After the death of Yao Renfu in "The Story of Chenghuan", Yao Zhiming locked himself in his room, not eating, drinking, or moving, Mai Chenghuan and her parents all kinds of persuasion and comfort were to no avail, and the pain of losing his father made him unable to take care of anyone else and anything for the time being.
But not long ago, Yao Zhiming also spoke ill of his father, originally he thought that he would never forgive him, but he didn't expect that Yao Renfu really wanted to change, and wanted to make up for him to ease the relationship between father and son, his heart that was hard because of lack of love suddenly became soft, he asked his father to come back, but his father never came back.
This scene of "the son wants to raise but the kiss is not treated" plot, abused and cried countless people, Yao Renfu's change and departure, also allowed him to successfully "whitewash", it seems that his past abandonment of his wife and children has become no longer important, the important thing is that he should enjoy the joy of family now.
But think about it carefully, how many middle-aged and elderly men's "fig leaf" has been torn apart by this "whitewashing"?
If the "bad guys" get better, the "bad" results don't exist?
Yao Renfu in the TV series "Cheng Huan Ji" was a bad man when he was young. He didn't do his job, abandoned his wife and children, only knew how to enjoy and lose, and finally went to prison.
After he was released from prison, he still didn't know anything, he just enjoyed it. But he had no money and no home, so he thought that he had a son. He went to find this son and wanted him to provide for his old age, but the son didn't give him a good face, so he played tricks and didn't leave there.
Yao Renfu learned that his mother gave Xing'anli to Mai Chenghuan when he died, so he was bent on taking Xing'anli from Mai Chenghuan's hands, he only felt that Xing'anli was his mother's property and should not be given to an outsider, but he never thought that he had never served his mother for a day. He didn't even ask about his mother's death.
For Yao Zhiming, he is the same, he feels that Yao Zhiming is his son, he is lonely now, he should rely on him, as for the harm caused to him before, who made him his son.
But how much has Yao Zhiming suffered over the years? He was abandoned by his parents, he was homeless, he worked to support himself at a young age, and more importantly, his life experience made him selfish, indifferent, and full of scheming.
When Yao Zhiming first met Mai Chenghuan, he only calculated and used her, but it was Mai Chenghuan's innocence and frankness and sunny warmth that slowly changed him. Just imagine, what if he hadn't met a girl like Mai Chenghuan? His whole life would have been spent in cold calculations, what a terrible and sad thing.
A bad person does bad things and causes bad results, and in the end, no matter what kind of changes he makes, those bad results will always exist.
Yao Renfu can transform himself into a father who just wants to enjoy family fun after he has nothing, but the damage he caused to Yao Zhiming cannot be erased, and it is difficult to change the character and way of doing things formed by a child in the process of growing up.
Can "blood" offset "sin"?
We often face a problem in real life: that is, if a father or mother has not fulfilled his responsibilities and obligations to his child, then when he is old, the child should support him.
Parents give us life, without parents, we simply can't come to this world, from this point of view, the parents who have never raised children will grow old in the future, and the child is in return for him to bring himself into the world, this psychology can give him the most basic survival guarantee.
But you say that you are old, you need family affection, and you want family happiness, so you want your children to be by your side and accept you emotionally, which is very unreasonable.
"Chenghuan Ji" If Yao Renfu sincerely repents, he will try his best to help his son do something, not asking him to forgive and see, he just wants to make up for the debts he once owed, the most unfortunate, even if he can't help anything, he can do it without causing him trouble.
But how did he do it? Not only did he take the initiative to come to the door and refused to leave, but he also tried in vain to get back to Xing'anli from Mai Chenghuan. Mai Chenghuan saw that he was Yao Zhiming's father and entertained him well, but he kicked his nose and face, wanting to live in the best suite, where is this a bit of a sincere repentance?
His so-called desire to ask for his son's forgiveness and change himself is nothing more than that he is old and lonely, needs companionship, and needs someone to take care of him, and at this time he thinks of his son. When he was young, he only cared about spending time and drinking, but he didn't think that he had a son.
Being born without raising is the greatest sin in human affection. We can't just because this person is old, because they are related by blood, to undo those sins when he wants to come back, and let a son who has been hurt accept a father who is completely strange, which is very unkind.
But many men who abandon their wives and children think like this, and they do it like this, how ridiculous and selfish.
"Whitewashing" cannot become a "fig leaf" for abandoning wives and children.
Yao Zhiming finally forgave Yao Renfu, and Yao Renfu's goal was achieved.
A man like Yao Renfu, when he was young, he didn't treat his wife well, didn't raise his son, and didn't have a good child, and he was missing for a long time on the way his children grew up, and when he was old, he could establish a "poor old father" image for himself with just a few words about wanting to be happy and doing one or two so-called good things, and successfully whitewash his past evil deeds, which is the dream and portrayal of many middle-aged and elderly men who didn't do their jobs when they were young.
There are some men, when they get married, in order to have a child so that they can rely on themselves in the future. When the child was born, he completely forgot that he had the responsibility and obligation to be a father to the child, and he didn't care how much harm his lack would cause to the child.
When he was old, he relied on blood to kidnap morally, saying how much he needed family affection, how much he missed his children, and pretended to be innocent and pitiful. But I don't want to think about it, if I hadn't done so many hurtful things, why would I have fallen to such a state?
At Yao Renfu's age, it should have been logical to tease Sun Cai, he originally had a good family background, and his son was also promising, if it wasn't for the sins he planted, why didn't his son recognize him in front of him?
The person who relied on the "whitewashing" of his later years in exchange for the so-called family happiness himself shows that he must have owed too much to his children. Therefore, "whitewashing" should not be a fig leaf to cover up the fact of abandoning wives and children, but should be a warning and enlightenment.
Many people don't understand why Yao Renfu in "Chenghuan Ji" has obviously changed for the better, why the screenwriter still arranged a car accident for him and let him die. This is to warn the world that what is lost can never be replaced.
Liu Wanyu said well, if you want to have a happy family, then you have to have your parents like your parents.
Those responsibilities that you didn't take up when you were young, don't expect to be wiped out when you are old, what you plant, you will reap the results, otherwise, even if you achieve your goal in the end, there is not much to enjoy for the rest of your life.
About the author: Xiang Xiang Acacia, a woman who likes to read and write, focuses on the creation of articles in the emotional direction of film and television, as well as the analysis and solution of problems in the emotional field, I hope my words can accompany you warmly.