Father's wisdom: There is no need to let others look up to you, just be yourself
Father's wisdom, like that old wine, needs time to precipitate before you can taste the mellowness in it. In this fast-paced era, people tend to overlook the seemingly mundane wisdom, but my father taught me what true worth and dignity are in his way.
I remember that time when I participated in the comrades-in-arms gathering on behalf of my father, I thought it was just a simple entertainment, but I didn't expect it to be a profound education about self-awareness and interpersonal communication. My father was always so low-key and didn't like to show off, even in front of his comrades, he didn't want to show his achievements too much. His attitude makes me wonder what kind of wisdom he is using to face the disturbances of the world.
At the party, those former comrades-in-arms now have different identities and statuses, and their words reveal a kind of worship of power and the pursuit of materialism. I, the younger generation who represented my father's attendance, seemed to have become a measure of my father's worth in their eyes. And when I revealed the news of my work in Japan, their attitude changed instantly, as if they had found a sense of identity and superiority.
However, my father told me that I had made a mistake. Instead of being happy with my honesty, he felt that I was too direct, that I hadn't learned how to protect myself in complex relationships, and that I hadn't understood his intentions. He told me that I don't need to prove my worth, let alone be satisfied by the approval of others. Being a good self and being a low-key person is the wisdom he taught me.
I began to reflect on why my father wanted me to hide his pension and why I kept a low profile about my work, and he was not teaching me hypocrisy, but how to maintain my independence and dignity. He made me understand that true wisdom is not to cater to the expectations of others, but to stick to one's beliefs and prove one's worth with actions.
After that meeting, I understood my father's wisdom better. It's not that he doesn't want others to look up to him, but he knows that true respect and value come from inner firmness and integrity in behavior. He doesn't need to prove himself through external show-offs, he just needs to be himself and use his actions to influence and infect the people around him.
Father's wisdom, like that old wine, needs time to precipitate before you can taste the mellowness in it. In this fast-paced era, people tend to overlook the seemingly mundane wisdom, but my father taught me what true worth and dignity are in his way. His wisdom made me understand that in this world, you don't need to prove your worth, you just need to be yourself and use your actions to influence and infect the people around you. This is my father's wisdom and the most precious treasure he left me.
Each of us has our own worth and dignity and does not need to prove ourselves through the approval of others. Be yourself, be a low-key person, and use your actions to influence and infect the people around you, this is the wisdom of my father. Do you also agree with your father's wisdom? Feel free to leave a message in the comment section to share your views.