The divorce rate is on the rise, causing many people to feel uneasy about marriage and even question the meaning of its existence. But in fact, there are also many people who can be happy after marriage. The key is to manage the marriage, strengthen communication, enhance feelings, mutual understanding and tolerance. Marriage is not the end, but the beginning of a new life, and happiness can only be achieved by managing it carefully.
Divorce data in recent years show that divorce is no longer the preserve of young people. In fact, the divorce rate among older people is also rising. This shows that we need to pay more attention to the issue of divorce, and that both young and old people should be properly cared for and supported.
Many people may wonder why two people can spend their lives together, but divorce in their old age.
In fact, it is very simple, this is because they came through the first half of their lives in compromise. They are old and no longer willing to make do. Everyone needs to live for their own life, and if they don't know how to take care of themselves, they will regret it in old age.
The fate between every couple is not easy to come by, so it needs to be cherished and maintained.
If we have tried our best and find that we really can't solve the problem, then it is better to fulfill each other for the sake of each other's good, rather than tormenting each other.
Everyone has their own pursuits and lifestyles, there is no fixed standard template for life, marriage and family can bring happiness, and a single person can also be happy, whether it is single, married or divorced, we must not lose our love and expectations for life.
One: Tormenting each other in the wrong relationship, it's better to let it go
I know a neighbor, her name is Aunt Song, and she is 65 years old. She and her wife have recently gone through divorce procedures.
This decision confuses their children, because they have always thought that everything is okay with their parents' lives, calm and happy. However, they do not know that there is already such a serious conflict between their parents that it can only be resolved through divorce.
Even Aunt Song's husband was shocked, not to mention their children. Although the couple often quarreled, everyone assumed that they would spend the rest of their lives together. Why, then, do they have to go down the path of separation in their later years?
Aunt Song's marriage can be called the test of her life. Different daily habits and various grievances in her marriage accumulated over time, and finally overwhelmed her. This marriage became the last straw that broke her.
At a young age, social attitudes are too conservative, and divorce is often subject to finger-pointing. For the sake of our children and family, we have always forbearance and responsibility. However, now that we have done our part, we no longer need to care about the eyes of others. It was a difficult time, but we strengthened our hearts, gave up our obsessions for many years, and moved towards a new life.
She did not hesitate to decide to end this unhappy marriage, which had tormented her for the rest of her life. She made this difficult decision in order to pursue a happier and freer life.
Even if you and your partner spend all day and night, it's impossible to know for sure if they are confident in your relationship. Sometimes, a glamorous marriage on the surface may hide a rift behind you that you are not aware of. We should pay more attention to our relationships and make sure they are healthy and solid.
We should not pin all our hopes in our old age on the other half of our lives. After all, husbands and wives are in the same forest, but they will fly away when disaster strikes.
After all, it's better to give up a painful marriage than to pursue happy freedom. Let's be brave enough to release ourselves and pursue the sky of our lives.
Two: I don't remarry for the rest of my life, I don't want to remarry, I just want to love myself well
Aunt Song said that she has decided not to marry again, and no matter how much the children persuade her, she will not remarry her former spouse, and no matter how suitable she is, she will not easily remarry.
She said she wanted to enjoy alone time and live alone.
In the first half of my life, I fought for my family, my children, and I always tried to be a good daughter-in-law, a good wife, and a good mother, but I neglected my own needs and desires.
When a person grows old and walks out of an unhappy marriage, he should take good care of himself. No matter where you go, who you meet, or what you do, you should do it immediately.
No matter how hard we try, there will be regrets. Even so, we should do everything we can to reduce the extent of these regrets. Only then can we rest assured that we have done our best.
Some divorced people will be soft-hearted by their ex-husbands because they are too soft-hearted and decide to remarry. But it doesn't take long for a previous problem to resurface. At this time, even if they are in the same place, everyone will fall again.
Some people worry that they will be lonely and uncared for in their old age, so they will rush to find someone to marry. But in fact, when two inappropriate people are together, they will only torture each other, and it is better to live freely alone. We should not marry a random person in order to avoid loneliness, but we should face our lives independently.
Whether it is a remarriage or a second marriage, there are certain risks. We should think carefully.
If we haven't met that real person yet, it's also important to learn self-love. Even when we are alone, we can have a full and abundant life.