The post-80s generation is an amazing group, aged between 34 and 45. Some of them have children who are still in kindergarten, some whose grandchildren are in kindergarten, some who have been married several times, some who have been single, most of whom are still alive, and some of whom have left first......
I came from the countryside and took the last train of the post-80s. Because I am also a member of the post-80s generation in rural areas, I have a deep feeling for this group, and I feel that this group of people has always been not easy, and it is also the group of people who are under the most pressure now.
People born in the 80s in rural areas were born in poor family conditions, and food and clothing were a problem when they were young.
For people born in the 80s in rural areas, their parents believe that having more people can strengthen their families and having more children, so the post-80s generation is generally a few sisters. There are many people and little land, seeds and cultivation are backward, and the yield of crops is low, even if coarse grains such as sweet potatoes and cassava are added, they cannot meet the rations of a family of six or seven people. How many post-80s generations grew up hungry, and how many post-80s generations have eaten tree bark and wild vegetables?
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How many of the post-80s generation in rural areas grew up in the arms of their parents? I believe that they basically grew up "free-range". Your parents work in the fields all day and night, and your older brothers and sisters basically take care of you and slowly pull you up. Do you still have vague visions in your mind of how old your older siblings are taking care of you?
People born in the 80s in rural areas, do you still remember how often you could wear new clothes and shoes when you were a child? Older brothers and sisters wore clothes that were changed from their parents, and younger brothers and sisters wore those worn by older brothers and sisters. It's good to have patches on your clothes, but how many people sometimes have to wear pants with torn crotch in elementary school. The winter of my childhood was cold, and every year I got frostbite on my hands and feet, and the warm memory was to gather around the fire.
The education level of the post-80s generation in rural areas, some of them have no intention of studying, and some of them cannot afford to read.
The post-80s generation in rural areas is a group of people who have not studied much. They don't know what the meaning of reading is, and their parents don't pay attention to their children's reading, hoping that after finishing primary school, they will know some words, and then go out to work to support themselves, which can not only reduce the family's food, but also earn some money to send back to subsidize the family. Therefore, some of the first batch of post-80s people have not finished primary school, and even fewer can go to junior high school. (Note: The nine-year obligation was introduced in 1986, but it was only enforced in 2006)
In the context of the times, it doesn't matter if everyone reads less. In fact, the most sad thing is that some post-80s generations who are very good at reading, they have a strong desire to read, know that reading can change their destiny, and know that reading can not follow the old path of their parents. However, because their parents could not afford to provide for their education, they were forced to drop out of school and go out to work. At that time, the peasants had little income, and the primary school had a large number of tuition and miscellaneous fees and surcharges to pay, which was enough to overwhelm the parents of several children.
My neighbor's sister has been studying until junior high school, and she has been excellent in her studies, and she was admitted to a very good secondary school, and her parents feel that they can't afford to send her to study anymore, because there are two younger sisters and a younger brother studying below. This sister couldn't get out of herself, and kept trapping herself in her room, and her parents were afraid that this girl wouldn't be able to think about it, so they had to raise money for her to study in secondary school. (Note: At that time, the technical secondary school was very powerful, and the work was assigned when the study came out)
Not everyone is as lucky as this sister, many people choose to understand their parents, give up their studies and go out to work. A younger sister under this sister is no worse than her sister in reading, but her parents also said that they could not afford her to study, so she chose to compromise and understand her parents, and went out to work after graduating from primary school.
This group of post-80s people in rural areas, although their childhood was bitter, they also had a lot of happy times in their childhood.
Now this group of post-80s generations have become parents, both old and young, but they are also the most stressed people now. Why do you say that, and what are their main pressures?
People born in the 80s in rural areas, their parents are old and sick, and they need money to see a doctor and take care of important people.
People born in the 80s in rural areas, their parents are seventy or eighty years old, they are overworked when they are young, and they are sick when they are old, they have to see a doctor to take medicine twice a day, and they need to stay in the hospital two or three times a year, and their parents' medical expenses are a lot of money every year. Parents have a low level of education, and they can't keep up with the changes in the information age, and a person will not go to the hospital to see a doctor and have a physical examination, so they all ask their children to take leave to accompany them, and the children's wages are low, and they have to deduct money for leave.
People born in the 80s in rural areas, their parents are really raising children (generally referring to children) to prevent old age, there is no savings in their lives, and there is no pension, unlike parents in the city who have a high pension after retirement, and they don't have to worry about anything for their children at all.
People born in the 80s in rural areas are filial, no matter how they are doing, they usually take the initiative to give their parents some living expenses and festival expenses. People born in the 80s in rural areas often call to ask their parents how they are doing, and they can't hear their parents say that they are unwell in their bodies, so they have to ask for leave to take their parents to see a doctor and check up, but they are usually reluctant to see a doctor to take medicine when they are sick, so they grit their teeth and get through.
People born in the 80s in rural areas have a hard childhood, and they don't want their children to be the same as themselves, and they always want to give their children the best.
People born in the 80s in rural areas treat their children as treasures, and work hard to make money for everything that can give their children the best. In order for the children to go to a good school and receive a better education, they went to the county seat to arch a house. I was afraid that my child's studies would not be able to keep up, so I signed up for extracurricular tutoring classes, and I was afraid that my child would have nothing to do, so I signed up for various interest classes. As long as the child wants to study, whether it is a vocational school or a university, a private school or a public institution, and what the tuition fee is, they will support their children to study without hesitation.
When the child first came out of work, the parents were still worried about whether the salary was enough to eat, and when the child got married, they gave the child a down payment or bought a house in full, and when the child became a parent, they helped bring their grandchildren......
Some people say that people born in the 80s are too spoiled by their children, perhaps because of the lack of people born in the 80s, they are afraid that their children are also lacking, and making up for their children is also making up for themselves. But this compensation is also expensive, it is all based on money, and the post-80s generation has worked hard for their children and paid basically all their energy and health.
The post-80s generation in rural areas is the group of people who are under the most pressure now.
People born in the 80s in rural areas, now at this age, have parents to support, children to raise or support, and face this double pressure, and this pressure cannot be avoided and relieved, so they are the most stressed people now.