My name is Chen Qiang and I am 50 years old. In the long river of life, I have experienced many ups and downs, and I have also realized many truths of life. In particular, I have a deep understanding of the relationship between parents and children.
When I was younger, I always thought that the bond between parents and children was selfless and boundless. I believe that the love that parents have for their children is the greatest love in the world, and they can give everything, even their lives, for their children. And children's filial piety to their parents is also an unconditional and boundless responsibility. But as I grew older, I began to realize that there are boundaries between parents and children.
This boundary does not mean that the love between parents and children is reserved and limited, but that the relationship between parents and children needs to have certain boundaries in order to maintain health and harmony.
I have a friend, his name is Li Gang, and he is a good example. Li Gang is a filial son, and his care and care for his parents can be said to be meticulous. However, his parents interfered excessively in his life, and they not only demanded his work, marriage, and life, but even restricted his friends, entertainment, and consumption. Although Li Gang was filial, he also felt pressure and constraints. He began to become anxious and depressed, and even became bored with life.
Seeing what happened to Li Gang, I deeply sympathize. I began to understand that the relationship between parents and children, although great, also needs to have certain boundaries. Parents cannot interfere too much in their children's lives, and children cannot be overly dependent on their parents. The relationship between parents and children can only be healthy and harmonious if proper boundaries are maintained.
So, I've summarized five things that I think parents should be taboo when getting along with their children:
1. It is taboo to interfere excessively in the lives of children. Parents should respect their children's choices and decisions and not interfere too much in their lives. Children have their own thoughts and lives, and they need to have their own space and freedom.
2. Don't take excessive care of your children. Parents should teach their children to be independent and self-care, and not to take excessive care of them. Excessive care can cause children to lose their ability to live independently, and even develop a sense of dependence.
3. Don't expect too much from your children. Parents should set reasonable expectations based on their children's actual situation and abilities, and do not expect too much from them. Excessive expectations can cause tremendous stress for children and even affect their mental health.
Fourth, it is taboo to overprotect children. Parents should let their children face the challenges and difficulties of life and not be overprotective of them. Overprotection can cause children to lose their ability to face difficulties and even affect their personality development.
5. Don't criticize your children excessively. Parents should criticize and educate their children in the right way and not criticize them excessively. Excessive criticism can cause children to have low self-esteem and rebellion, and even affect their mental health.
After I turned 50, I realized that the relationship between parents and children, although great, also needs to have certain boundaries. The relationship between parents and children can only be healthy and harmonious if proper boundaries are maintained. I hope that all parents and children can understand and respect this boundary, so as to make family relations better.