My mother-in-law didn't take the baby, and my husband said "it's my duty not to help", but my mother-in-law was hospitalized and called me to serve: I don't have this feeling!
When traditional concepts conflict with reality, how should we deal with family trivialities, human affection, and the voice of a young mother will cause you to think deeply about family relationships.
My name is Li Ting, I am 29 years old, and I am an ordinary company employee. I have been married to my husband for five years and have a lovely daughter who is three and a half years old. My husband and I are both only children, and both parents live in the same city, not too far from our small home.
At the beginning of our marriage, my husband and I discussed that after we had children, we would ask our in-laws to help take care of the children. The in-laws also promised at the time, saying that they would do their best to help.
However, when the child was born, the attitude of the in-laws changed. They always shirk the responsibility of taking care of children for various reasons, saying that they are not in good health and cannot take care of children. My husband and I discussed hiring a nanny, but my in-laws firmly objected, saying that the nanny could not take good care of the children, so they still had to bring it themselves.
I had just given birth, my body was weak, and I had to juggle work, which was really exhausting. My husband is also in a dilemma, taking into account my feelings and not wanting my parents to be too tired. In the end, we had to hire a part-time job to help with the housework and take care of the children.
In this way, my husband and I survived the first year of our child's birth. During this period, the in-laws hardly helped except for the occasional visit to see the children. I also tried to communicate with my in-laws, but they always refused to help on the grounds that "we are too old to take care of the children".
At the end of last year, my mother-in-law suddenly fell ill and was hospitalized. The doctor said that he would need to stay in the hospital for observation for a period of time and possibly surgery. As the only son, the husband naturally has to take on the responsibility of taking care of his mother-in-law. I also try my best to visit my mother-in-law in the hospital after work to help take care of her.
However, what I never expected was that after my mother-in-law was hospitalized, my husband actually said to me: "Tingting, during the time that my mother is hospitalized, you may have to work harder." She is not in good health and needs to be taken care of, and you, as a daughter-in-law, should share more. ”
I was stunned, looking at my husband's rightful face, I couldn't believe my ears. I retorted, "Why? What did you say when we had the kids? Now that you need my help, you take it for granted that I should take it for granted? I don't have the obligation!"
When my husband heard me say this, he was also a little unhappy: "Tingting, how can you say that? We are a family, and it is right to help each other." If you don't help now, how can we expect you in the future?"
I almost laughed: "Count on me? When did you count on me? You promised to help with the children, but what happened? Now that you need me, you remember me? Sorry, I don't have this feeling!"
When my husband heard me say this, he was also angry: "Tingting, how can you be so unreasonable? Mom is sick now and needs someone to take care of her, if you don't help, forget it, and still say such things, it's really chilling!"
I looked at my husband's angry face and sneered in my heart. I told myself that I couldn't let this injustice go on any longer. I stood up and said to my husband word by word, "Okay, I'm not going to help." If you think I'm not qualified to be the mother of your wife and children, then please!
With that, I turned around and walked out of the room. At that moment, I felt as if I was liberated. I am no longer the housewife who was taken for granted by my in-laws and husband, nor am I the wife and mother who compromised for the sake of family trivialities. I began to re-examine my worth and status, and began to think about my true role in the family.
I know that my decision may leave my husband and in-laws unhappy and disappointed. But I also believe that only by sticking to your own principles and bottom line can you be truly respected and recognized. I hope that my story can give some inspiration and courage to those friends who are facing family trivialities and human feelings like me, so that we can bravely face the challenges and injustices of life together and pursue our own happiness and dignity.