In the journey of life, we will inevitably have conflicts with our loved ones, and even reach the point of breaking off diplomatic relations. When you are faced with such a situation, do you choose to never see each other, or do you lend a helping hand at a critical moment?
The affection between brothers and sisters is a bond of blood and a gift from God. However, in real life, for a variety of reasons, this relationship can sometimes be damaged, causing the brotherhood to turn into hatred and resentment. But even so, there are certain moments when we should put aside our grievances, reach out and help each other. This is not a scheming, but a vision, a respect for life, and a cherishing of family affection.
First of all, when our parents are old and frail, as children, we have the responsibility to fulfill our filial piety together so that they can enjoy their old age in peace. Historically, there was a story about Li Mi and his brother Li Yu during the Tang Dynasty. The two turned against each other because of political disagreements, and they have not been in contact for many years. But when their mother died, Li Mi took the initiative to put aside his grievances and organize the funeral with Li Yu, fulfilling his last filial piety. This act of transcending personal grievances reflects Li Mi's mind and wisdom, and also comforts their mother's spirit in the sky.
Secondly, when our brothers and sisters encounter low points and difficulties in life, we should reach out and help. In ancient times, there was a man named Guan Ning, who had a dislike for his brother Guan Zhong. But when Guan Zhong was demoted due to political struggles, Guan Ning wrote to defend him many times, and finally rehabilitated Guan Zhong. Guan Ning's behavior not only saved Guan Zhong's life, but also resolved the contradictions between the brothers, which became a good story for the ages.
In addition, the conflict between siblings should not become a negative teaching material for family style and affect the growth of the next generation. We should resolve conflicts with a broad mind and wisdom and convey a positive family style. During the Southern Song Dynasty, two famous literary scholars, Ye Mengde and Ye Shaoweng, were brothers. When they were young, they had conflicts due to different literary ideas, but in the end, they put aside their differences and appreciated each other, which became a good story in the literary world. Their stories have not only left a valuable literary legacy for future generations, but also established a valuable family style for their children and grandchildren.
Finally, when dealing with loved ones, we should learn to let go of hatred and have kindness in our hearts. As Confucius said, "Connecting with kindness will lead to a long time." "Only by treating others with kindness can we resolve grievances and repair relationships. During the Eastern Han Dynasty, there was a man named Wang Ba, whose elder brother Wang Lun had severed relations with him due to a misunderstanding. But Wang Ba did not hold a grudge, but took care of Wang Lun when he was sick. In the end, Wang Lun was moved by Wang Ba's sincerity, and the two reconciled. This story teaches us that only by letting go of hatred and treating others with kindness can we reap the fruits of family affection.
The relationship between siblings is one of the most precious treasures in life. Even if we have conflicts or even cut off contacts due to various reasons, we should still put aside our grievances and work together at critical moments. This is not a scheming, but a vision, a respect for life, and a cherishing of family affection.
When our parents are old, we should fulfill our filial piety together so that they can enjoy their old age in peace; when our brothers and sisters are in trouble, we must lend a helping hand and help; when facing the next generation, we must resolve conflicts with a broad mind and pass on a positive family style; when our hearts are full of hatred, we must learn to let go and treat others with kindness.
These seemingly simple behaviors contain profound wisdom in life. They teach us that the meaning of life lies not only in our personal achievements but also in our connection with others, that forgiveness and love are the most powerful weapons in resolving hatred, and that family harmony and happiness require the efforts and maintenance of each of us.
Let us draw wisdom from the stories of these ancients, and when facing the challenges of family affection, we can resolve conflicts and repair relationships with a broad mind and foresight. Let us treat our brothers and sisters with kindness and love, and work together to protect this precious gift from God.
Remember, even if siblings break off friendships, they still have to help with these three things: filial piety to their parents, helping siblings in distress, and passing on a positive family style. It's not scheming, it's vision, it's not weakness, it's strength. Because only in this way can we harvest the fruits of family affection and enjoy the gift of life in the journey of life.