My job after I retired allowed me to meet a lot of great women. There are people with good incomes, and there are women who stay at home. No matter what kind of woman she is, a woman who does not look old after the age of fifty generally does not experience the three disasters. Everyone's tasting.
First, there was no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The old man said that a woman is the life of grass seeds, and if she sows it in a fertile field, she is rich, and if she sows it in a thin field, it is hard work. So a woman borrowed her parents' house when she was young, and her husband's house when she became an adult. So life after marriage is directly related to appearance.
If there is no conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the marriage, then the woman's appearance will be good-looking, because there is less suffering and more happiness. Then on the contrary, suffering will be engraved in the face, and menopause will be very difficult. There will also be many symptoms.
I know a beautiful woman, her mother-in-law is a strong person, and on the day of her wedding, she was given a horse, and her mother-in-law took all the money. It was even more difficult for her in marriage. I have to cook for my in-laws before I go to work every day, and I will be scolded and woken up when I sleep lazily on weekends.
Her husband belongs to the foolish and filial type, and he is silent about everything. Let her fight alone. Every year the Chinese New Year is her disaster, the two eldest sisters take the whole family to live, all the housework is done by herself, the key is not to have the slightest complaint, there is no complaint, there is no filial piety, that is, there is no tutor.
Decades later, I boiled myself sick, brought my children by myself, did all the housework by myself, and had to go to work to earn money. As a result of physical and mental exhaustion, she is full of old age, and she is much older than her peers.
Therefore, women who have not experienced the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and have a high quality of life have a lot of spiritual nourishment, so even if they are menopausal, they will be very young.
Second, there is no living in a loveless marriage.
What is love, most women who have experienced marriage will say that love is not to abandon themselves when it is difficult.
Women who love in marriage have tasted being favored, protected, and distressed. Such a marriage is nourishing. Otherwise, it is devastating.
I have a client my age who looks twenty years younger than me. Her marriage is nourishing.
Her husband is not good-looking and not tall. But there is a motivated heart. He went to the sea to do business very early. Now the family is solid. When she was poor, the man went out to eat steamed buns and pickles, and he had to buy her clothes to save money. When I got home, I rushed to do housework, and it hurt her to the bone. The conditions of my mother-in-law's family are average, but I can help as much as I can, and I will contribute if I can't help with money.
Later, the conditions at home were better, the money was spent casually, and the husband bought whatever he wanted. So a good marriage is nourishing for her.
Three, there is no sacrifice to dedicate yourself.
No matter how much others love themselves, they should not love themselves as much as they love themselves. It's not selfish to think about yourself when you get into trouble. If you are too kind, you will pay more and lose more. After the age of fifty, there must be a sense of vicissitudes.
I have a classmate who is very virtuous, and he is never willing to eat delicious food at home, so he will keep it for his children's husband. I take care of the housework myself, and I don't buy clothes for decades. Wronging oneself becomes the norm. But the child has not become a talent, he is not used to it, and he spends money like running water. Her husband doesn't feel sorry for her. Years of hard work have made her not very well, and every time she has a class reunion, she looks old.
Loving yourself is a lifelong thing, don't always sacrifice and dedication, and have requirements for your husband and children to run a good family. Therefore, women who like to sacrifice and dedicate themselves are not biased by the years, and their appearance ages quickly.
After the age of fifty, I observed the women around me and found that most of the women who love themselves, have a happy marriage, and have no conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are young. Do you approve of it?
I am Sister Mi Li, a post-70s generation who loves to share, I like to share, remember to like and support to show encouragement. Thank you!