I have read such a sentence: "When starting a relationship, it often takes only one glance, but when you forget a relationship, it takes a long time." ”
Yes, when a relationship comes to an end, we tend to fall into deep pain and struggle, trying to force ourselves to let go by not connecting.
However, if a woman wants to really let go of a person, she is not deliberately not in contact, but in this way.
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Deliberately not connecting seems to be a kind of determination and decisiveness, but in fact it is a kind of evasion and self-deception. The real letting go should be to accept the end of the relationship from the depths of the heart, rather than using superficial indifference to hide the fragility of the heart.
We should understand that love is not the whole of life, and falling out of love is not the end of the world. Only when we are truly brave enough to face the reality can we step out of the shadows of the past and embrace a new life.
Therefore, in the face of broken love, the first thing a woman must learn is self-healing.
The pain of falling out of love is profound, but time is the best medicine. In the days after a breakup, we can divert our attention and comfort our souls by reading, traveling, exercising, etc.
Secondly, women must learn to grow in lovelorn.
In fact, every broken love is an opportunity to grow, because it makes us know more about ourselves and what true love is.
In the pain of falling out of love, we can reflect on our past emotional experiences and summarize the lessons of the past so that we can be more mature and rational in our future love.
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In addition, women must learn to let go of past grievances and entanglements.
In a relationship, we will inevitably have some regrets and dissatisfactions. However, when we decide to let go of someone, we should try to let go of these negative emotions and face the past with a tolerant and understanding mindset.
When you see each other again, there will be no waves in your heart, and you will generously bless each other, which is the real letting go, and only then can you get out of the shadow of the past.
Finally, women also have to learn to start over and devote themselves to a new relationship.
There is a good saying: "The best way to let go of a person is nothing more than time and new love." ”
If you can't let go of the past in your heart, you'll never be happy.
Therefore, although it will make us very sad to fall out of love, we must understand that life is still beautiful and worth continuing to pursue.
During this time, we can try to participate in some new activities, make new friends, and expand our interests.
When we re-engage in life, we will find that falling out of love is not the whole of our lives, but rather a process that makes us more mature and strong.
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A friend of mine also experienced a painful breakup, and after breaking up with her boyfriend, she chose to travel alone. Over the course of a year, she has walked through many beautiful landscapes and met many interesting people.
She said that these journeys have allowed her to regain her enthusiasm and confidence in life, and also taught her how to face life's challenges independently. In the end, she not only walked out of the shadow of broken love, but also gained a better love.
Therefore, if a woman wants to really let go of a person, she does not deliberately do not contact, but needs a more mature and rational attitude to face it.
I once saw someone on the Internet asking: "How to get out of a relationship the fastest?"
A netizen replied, "Keep yourself busy!"
yes, instead of trapping yourself in the pain of the past, it's really better to keep yourself busy.
So, please stop dwelling on the past and asking yourself every day, why did he leave me, but think about how I can make myself better, and then put my energy into my busy work and life.
Sisters, please let yourself start anew, find the right person, devote yourself to a new and beautiful love, and you will slowly make peace with the past and put all your troubles behind.