience the pain I had as a child.
As the children grew up, Xiaomei and I began to have differences in educational philosophy. Xiaomei is more tolerant, while I am stricter.
Once, my eldest son didn't do well in the exam, and I was going to punish him.
Xiaomei disagreed: "My dear, the child is still young, it's not good to be too strict." "
"But if they are not strict, how will they gain a foothold in society in the future?" I'm sticking to my guns.
We argued about it, and in the end, Xiaomei gave in. However, she secretly gave her son some pocket money in private.
It made me realize that our trust was still affected somewhat. In order to regain mutual trust, we had an in-depth communication.
"Honey, I know you're doing it for the good of the child. But I also hope that you can trust me a little more. Xiaomei said sincerely.
I nodded, looking apologetic, "I'm sorry, I did go a little too far." In the future, I will respect your decision and trust your judgment. "
In this way, we reached a new consensus and trust was re-established.
One day, I suddenly realized that when I was educating my children, I was subtly influenced by my mother's strict style. That kind of harsh education is exactly what I used to hate.
I began to reflect on myself, did I also repeat my mother's mistakes and cast a shadow on my children, and I fell into deep self-blame and anxiety.
"Honey, have you been on your minds lately?" Xiaomei asked suspiciously.
I spoke out my concerns, and Xiaomei comforted me and said, "Don't blame yourself too much, you didn't do anything wrong. As long as you treat children with love, I believe that they can grow up healthy and happy. "
Xiaomei's words relieved me a lot, and I made up my mind to treat the children in a more inclusive and understanding way.
In this way, the years passed quietly, and the children slowly grew up. One day, I suddenly realized that the meaning of home is not only about blood, but also about caring for and supporting each other.
After graduating from high school, my eldest son was faced with the choice of whether to continue his education or find a job. I sat down and patiently discussed with him.
"Son, do you have any plans? Whatever you choose, Daddy will fully support you. "
The eldest son thought about it and said solemnly: "Dad, I want to work for a few years first, accumulate some experience, and then consider further study." "
I patted him on the shoulder, smiled and said, "Okay, that's a good decision." As long as it's your own choice, I will respect it. "
At this moment, Xiaomei walked in with a plate of fruit and looked at us dotingly. We looked at each other and smiled, and our hearts were warm. It turns out that home is such a feeling of mutual understanding and support.
On this ordinary evening, I leaned back on the couch and looked back on my life's journey. All the suffering and struggles of the past have become so far away, replaced by happiness and contentment.
Xiaomei snuggled in my arms, with a happy smile on her face. The children also started their own families and lived their own lives.
I took a deep breath and thanked God for giving me such a happy family. It turns out that home is the meaning of life and the driving force for me to move forward. With the support and encouragement of our families, we can overcome all difficulties and live the life we want.
I hugged Mei tightly and left a kiss on her forehead. It was she who made me rediscover the meaning of home; She is the one who has made my life so colorful. With her by my side, I have the whole world.