Couples can't get by, but they can't get divorced, so do it!
Every marriage is a unique storybook, and each couple is performing their own emotional melodies in their own way.
Some marriages are like old wine, which grows more and more mellow as the years go by, while others are like unpalatable leftovers from summer, which can barely be swallowed, but it is difficult to hide its bitterness.
When there are many conflicts between husband and wife, and the relationship is exhausted, but for various reasons cannot be divorced, how should we face such a dilemma?
Perhaps, you have tried to communicate with your partner in the hope of finding the crux of the problem, but often the result of communication is only to exacerbate the conflict.
Perhaps, you have tried to seek external help, such as psychological counseling, family therapy, etc., but it seems that none of these methods can completely solve the problem.
Against this backdrop, do you feel hopeless, or even doubt your choice?
In fact, when you feel that the couple can't get along, but you can't get a divorce, you might as well try to do this.
First, learn to accept reality. Marriage is not a gamble, and there are no absolute winners or losers. When you find that your problems with each other are no longer solvable through communication, the first thing to do is to accept the fact. Don't try to run away or deny it, because running away will only make the problem worse.
Second, try to empathize. In marriage, conflicts between husband and wife often stem from the different positions and perspectives of both parties.
When you feel like you can't understand your partner, try to put yourself in his shoes and understand his situation and feelings.
This may not solve the problem immediately, but it will at least make you less arguing and more understanding.
Again, focus on your own growth. Sometimes, we focus too much on each other's problems and neglect our own growth.
When your partner is no longer able to meet your emotional needs, you may wish to shift your focus to your own growth. Become more independent and powerful by learning new skills, developing hobbies, building social networks, and more.
When you stop being overly dependent on each other, your relationship will also become more equal and harmonious.
Finally, cherish the time you have. Although the problems between you cannot be completely resolved, you still share a common life and memories.
Cherish the time you have and try to make each day as meaningful as possible. Even though you can't go back in time, you can still create a better future together.
During this process, you may feel pain and confusion, and even want to give up. But remember that every marriage has its own unique value and significance.
Even if you can't be each other's ideal mates, you can still be an indispensable presence in each other's lives.
When you feel that you can't get along as a couple, but you can't get a divorce, don't despair. Try to accept reality, empathize, focus on your own growth, and cherish the time you have.
Perhaps, in the process, you will find some unexpected beauty and harvest. After all, marriage is not a simple game, but a journey that requires both parties to work together and manage.