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In the past few days, I saw a long confession, which caused many netizens to sigh.
The post is a woman who has not been a mother for a long time, and she and her husband have experienced a full eleven years together from falling in love in college to getting married and having children.
When he graduated from college, the poster gave up everything around him for her husband to start over in his city, and the relationship between the two was also very smooth, and both parents were very supportive.
In the opinion of the poster, the two have always been very sweet, living like conjoined babies, life has long penetrated each other, and they can't leave each other at all.
They got married after four years of dating, and their daughter was born the year before last, and now they are one and a half years old, cute and sensible.
The family atmosphere is harmonious and both parents are very good to this small family. Her husband is also gentle, attentive and considerate, and he will prepare a small surprise for her every holiday, which makes the poster feel that life is very happy.
Just when the owner of the post thought that she could continue to be so happy, there was a bolt from the blue - her husband was in love.
During the Spring Festival this year, her husband met a girl online and quickly fell in love, and it has only been three or four months now.
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Her husband is also unconventional, and he needs countless lies to cover up his initial thoughts.
At first, he said that he was in a bad mood and wanted to go out for a walk, and wanted to take advantage of the New Year's holiday to go out by car alone, and the post owner agreed.
Later, he frequently left home on the grounds of business trips, and her husband rarely needed to travel before.
As soon as he went out, his husband seemed to have evaporated from the world, the phone could not be reached, and it took a long time for WeChat to reply.
At this time, the poster vaguely guessed something, but she still couldn't believe it, and persuaded her husband that it might really be because he was in a bad mood and didn't want to pay attention to people.
Later, the husband used the excuse of running Didi part-time, saying that he slept in the car and did not come home all night long.
The owner of the post still chooses to believe that her distressed husband is too tired.
In this way, the communication between the two became less and less, and the poster gradually felt that her husband no longer loved her.
This is too big a gap for the poster who once felt very happy.
WeChat replied later and later, and I didn't notice when I went out at night, and often went home in the middle of the night...... The poster said, "Love and dislove are really, really obvious. ”
In such a deepening suspicion and torture, the poster was diagnosed with moderate depression and began to take medicine for treatment.
In the process, the husband still disappeared intermittently, even knowing that she was sick.
The time came to a certain day last week.,The poster's birthday.。
The whole world said happy birthday to the poster, but the husband had nothing.
In the evening, the husband couldn't stand up and confessed to the poster, saying that he didn't love her anymore, he didn't feel anything for her at all, and he was in love with someone else.
Hearing her husband's words, the head of the poster exploded: "Eleven years, ......"
Subsequently, she learns the truth of the matter.
When she was worried that her husband was running Didi, traveling by car, and it was not safe to drive on the road, her husband accompanied another woman to watch the sea and climb the mountains, go shopping and eat delicious food.
They traveled everywhere and had their pleasures, going to places that the owner and her husband had never been to before.
When she was worried that her husband would not have anything to eat at noon, she ordered takeout for him, but her weak-hearted husband questioned her to check if she was at home, because he was on his way to see his girlfriend at that time.
Five days before the poster's birthday, it happened to be the birthday of the husband's girlfriend, and the husband was on a business trip that day, but he was actually accompanying his girlfriend for her birthday, and it was the moment when the husband just learned that the poster was sick.
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When the poster knew more about the details of her husband's relationship with his girlfriend, she was even more heartbroken, and she realized that her husband loved his girlfriend very much.
The woman was in another city, and her husband had to drive to meet him overnight after work at half past five in the afternoon in order to see her, and then rush back the next day to clock in at eight in the morning.
A few months ago, my husband bought a lot of new clothes, and the owner of the post also joked if he was in love, but he didn't expect it to become a prophecy.
While her husband was asleep, the poster added her husband's girlfriend's WeChat in the middle of the night, and she knew that the reason why her husband confessed to her was that she felt sorry for her girlfriend.
He felt that he was obviously married and had children, and he lied to the other party, and he couldn't bear the torture of guilt and confessed to his girlfriend, and confessed to the poster under the persuasion of his girlfriend.
When her girlfriend learned that she had become a third party, she suddenly felt painful and proposed to break up, and the husband of the post owner was very sad and wrote a long essay to express her love.
At the same time, the poster was still struggling to ask when her husband would come home.
The owner of the post can't understand that the two people who used to love each other, and their husbands who once loved them so much, how can they say that they have changed?
She couldn't believe it, and repeatedly asked her husband if he could turn back, but he was all refused.
After the incident, the husband also felt guilty, thinking that he had hurt both parties.
After calming down, the poster talked a lot with her husband, and she also deeply realized that this man really didn't love herself anymore.
She was desperate, and the two finally agreed to divorce, and her husband expressed his willingness to leave the house and is currently going through the process.
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I only feel embarrassed when I see it.
From the point of view of the post owner, the feelings that have accompanied each other for eleven years have been easily shattered by others in just a few months, and during this period, the feelings and youth they have paid in exchange for such an ending, anyone will feel sad.
It's just very realistic that there are many things in life that we can't control.
You can't control the changes of the world, and you can't control a person's heart.
Whether it's premeditated or unpredictable, you can't stop someone who decides to leave you.
It is difficult for us to control the changes in the external world, and the only thing we can control is the growth and shaping of ourselves.
We should not expect others to remain the same forever, but even if others change, everything you do is still under control, so that you can be confident enough to deal with any change.
As the Internet celebrity papi sauce said, people's bad things will not disappear because they have a partner or get married, don't put uncertain things in the hands of uncertain people, it's better to solve them firmly.
You'd better not count on anyone else, your first and most reliable partner should be yourself.
The book "Dear Andrey" says:
"Life is like a road from a wide plain to a forest.
On the plains, companions can walk in groups, pushing forward and squeezing with joy, and frothing with each other;
Once in the forest, where grass and thorns stand in the way, the situation changes, and everyone concentrates on his own path and looks for his own direction. ”
There is nothing wrong with having infinite expectations and trust in a certain person, and always believing that the good things in the moment can last forever.
But we still have to believe in a person at the same time, but also believe in ourselves, so that we can digest unexpected changes, maintain a better state and take the road ahead.
You don't have to be too attached to the unworthy person, and sometimes it's a better choice to let go.