What do you think is the highest level of love?
When we are young, we desire to have many things, especially love. For us, being with that special person is a priceless happiness. Even in the face of various challenges and difficulties, we will not be separated easily.
As you grow older and more experienced, the answer to this question will gradually change.
For middle-aged people, the highest level of love may be fulfillment. After all, not being able to get a loved one is often the norm in life. If you really love someone, you should do your best for his happiness and fulfill him. In this way, not only will he be happy, but he will also feel happier.
I agree with this, if liking is the desire to possess, then love is the willingness to think about the other person.
Admiring flowers is a beautiful feeling that often makes you want to pluck them. But falling in love with a flower is different, we should give it the right to grow freely, to nourish it, to care for it, to appreciate its beauty, even if it is not all we have. It is a selfless love that fulfills the deepest emotions in our hearts.
From a moral and emotional point of view, the highest level of love should not be possession, but "love and respect". Both of these words are crucial in a relationship. However, very few people can do this, so many people can't really have them in their lifetime.
One: Respect
As a Nobel laureate in literature, García Márquez has a deep insight into the nature of human nature and the true meaning of love. Yet, he can still convince us that love is worth having, and that humanity is worth trusting. This is the intellectual wisdom of a great writer, and it is also the timeless classic he has created for us in his writings.
In this novel, the male protagonist Florentino Arsa waits for the female protagonist Fermina until she is old and frail, with gray hair and faltering steps, and finally meets her. The main thrust of this story illustrates the true meaning of love, which is that it takes a lot of patience and waiting to make it happen.
That year, they were already in their seventies.
He fell in love with Fermina at first sight and vowed not to marry her. Unfortunately, she has something else to do.
At the time, Fermina's father did not like the young and energetic Alisa and wanted his daughter to marry a man with great prospects. He did everything he could to thwart Fermina and Alisa's meeting in every way.
At first, they were able to keep in touch through letters, but gradually Fermina became less and less heard from, which made Alisa more and more anxious.
It was from Alisa's body that I became deeply aware of the existence of lovesickness. He missed Fermina day and night, unable to sleep, and even fell into a coma with a fever and was unable to stay in bed. This reminds me that love is a powerful emotion that will draw us deeply to the pursuit of true happiness in a relationship. Alisa's experience also reminds us to cherish love, grasp every opportunity, and let ourselves have the right to happiness.
Alisa is deeply obsessed with a woman, but in the end he loses. When he heard the news that she was going to marry someone else, he couldn't breathe in a knife-like pain.
He loved her dearly, so he chose to respect her choice. He prefers to wait patiently rather than dwelling on it. But he never imagined that this wait would take more than half a century.
Two: Fulfillment
When Alisa met Fermina for the first time, he was deeply attracted to her and had a heart-warming feeling.
He was a man of great intuition, and when he suddenly felt a stirring emotion in his heart, he knew that the beautiful woman in front of him would be the most important person in his life.
Alisa did everything in her power to win Fermina's favor.
At a young age, love is always simple and innocent. Fermina gradually found herself enjoying the feeling of being with Alisa, as the lightness and pleasure made her feel extremely happy. She didn't hesitate to agree to be with Alisa.
Alisa's mood is relaxed and happy, and he begins to fantasize about a good life and a happy relationship in the future, which makes him very happy.
When Alisa learns that Fermina is married, he stops bothering her. However, his longing never stopped, and he chose to carry this emotion in his heart and let it become his better motivation. Although he can't have Fermina, he will still try to improve himself and make himself better and better.
Sometimes, the best way to show love is to fulfill the other person, even if the other person's happiness has nothing to do with you.
Three: distressed
Finally, more than fifty years later, Alisa, now in her seventies, learned that Fermina's husband had died. He decided to face it bravely, put on a suit and tie, and appeared in front of Fermina again to express his feelings to her. It was a very rare and formal thing, but he was ready and couldn't wait to confess to her.
Alisa confidently presented her better self in front of her, expressing to Fermina how much she missed her for more than fifty years. This touched Fermina again, and her heart was touched.
At this moment, his love has become more mature, and he is no longer impulsive and stubborn. He respected her choice and felt that she was lonely and distressed.
Deep love is distressed, this is the voice of true love.
Alisa knows that they have gone through half of their lives and know more about the true meaning of love than young people. Instead of pursuing a vigorous love, he prefers to share the rest of his life with her. It is a deeper and more lasting love that gradually takes root and grows in their hearts. They know that only this kind of love can keep them together for the rest of their lives.
He deeply felt Fermina's endurance and strength, and felt very sorry for her. He decided to spend the rest of his life with her and take care of her, because if he didn't, he felt that his life would have no meaning.
The novel "Love in the Time of Cholera" vividly depicts love, allowing us to see the multiple forms of existence and infinite possibilities of love.
The author, García Márquez, is a Nobel Prize-winning master in literature and an outstanding creator of the world-famous novel "One Hundred Years of Solitude". The title of this novel is unknown, but it showcases Márquez's unique talent and penetrating insight, and is undoubtedly a must-see.
There is no doubt that his two masterpieces are enough to establish his place in the history of global literature.
If you want to live a better life and understand life and love more thoroughly, please read his books. It is recommended that you choose a bundle, which is more cost-effective and includes two books. May you enjoy your time reading.
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