With the continuous development of society, people's understanding of marriage and love is also changing. Marriage is no longer just a marriage certificate, but a relationship that needs to be managed and maintained by both husband and wife. In today's era of individuality and freedom, many people attach more importance to spiritual fit and emotional communication in marriage, rather than material conditions and financial relationships. However, marriage in real life is not always so beautiful and ideal, and many times practical issues such as money and material things can also become the source of contradictions and disputes in the relationship between husband and wife, and even affect the happiness and stability of marriage.
Recently, a news about the failure of a blind date has caused heated discussions on the Internet, a beautician named Guan and an engineer named Wang because of a pension salary card, which eventually led to the failure of the blind date. The occurrence of this incident not only makes people feel regretful, but also arouses people's thinking about money and material things in marriage, as well as paying attention to the living conditions of single elderly people.
1. The status of money in marriage
It is understood that Guan and Wang met through a blind date, and the blind date process between the two was smooth at first, because they both had similar life experiences and emotional concepts, so they were also very harmonious and happy in the process of getting along. Especially when they talked about their respective concepts of marriage and their expectations for their future life, they found that each other's ideas were very compatible, and they seemed to have found their ideal other half.
Therefore, in the final stage of the blind date, Guan and Wang also had a good impression of each other, and felt that the other party was the other half they were looking forward to. At this time, Guan suddenly put forward a special request to Wang, hoping to master Wang's pension salary card, so that in the future life, it can be more convenient to deal with some monetary expenses and daily expenses.
He felt that the money issue in the marriage does need to be negotiated and decided by the husband and wife, but it does not mean that one party has to fully control the economic income of the other party.
He hopes that together with Guan, he can find a way to manage money that can not only protect each other's interests, but also build trust and transparency, rather than simply and rudely grasping each other's salary cards. However, Guan did not give enough understanding and support because of Wang's hesitation, but thought that Wang was evading marriage and responsibility, and finally chose to give up this relationship.
In fact, it can be seen from this incident that money is not a simple problem in marriage, but requires both husband and wife to have a mature concept of money and communication skills, so as to be able to properly handle various money disputes and contradictions, and establish a stable marital relationship.
If there is a lack of trust and understanding between the husband and wife, or if there is monetary unfairness, it is easy to have suspicion and suspicion, which will eventually affect each other's feelings and marital happiness.
Therefore, in marriage, how should we view the role of money, and how should we establish a reasonable money management mechanism?
First of all, both the couple's economic income and expenditure should maintain a certain degree of transparency and openness, and they can work together to formulate the family's budget plan and financial plan, and discuss and decide some important consumption behaviors together.
Secondly, it is necessary to be fair and just in the distribution of money, and there should not be a situation where one party has an absolute advantage in the economy, and the legitimate rights and interests of both parties can be protected by jointly safeguarding the family's economic resources or signing a property notarization.
Finally, whether it is rich or poor, you should enrich your married life in various ways, money is not the only criterion to measure happiness, you can enhance the relationship between husband and wife through emotional communication, common interests and hobbies, etc., and create a beautiful marriage together.
Through such efforts, the money problem in the marriage can no longer become a burden and pressure, but become a bridge of mutual understanding and trust, and promote a deeper relationship between husband and wife.
2. How to deal with loneliness and loneliness
In addition to the problem of money, the failure of Guan and Wang is also reminiscent of another topic, that is, about the way loneliness and loneliness are handled.
Judging from their living conditions, whether it is Guan or Wang, they are both retired elderly people, and they are both alone, without the companionship and warmth of their families, so they have the needs and desires to find a partner under the torture of loneliness and loneliness.
With the rapid development of society and the diversification of family structures, more and more elderly people are beginning to face the reality of living alone and empty nests, and there will be various difficulties and challenges in life.
In such a special state of life, how to correctly deal with loneliness and loneliness, and how to find a suitable partner, is undoubtedly a difficult problem in front of them.
First of all, for single seniors, their loneliness and loneliness are an objective existence, and it is difficult to fill them through other things or hobbies, because their deepest inner needs are emotional companionship and understanding.
Therefore, the society should give them more attention and support, enrich their spiritual and cultural life in various ways, organize some colorful activities, and give them the opportunity to meet like-minded friends and even partners who can establish deep feelings.
Secondly, in the process of finding a partner, whether it is through blind dates or other means, single elderly people should have a clear understanding and correct attitude, and should not be carried away by loneliness and loneliness, and regard marriage as a kind of filling and dependence.
In the process of blind date, you also need to properly balance each other's expectations and bottom lines, clarify your own needs and goals, and at the same time learn to think and understand from the other party's point of view, and don't easily rely on others financially and emotionally, so as not to be hurt and deceived.
Finally, whether they are married or living alone, single elderly people should cultivate their ability to live independently, know how to enjoy their time alone, and at the same time learn to communicate and get along with others well, no matter what kind of life situation, they can live a full and happy life.
Through such efforts, you can find a partner who is truly suitable for you in loneliness and loneliness, and manage a beautiful relationship together.
Epilogue:
Whether it is money or marriage and love, in fact, it is a common trouble and challenge in modern society, and money and marriage are often closely related, and the way they deal with each other and their attitudes are directly related to the stability and happiness of the relationship between husband and wife.
Through the news of the failure of this blind date, perhaps more people can be inspired and thought, so that everyone can face marriage and money more rationally, and establish a healthy and mature concept of marriage and money, so as to have a happy married life.
At the same time, it is also hoped that the society can give more attention and care, understand the living conditions and needs of the single elderly, give them more help and support, and jointly create a warm and harmonious social environment.