When young people are 20 or 30 years old, they are faced with these questions: "When will I get married, and when will I have children?"
In the old days of our parents, it was natural to get married and have a baby, and the parents of both sides were optimistic, and both of them were willing, and the marriage was concluded.
But now young people think more and bear more, and getting married and having children has become a problem.
There are many interviews that ask questions for young people: If there is no restriction on childbearing, and the elders don't care, how many babies do you have?
The answer is tearful.
One: The answer of the post-90s
Before looking at the post-00 answers, let's first listen to what 90 says. After all, today's post-90s, between the ages of 25 and 34, are the main force of giving birth to babies.
There was a very beautiful girl who said that she wanted to have two so that the child would have a companion, and she would not feel lonely like she used to be.
But she also mentioned a very practical problem, that is, it depends on the financial situation of her and her future husband. If the economy allows, she is willing to have two, but if the economy does not allow it, it may not be realized.
This kind of thinking is actually quite common. I have a friend who is also an only child, and she often tells me that she would love to have a younger brother or sister when she was a child. But now that she is married herself, she has to consider this and that in the face of having a child, it is really a lot of practical problems.
She always said that the ideal is very plump, and the reality is very skinny. Things like housing, children's education expenses, and daily expenses are all big issues that need to be seriously considered.
Another girl replied: "I think it's good to have one, after all, everyone is so tired now, giving birth to one can give him all the resources, and the child will live a little better." ”
Another girl's answer was poignant, she said: "Many times we can't even support ourselves, so don't have children and make him suffer, we have to be responsible for our children." ”
3 people, each with their own attitudes, and their ideas are actually fine, but they just express different points of view.
So let's take a look at the post-00s, how do they answer?
Two: The answer after 00
Zhejiang University of Technology has launched an investigation that has lasted more than a year. More than 1,400 questionnaires were distributed, and 80 marriage and childbearing subjects of different ages were interviewed, of which more than seventy percent of the questionnaires and interviews were "post-00s".
These post-00s expressed their own views on fertility, and their attitude towards having children seems to be lighter than that of the post-90s.
The first reaction of a 22-year-old girl surnamed Ye was that having a child would reduce the quality of life.
The 21-year-old girl surnamed Wang said: "Studies have shown that having a child will cause cells to age rapidly for 11 years. ”
The 23-year-old boy thinks: "My child is going to leave me when he grows up, so I don't think there is any need to change the pace of my life for him." ”
I have to say that the ideas of the post-00s are far from the ideas of the post-70s, post-80s and even post-90s.
There is a young father, after welcoming a child, he found that although he said that it was good to let the child grow up happily, but he really brought the baby, but he was unwilling to let the baby lose at the "starting line".
So, various classes were reported to the children.
It didn't take long for him to feel that neither he nor his children were happy. Moreover, in order to bring a high-quality baby, he also quit his original job and chose to start a business.
The father shook his head and said, "I don't want to have a second child, I don't want him to be so unhappy." ”
Relatively speaking, men think more about economic conditions. For example, whether you can choose a good school for your child, whether you can give him a good life, and whether you can support his various hobbies.
And what women think about, in addition to the economy, is what will their life become after having a baby?
For example, after giving birth, does the mother have to stay at home full-time? Is there still room for growth in the profession? Does the child's education have to be fully undertaken by herself?
Like a friend of mine, she graduated from college and Ben also had a good job. But after getting married and having a baby, the child needs to be taken care of, and the in-laws can't help. She had to stay at home full-time.
Later, when the child was older, she gave birth to a second child. I wanted to find a job as a cashier while taking care of my children, but my family strongly objected.
Parents said that she graduated from college and went to the cashier, while her son-in-law went out in a suit every day, which was too different.
Today's young people, facing marriage, are no longer the firewood, rice, oil and salt in front of them, but more about what will happen to us in the future?
So when it comes to choosing marriage and childbearing, they will be more cautious.
Three: What will be considered when getting married?
When young people decide to get married, what do they think about the most?
● Economical
As a post-00s generation said, when our parents were in the past, the family was supported by labor. To have a child is to be a labor force.
And now that a young man gets married and has a child, he is not only not a laborer, but also a "gold-swallowing beast", giving birth to more and swallowing more.
When young people do not afford it, they do not want more children out of responsibility for their children, so that they do not suffer.
●Education
In addition to the economy, young parents also value their children's education.
In the past, the education of children may not be very high, as long as they can read and write, go out to learn a craft, and be able to support their families.
But now, parents prefer that their children can change their fate with knowledge in the future, rather than simply working hard to support themselves.
Therefore, young people will feel that if the child has a bad life in the future, it is better not to bring him into this world.
Every generation has its own ideas.
I wonder how many children you would like to have in your generation?
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