Recently, there has been a voice on the Internet: persuading women not to divorce easily.
Some people have told about their experiences, saying that they just started their second marriage some time ago.
divorced her ex-husband because of personality incompatibility, but after marrying her second husband, she found out:
Life after marriage is not much different from before.
Now she has thought about it badly, and it is difficult to leave in a short period of time if she wants to leave.
It seems to have really verified that whoever you marry is actually the same.
After listening to her story, I can't help but think:
More than 700 years ago, in the Southern Song Dynasty, there was also a poignant love story.
The protagonist of the story is also a woman who is married for the second time.
She used her life to enter the hearts of two men.
The few words left behind have been remembered by later generations for nearly a thousand years.
Her name is Tang Wan.
The story takes place in the fourteenth year of Shaoxing, and Lu You is 19 years old, which is the best age of his life.
That year, the teenager showed his edge at the beginning of the year and participated in the state examination for high school in one fell swoop.
In order to participate in the examination, Lu You came to Lin'an, the capital, and lived in his uncle's house.
It was where he had lived since he was a child, and it was there that he re-met his childhood playmate, his cousin Tang Wan.
As the only daughter of Zhengzhou Tongju at that time, she was immersed in poetry and books since she was a child.
Bright since childhood, she speaks elegantly and behaves generously.
At only 16 years old, he is already slim.
At the same time, she was also naughty and lively, and her voice of "Brother Wuguan" gradually fascinated Lu You.
The two have no guesses, have similar temperaments, are right, and have deep affection.
The Lu family took a phoenix hairpin as a token and set up this family business.
That year, Lu You was just 20 years old.
He was intoxicated with gentleness, and he failed the spring test without surprise.
But it was also in that year that he and 17-year-old Tang Wan entered the palace of marriage.
In that era of arranged marriages, their love story was praised by many people.
At that time, Tang Wan naively thought that he had met the lover, and was looking forward to starting a new life with joy.
It's a pity that the young man's affection is like-minded, but after all, he can't compete with the family's continuous life.
Just when the two of them were indulging in the mountains and rivers and reveling in the love words of poetry and books, Lu Mu stood up.
In her eyes, Lu You's indulgence in pleasure is not beneficial to the family.
In that era of "learning and excellence", Lu You failed in two scientific examinations and was unmotivated.
These are all the faults of his wife Tang Wan.
So, she sent someone to monitor Tang Wan every day, trying her best to find fault with her.
also often sent people to invite Tang Wan, and used "Women's Rules" and "Women's Training" to restrain her words and deeds over and over again.
The beautiful girl in the past was locked in the courtyard of the deep house like this.
Before marriage, the husband who said "one life and one couple" failed to stand up for her at this time.
Two years after marriage, Lu You had no intention of conducting scientific research, and Tang Wan failed to give birth to an heir.
"There are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is greater."
Lu's mother couldn't sit still after all, she called her son and persuaded him to divorce Tang Wan.
She warned her son word by word, indulging in petty love is not beneficial to you, and the strength and prosperity of the family is what you should pursue.
Perhaps it was because he was accustomed to listening to his mother's discipline, or perhaps it was the ambition of the boy to make contributions, Lu You, who adhered to filial piety, finally failed to overcome the persecution of the entire family and handed a letter of resignation to Tang Wan's desk.
A sentence "Let it remarry, there will never be a dispute." I am afraid that there is no evidence in the future, so I will use this as a basis", and let go of the woman who was deeply attached to him and had been deeply loved by him.
At this time, Tang Wan knew:
Although she is married to Lu You, Lu Mansion is not her home.
Becoming an abandoned woman, she washed her face with tears all day long, and became more and more depressed.
It's strange to say.
After divorcing Tang Wan, Lu You began to study seriously as if he had changed his personality.
Soon, he had a place in the literary world.
At the same time, he married the Wang family arranged by his parents, had children, and continued to live on the brocade clothes and food that should have belonged to him.
But Tang Wan on the other side was not so lucky.
There is a cloud in the "Book of Songs", "The hesitation of a scholar can still be said, and the timidity of a woman cannot be said."
After learning that Lu You married another beautiful woman, Tang Wan's liver and intestines were broken, and he almost wanted to commit suicide.
Although her mother's all-night companionship temporarily dissipated the depression in her heart, the scars left after the wound healed tormented her from sleepless day and night.
Zhao Shicheng appeared at this time.
He was born in the royal family and was the fifth grandson of Zhao Guangyi of Song Taizong.
It stands to reason that he doesn't have what kind of woman he wants, but when he was talking to Lu You about poetry and books, he saw the beautiful girl who was reading and writing lyrics in the courtyard.
That figure has since entered his heart.
After some inquiry, I learned that Tang Wan was already Lu You's wife at that time.
A gentleman does not win people's love, which was the ethics of literati and doctors at that time.
He had no choice but to bury this love deep in his heart.
He always pays attention to the landing tour couple, and learned the news of Tang Wan's retirement as soon as possible.
At that moment, he was sad and happy:
The good thing is that Tang Wan has regained his free body since then;
Sadly, she was divorced, and she was afraid that she would be disliked.
You must know that at that time, when a woman was divorced, no matter what kind of family she put in, it was a great shame.
He didn't understand, how could the man who said that he wanted to love Tang Wan for the rest of his life bear to let Tang Wan suffer such pain?
But at the same time, he was also thinking:
Maybe here is where Tang Wan can be given a place to live.
is a royal relative, and it is not easy for him to marry a divorced woman.
How many times he encountered opposition, how many times he knelt down in front of his parents and begged, and even how many times he fought with the whole family, only he knew the hardships.
What we know is that in the end, regardless of his reputation and status, he didn't want to be a high-ranking official, and the Ming media took Tang Wan to the Zhao Mansion in a married manner.
Brocade clothes and jade food are raised, and they try their best to coax.
If it is said that Lu You's cowardly struggle is for the sake of the future of himself and his family;
Then, Zhao Shicheng's firmness and persistence let us see the most beautiful appearance of love.
Someone once asked:
What is the most valuable character of a man?
Gao Zan replied:
Keep your home, keep your love.
When you think about it, it is.
Isn't the purpose of people's achievements so that they and their families can live a better life?
Zhao Shicheng thought about this very clearly.
Therefore, even at that time, everyone pointed fingers at the Zhao family and ridiculed him, "Zhao Shicheng of the royal clan married the next cousin of the Lu family".
But for him, these denigrations are just floating clouds.
Zhao Shicheng used his own strength to give Tang Wan a sense of dignity and a support for the Tang family.
He didn't make any promises to Tang Wan, but he kept holding Tang Wan in the palm of his hand.
He respected his wife and knew that she was depressed because of her past relationship, so he accompanied her to compose poems to make her happy.
It is said that the best way to forget an old love is to have a new love.
Accompanied by Zhao Shicheng, Tang Wan's heart knot was slowly opened, and there were more smiles on his face.
Although anyone with a discerning eye knows that she doesn't love Zhao Shicheng so much.
But in that era, Zhao Shicheng's sincere waiting was the best ending she could have.
If there is no garden visit after seven years, maybe this kind of respect will continue, and maybe one day, Tang Wan will really fall in love with the person who really pays for her.
It's a pity that there is no such thing as a if in this world.
Seven years later, Tang Wan and Lu You met in Shen Yuan.
Time flies, and things are not people.
Seeing the reluctance flashing in his wife's eyes, Zhao Shicheng couldn't bear to let her be sad again.
He broke the embarrassment and asked:
"I have heard the name of Brother Lu's poem for a long time, and I didn't expect to meet here. It just so happens that we brought wine and food, if you don't like it, would you like to go to the pavilion to enjoy the wine and spring together?"
After Lu You refused, he sent a child to bring the wine and food made by Tang Wan to Lu You to enjoy.
A cup of yellow silk wine, Lu You was full of emotion, the wine entered the bowels, and thousands of sorrows were displayed.
The sentence "red crisp hands, yellow silk wine" and the sentence "Although the mountain league is here, the brocade book is difficult to trust", became the evidence that he missed Tang Wan, and once again mobilized the pain in Tang Wan's heart.
After Shen Yuan returned, Lu You's words entered Tang Wan's heart.
Sick and depressed, she couldn't afford to be sick ever since.
During that time, Zhao Shicheng was by her side day and night.
But even if Zhao Shicheng used up the love of his life, he couldn't pull her back from the ghost gate.
When he was dying, Tang Wan looked at Zhao Shicheng, his eyes were full of guilt:
"I'm sorry, but if I knew you first, I would have been fine. ”
That year, Tang Wan was only 28 years old.
Zhao Shicheng buried Tang Wan in tears and made a vow to "not accept concubines before death, and not to marry again after death".
He really did it, and never remarried in his life.
In the thirteenth year after Tang Wan left, Zhao Shicheng called for troops to fight, and then died on the battlefield.
With his love and reluctance for Tang Wan, he ended his life like this.
It's a pity that for thousands of years, whenever people recall that time, they will always sigh Lu You's "Hairpin Phoenix".
sighs that the feelings of two lovers cannot escape the confinement of the world after all.
But in reality?
Zhao Shicheng told us with his own practical actions:
It's not that Lu You's enemy can't live in reality, but his love is not deep enough.
People say that when Tang Wan died, it happened to be the rising period of Lu You's career, and at that time, he was popular all over the south of the Yangtze River with the title of "Little Li Bai".
His official position has risen step by step, and his future is limitless.
But he also said that after Lu You returned to Shaoxing that day, he went to Shen Yuan alone, stroking Tang Wan's inscription, and his liver and intestines were broken.
Since then, Lu You has been stationed at the forefront of the "Hu Eradication" for a long time, showing his feelings for his family and country in the continuous campaign.
even said that until he died, he would dream back to Shen Yuan, because there was a girl he once loved.
But in this world, it has always been "better to miss than to see each other".
After he remarried, he missed his ex-wife's words, and eventually became a knife that stabbed Tang Wan, and the knife cost people's lives.
His seemingly full of love may have only touched him, but he was not worthy of the girl who loved him with his life.
Even if we praise his poetic talent and are moved by his feelings for his family and country.
But don't forget, even though he said that he loved Tang Wan again, he still gave birth to eight children.
In the face of fame and fortune, he gave up Tang Wan desperately and chose fame.
Whether his liver and intestines were broken or full of sorrow, he couldn't compete with that year, and he pushed her into the abyss again and again.
Love is never just words.
Thousands of years later, when people look back at the past and cry for the affectionate touching of a song "Hairpin Phoenix", who knows:
Behind that miserable love, there is also a silent guardian Zhao Shicheng.
He used his life and future honor as a dowry and gave Tang Wan a place to settle down.
People say that marriage is like that, and the bottom of everyone's pot is dust.
But Zhao Shicheng told us that it is really different who to marry.
Although in contemporary times, many people say that "personal growth and development are far more important than love".
But Ten Points Jun thinks:
No matter when, sincere friendship and intimate protection are always the softest strings in people's hearts.
And this story was written for us by Zhao Shicheng and Tang Wan.
Therefore, even if thousands of years have passed, please don't forget him, the infatuated boy - Zhao Shicheng.
Author | Zhou Meimei